Leadership is about influence Emily is a career-driven thirtysomething with big ambitions and a young family. She is making an impact as a leader at a tech company, but after being passed up for multiple promotions, she finds herself at a loss for how to improve. Fate answers her in the form of a kind—and surprisingly direct—older man in a coffee shop. A well-respected CEO before he retired, David has deep and rich leadership knowledge. Emily needs direction, and David is the perfect mentor.Growing Influence offers readers both practical advice on how to develop leadership skills and a relatable account of one woman’s growth by applying the principles in the book. Unlike nonfiction business books or business memoirs, this story is a business fable that is both impactful and transformative.
|Publisher:||Greenleaf Book Group Press|
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About the Author
Ron Price is an internationally recognized business advisor, executive coach, speaker, and author. Known for his creative and systematic thinking, business versatility, and practical optimism, Ron has worked in fifteen countries and served in almost every level of executive management over the past forty years. As the former CEO of a multi-million-dollar international company, Ron works shoulder-to-shoulder with executive leadership teams to bring strategic clarity and transformational results to organizations. In 2004, Ron started Price Associates, and he serves as president and CEO of the global leadership advisory firm that features the bright minds and innovative solutions of some of the world’s top consultants in organizational development, process management, innovation, branding, and more.Stacy Ennis is a creative consultant, success coach, speaker, and writer, as well as the cofounder of Next Level, a women’s leadership training program. Her background includes leading as the former executive editor of Healthy Living Made Simple, a Sam’s Club magazine that reaches around 11 million readers, as well as serving as the longtime ghostwriter for a Nobel Prize winner in medicine. Stacy has written or edited dozens of books, including her own book, The Editor’s Eye (Night Owls Press, 2013). Her TEDx talk, How to Raise Brave Kids, has been viewed thousands of times by people across the world. She has a master’s degree in professional writing and editing from the University of Cincinnati and a bachelor’s degree in writing from Boise State University.
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Emily watched the barista with growing urgency as he steamed the water and then walked over to a set of three empty glass coffee funnels and decanters. He placed a filter over the middle funnel, tipped the water over the filter, and looked at Emily, pushing his square glasses up.
"We do this to clean the filter," he said. "Makes better coffee."
She offered a half-smile and checked her watch, which was buzzing from the emails already coming in. Shifting her weight — her laptop bag felt especially heavy that morning — she ran a hand through her dark brown hair, twisting it briefly before letting it fall, a nervous habit she'd picked up in adulthood. She looked out the window. When she glanced back in the direction of the barista, he was steaming more water. With a grimace, she looked at her watch again as he scooped coffee grounds into the filter.
Scoop, dump, scoop, dump, scoop, dump. Sigh.
He walked to the back counter to retrieve the steaming water and poured it over the grounds with an impressive slowness. The coffee drip-drip-dripped into the waiting glass container. Emily let out a subtle but exasperated breath.
"I can bring this to your table," the barista said. "That's what we normally do."
Now you tell me, she thought, as she said aloud, "Great."
Emily rushed up the stairs and unloaded the contents of her work bag onto the long oak table. She opened her laptop, set out her notes, and pulled up her presentation file before checking her watch again.
Scrolling through the slides, she felt confident. She told herself it was going to go perfectly — she was prepared, well rested, and had even gotten a workout in that morning, not to mention the bike ride to the coffee shop. Now, she just needed to do final preparations. But as Emily scrolled to the fourteenth slide, she paused, panicked. The slide was blank. Where was the text she'd put in the night before?
Hastily, she continued scrolling. Slides fifteen, sixteen, seventeen — they were all blank.
With growing panic, she began looking through her handwritten notes. She would have to recreate the presentation. But first, she closed her eyes and took a deep breath, then another.
"Here you go."
Emily jumped at the voice behind her. She laughed nervously. "Smells delicious. Thanks."
The barista set the coffee on the table to her right as Emily began remaking the presentation she was set to give in an hour and forty minutes. Those slides had taken her nearly three hours to create the first time; hopefully she'd be able to whip them together before the meeting. So much for the additional prep she'd planned to do that morning.
