Magui Block draws upon her work as a psychotherapist to share cases and personal experiences in order to help families enhance their lives and work toward their goals and dreams. While encouraging others to heal while learning, Block explains how people can unwittingly become trapped within destructive family dynamics, provides discussions and exercises to help with working through them, and demonstrates how to apply a proven therapy method to help families identify entanglements and problems, obtain resources, and transform themselves so that all members can achieve their greatest potential.
Heal Your Family shares loving guidance and a proven method from a seasoned psychotherapist that help families free themselves from past burdens and behaviors, heal naturally, and embrace the power of unconditional love.
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The Magui Block Method for Healing Your Family
From as early as I can remember, I've had a special way of perceiving what goes on around me. Even as a young child, I was passionate about the dynamics between people, and I used to invent entanglements and then find different solutions for them. I had very well-developed empathy. I could feel in my body what other people were feeling and see the images they created in their minds. This caused a lot of confusion about what belonged to me and what belonged to others.
I didn't know how to handle what some people called gifts; I experienced them as curses. When it came time to choose a profession, I had no idea what to do. I ended up getting a bachelor's degree in administration and worked as an administrator and consultant for seven years. With a steady job that provided me with structure and a sensation of being normal in the world, I began applying my particular powers in service to others without fully realizing what I was doing.
While I worked as an administrative director at a school, I studied psychotherapy and offered some private consultations. Psychotherapy was my hobby — something I did for the pleasure of learning. While I studied different psychotherapeutic techniques, I also learned to use my gifts with people at work. I was increasingly motivated by the transformations I saw and marveled at how easy the process could be when using the correct technique. I continued to train with the best teachers and to find new formulae for creating rapid changes.
By then, I was married and had two beautiful children. I applied everything I learned to myself and my family. I can say that I had the perfect family for practicing on what I was studying. Over the next few years, I went through extremely difficult situations involving myself and those I loved: health problems, hospitalizations, emergency operations, serious and chronic illnesses, deaths, depression, losing a job, even violent situations like robberies and assaults. Conflicts appeared in all areas of my life — health, family, friends, profession, finances, and relationship — so I had the chance to apply what I was studying to the problems in my own life. I experimented and developped my own way of settling conflicts. I combined techniques and created new ones.
People began to seek me out to work with them, but I had neither a consulting room nor any interest in giving consultations. At that time, I considered myself an administrator by profession and would refer them to my teachers, but with the increase in calls, I understood what my true vocation was: to transform through love. As soon as I said yes to psychotherapy as a profession and set up a consulting room, my life changed dramatically.
My consultations multiplied. I had a waiting list that went out for several months. I was invited to create materials for training the facilitators of the Institute of Resonance Repatterning. With such high demand for consultations, I thought it an excellent idea to train more people, so in turn more people could be treated.
My life transformed rapidly. I became a writer of training manuals and a teacher of seminars, and I traveled the world. I have had the opportunity to get to know Canada, South Africa, Chile, Argentina, Spain, the United Kingdom, and many places in the United States and Mexico. Since many people asked to be trained but had no previous experience with the material, I decided to create the Magui Block Method for anyone who could read and write. I wrote new training manuals and created two diploma programs to prepare facilitators in the method.
I gave conferences and workshops for over fifteen years, and I was asked many times to write a book. I did have manuals, but they were only available to people who were training to be facilitators. What about all those people who only wanted to heal themselves? Why did they have to invest so much time and money in learning? Still, I had enormous resistance to writing a book. I felt it could create huge changes for me. Nothing would be the same again. This was not logical thinking; it was based only on a sensation.
As I write this now, I can feel that sensation of a new beginning. I've made up my mind that this book needs to be written to transform lives. If only one person benefits, I will be satisfied. I hope that person is you!
What Is the Magui Block Method and How Does It Work?
The Magui Block Method combines the most advanced techniques in psychotherapy in a unique way to get effective results in an extraordinarily short time. Although I take elements and ideas from many teachers, the main support for this book comes from the theories established by Bert Hellinger, the creator of Family Constellations. I also include knowledge from other schools, trainings, and techniques and from my own personal experience, as well as the experiences of my clients. The influences I want to mention are:
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
As I continually create new ways of resolving client/family conflict, the method continues to grow and evolve, but what has stood the test of time is how it works. I can summarize it in the following three movements that occur when you achieve positive change:
1. You identify the entanglement, the negative aspects, the problem — whatever it is that keeps you trapped in a situation of conflict.
2. You identify the resource — what you need instead of the conflict. In other words, the solution.
3. You transform yourself. This is where the magic lies! When you put all the pieces together, a change occurs — a leap if you will — and you find yourself in a new place where the problem seems very distant and small.
During practice, each of these movements can take place through various smaller movements, in a different order, or they can be combined in one unified movement. The important thing is for you to transform, and you do that by acknowledging your problem and integrating the resources that are missing. There are many ways of achieving this, but I like that it happens through love and, if possible, a dash of humor as well.
Throughout the book, I use a range of diverse examples to help you better understand the method. Though the examples are real, I have changed the names of the people involved to protect their privacy.
What Can the Magui Block Method Do for You and Your Family?
To date, I have used my method in my private practice; in the conferences and workshops I give; and as I train facilitators — all to great success. Through this book, I am sharing my method with the public at large using the method to get the same results. I have written this book so that you can embody the three movements of healing — identifying your entanglements and problems, obtaining resources, and transforming yourself — without even realizing how it's happening. You'll be transforming yourself as if by magic.
Your conscious mind will focus on what I'm explaining to you while your unconscious mind activates your healing forces. Your left hemisphere will understand the theoretical concepts, and your right hemisphere will create images by acknowledging the chaos and then substituting images of order and harmony. Your internal images or pictures are movies you create in your mind, and they have incredible power to heal. All this occurs as you read in comfort.
Your mind and your emotions have an effect on your body. Your body also has an effect on your mind and your emotions. While you are reading, at times I'll ask you to adopt a specific body posture, evoke love, and state a declaration out loud. By following these requests, you open up certain points and conduits of energy in your body. Your mind expands, and you're prepared to integrate positive change. I learned these postures in my ZhiNeng QiGong practice.
You evoke love as the highest element to function as a catalyst, thereby making this a gentle process. By stating out loud that which synthesizes the issue to be resolved, you are affirming your decision to change. It's like saying "I do" when you get married. Everyone would suppose that if you've shown up at the church, dressed for the occasion, it's because you want to be married. But still you are asked, right? That "I do" is very important because it refers to your free will and gives you the power to choose. By stating the declaration out loud-taking on the body posture as I describe it-you're mobilizing your power of transformation. Actively following along with what I will be suggesting to you, you'll achieve extraordinary changes, and it only takes a few minutes.
Something that blocks transformation is your specific intention for members of the family. What do I mean by this? I'm referring to your desires or expectations relative to other family members: for example, for the son to be married, for the partner to get a job, for the mother to be loving, for the father to drop his addiction. It might be that intentions like these are what led you to read this book, but in order to accomplish this change, you need to set them aside and concentrate on the part you have to play. Forget about what's bothering you about others for a while. It will be like when you have an issue you can't resolve and you go to the movies to get your mind off things, and on the way home the solution comes to you. This is what you are going to do. Set your intention to one side and concentrate on the bigger goal: healing your family by healing yourself.
You'll be surprised by how easily and quickly this can happen. On occasion, you'll only note changes occurring in you. Sometimes you'll notice changes in others. Overall, you will enjoy the transformations in yourself and the other members of your family. For some people, these changes come immediately; others take a few months to see them. Each person integrates things in his or her own rhythm because the intention is for this process