Emily reached for the coffee, her eyes still on her screen. A second later, hot liquid was all over the table. She scooped up her laptop and notes just in time.
"Dang it, dang it, dang it." After relocating her items to the other end of the table, she turned around to search for napkins, nearly colliding with someone. She jumped back as a man extended a stack of napkins.
"Looking for these?" he said.
"Oh, yeah. Thanks." She paused momentarily before smiling and taking the stack from him. The man went to grab more napkins and then walked over to help mop up the mess.
"Here, I'll take the wet towels," he offered, gathering up the dripping paper.
As Emily finished drying the table, all she could think about was her presentation. She set to work getting her area reorganized.
The man returned from throwing away the second set of wet towels. "All dry?"
Emily looked up from her work space and surveyed the man in front of her. He had neatly styled white hair and wore a button-up shirt, tailored jeans, and brown leather dress shoes. His eyes wrinkled into a genuine smile just as Emily realized how odd it must seem that she was standing there staring at him. She smiled back.
"Yes, thanks so much."
He nodded and reached out his hand. "I'm David."
"David. I'm Emily." She shook his hand. "Thanks, again."
"Of course." He looked toward her ordered workstation. "May I ask what you're working on?"
"I have a big presentation in" — she checked her watch and lifted her eyebrows in surprise — "an hour and a half. If you'll excuse me, I need to get back to work."
"Of course." David made his way back to his table, which was directly across from hers. He picked up his tablet, returning to the news article he'd been reading.
Over the next hour, Emily focused intently on her computer screen, her hands moving furiously. With five minutes to spare, she saved the file three times just to be sure. Finally, she gathered her items, placed them in her bag, and rushed out the door without looking back. She didn't realize David was watching her the whole time.
* * *
"Good job today," Mitchell said. The conference room had cleared out, and Emily was gathering her presentation materials. She still felt the familiar rush of an excellent presentation — her mind sharp, body energized, breathing a bit shallower than normal. She smiled at Mitchell.
"Do you think they're on board with how artificial intelligence can transform our business?"
"It's hard to say. They've been doing things the same way for years."
The room grew quiet. Mitchell lingered as Emily cleaned up.
"You know, I've been wanting to know —" Emily said.
"There's something I'd like to —" Mitchell began.
"You first," Emily said.
"Well, we both know you were up for a promotion."
"Right." Emily sensed what was coming next. Discussions never start that way when you've gotten the job. "I'm excited to be considered."
"You've been wowing everyone on this Asia project, myself included, with your hard work. Honestly, you're one of the best I've seen."
"Well, thank you. This past month has been a good challenge."
"And you've tackled the challenge head-on" — he paused, looking at the table before raising his eyes to meet hers — "but I don't think you're quite ready for the next step."
"What?" She startled herself with this response. Get it together, she thought.
"We've given the promotion to Stan."
Stan? Stan, the same guy she'd started her trainee program with — the one who'd just received terrible ratings in his latest customer response survey and showed up late to meetings? Seriously?
"I see. Thanks for letting me know. So if I can ask, what am I missing?"
Mitchell stretched his mouth into an attempted smile. "It'll be your time soon. I meant what I said. You're doing great."
"I appreciate that."
"OK, then." Mitchell knocked lightly on the desk twice. "See you at 2 p.m. for our team meeting."
Emily hung back in the conference room. She sat at the head of the table, her elbows on the surface, hands together in a fist and forehead resting on her hands. Then she leaned back and stared at the ceiling.
This was the third promotion she'd been passed over for. She thought about the people who'd received promotions over the past two years: James, Kyle, Stan. She had gone through the same manager trainee program with them — they'd all been hired at the same time, started on the same day, and were deploying different parts of the same product. What gives?
Over the past month, she'd been watching the company's monthly metrics. Her team had far surpassed Stan's in customer acquisition, retention, and satisfaction. They launched updates faster with fewer bugs, while Stan's team had been slowing down with launches and reporting more issues with their code. Her direct reports consistently praised her leadership, and while she liked Stan, she'd heard the rumblings of dissent within his team. It had been a similar story with James and Kyle. And yet they had gotten promotions and she hadn't.
The last time this had happened, a good friend had suggested it might be because she's a woman. Emily had rejected the idea at the time, but now she wasn't so sure. She wanted to believe her confidence and intelligence outweighed centuries of bias, but she also didn't want to be naïve. It seemed there were too many signs to ignore.
She'd worked for nearly a decade at this company, and now she felt stagnant. After missing the last promotion, she'd even gone to the lengths of conducting her own version of a 360 review, in which she solicited anonymous feedback from nearly a dozen people on her team and in her network. A few comments had stung — two people said she was too direct and unemotional, one said she had trouble fully delegating projects — but otherwise they were overwhelmingly positive. She couldn't identify anything serious enough to be holding her back from getting promoted, and she'd been actively working to improve on issues called out during the review. One of the other managers had even made a comment about how well she'd delegated on a recent project, which had given her confidence that she was improving.
Emily shifted her attention to the ten executive chairs askew in the room. She sighed, then stood and walked to each chair, pushing them in. Three dirty coffee cups were on the table, and she gathered them one at a time. Someone had spilled a dime-sized coffee puddle, and as she retrieved a napkin from the beverage station at the back of the room, she stopped.
She stood there, three coffee cups in one hand and a napkin in the other. It had been ten years since she'd been the new manager trainee, and yet here she was, cleaning up after her colleagues and bosses like their mom. She did enough of that at home with her own child.
Emily walked around the table and set each coffee cup back where it had been, then made her way over to the beverage station and returned the napkin.
"I have begun my own quiet war," she whispered, reciting a section from her favorite book, The House on Mango Street. "Simple. Sure. I am the one who leaves the table like a man, without putting back the chair or picking up the plate."
She looked at the spilled coffee on the table with defiance, slung her bag over her shoulder, and walked out of the room.CHAPTER 2
You Have Influence
Emily stood outside the renovated brick building, the aroma of gourmet coffee tempting her into Slow by Slow. She'd been craving their pour-over coffee since she'd had her first cup the week before — before she gave the presentation of her life, before she was passed over for a promotion she knew she deserved. Emily's shoulders tightened as she remembered the conversation in the conference room. Why hadn't she simply asked Mitchell why he'd given the promotion to Stan? Why hadn't she advocated for herself?
Within minutes, Emily had ordered her coffee and was making her way upstairs to a table. It was busy this morning — not exactly the tranquil work space she had hoped for — but she had come prepared. She dug into her bag and pulled out two earplugs, accessories she never left home without. After the plugs were situated in her ears, she took a breath, relaxed her shoulders, and opened up the file she'd be delivering to her team that afternoon. When her coffee arrived, she smiled her thanks and carefully moved the mug into her line of sight, just out of the laptop spill zone.
Half an hour rushed by. Emily's watch buzzed, reminding her of a meeting in an hour. There was still plenty of time before she needed to leave, and she was almost done with her work. Ten minutes later, she was finished, with time to spare. Or maybe, she thought as she stifled a yawn, time for a refill.
Emily stood and made her way to the lower level of the shop to get a refill, another yawn edging its way toward her lips. Her son had woken up screaming the night before — he'd heard a "bump, bump, bump," he'd told her, whimpering between tears, his chest heaving — and it had taken thirty minutes to get him calmed and to sleep, then another forty-five to fall asleep herself. When her alarm went off at 5:30, it had been just short of painful. OK, it had been painful.
"Want a refill?" the barista asked. Emily couldn't help but admire the barista's cropped auburn hair and no-makeup look.
"Please. Just drip this time."
"Sure thing." The barista walked to the back counter and filled Emily's cup, then walked back to Emily and handed it over.
The woman nodded. "Hey, you've been in before, right? You look familiar."
Emily laughed. "Once. I spilled coffee everywhere. I like to make an impression."
"Right! Well, be careful with this one." She grinned.
Drink in hand, Emily made her way back to her table. She stopped abruptly when a friendly pair of eyes met hers.
"Emily, right?" It was the man who'd helped her clean up the coffee mess the week before. It took her a moment to respond as she considered the strange coincidence of running into him right after talking about the coffee fiasco. But, she reminded herself, she didn't believe in coincidences.
"Good memory," Emily replied. "Dan, right?"
"Close. David," he said. He stood, walking over to her with an outstretched hand. Emily was surprised to realize he was much taller than her — well over six feet to her five feet five inches.
"David," she said, grasping his hand. "Nice to see you. Do you come here often?"
"Every day. Well, every morning. Shortly after I retired, my wife told me she needed me to get out of the house more, so I found somewhere to go on the weekdays." He gestured around the coffee house. "I love it here."
"It's growing on me."
"I'm surprised you came back after last time. You seemed —"
"— stressed? Overwhelmed? Frustrated?"
David laughed. "Well, yeah. Something like that."
"The coffee drew me back," Emily replied, a slight grin on her face.
He met her eyes, his expression softening. "If you don't mind me asking, is everything better now?"
Emily almost laughed out loud in surprise at his question. She surveyed him for a half second, her wide blue eyes taking in his hazel ones, unsure of how to respond. Finally, she waved her hand, brushing off his concern. "Oh, yeah. Yep. Everything's fine." She hardly knew this person and wasn't about to share her disappointing boardroom experience from the week before.
"Good. You seemed focused on something important."
"I was. But it's done now. On to the next. Isn't that how it always works in corporate America?"
"Oh, corporate. Yes, I'm familiar with that world." David's eyes grew unfocused, as though looking through Emily to another time. She almost asked about his background but held back her inquisitiveness.
"Well, tech corporate. I guess it's pretty close to the rest of the corporate world."
"I suppose you're right. Can I ask you another question?"
Emily hesitated, but curiosity won. "Sure."
"Are you happy where you're at? Do you feel like you're fulfilling what you're meant to in life?"
Emily looked at him in disbelief, startled at the bluntness of the question. There was a long silence as she decided how to answer. Who was this stranger, and where did he get off asking such personal questions?
Still, it was a question she knew she needed to answer, at least for herself. She felt a rush of frustration from the top of her head down the length of her spine — not because of the man in front of her, but from the last months, years even, at her company. Happy in life? Yes. Happy in work? No. Not even close.
She had been talking about the barely missed promotions to her husband and friends, but none of them had offered a helpful perspective. In fact, the conversations had felt circular. They had all commiserated with her, offering support but not much else. She needed to know what to do.
The weight of the stretching silence finally pulled Emily out of thought. She realized she was standing in the middle of a newly familiar coffee shop contemplating a personal question asked by a man she'd met briefly one time. He was watching her, waiting. Yes, this was an odd scenario, and yet something about the exchange felt comfortable.
"Well, I" — her watch buzzed, and Emily snapped out of almost sharing her private work challenges with a stranger — "I have to go. Nice seeing you again."
"You too, Emily."
She lingered for a moment, about to speak, but held back. Finally, she offered a polite smile and walked back to her table to gather her things. Out of the corner of her eye, she saw David make his way back to his own table, sit down, and pick up his tablet. As she placed each item in her bag, Emily realized how close she'd come to baring her soul. Unemotional Emily, as her close friends called her, didn't do things like that. The nickname wasn't fair, though. Emily felt things deeply; she just didn't show it very often or to people she didn't trust.
As she walked toward the stairs to exit the coffee shop, she turned to offer a tight wave.
"See you soon," David replied, waving.
"Yep. See you," Emily called back as she descended the steps.
That was strange, she thought. Very strange.(Continues…)
Excerpted from "Growing Influence"
Copyright © 2018 Ron Price.
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Table of Contents
1 The Encounter,
2 You Have Influence,
3 Where Should I Focus?,
4 For Now, Ignore Position,
5 Character First,
6 Who I Want to Become,
7 Next, Become an Expert,
8 Let's Talk about Structural Leadership,
9 What Great Leaders Do,
10 It's Time,
Q&A with the Authors,
About the Authors,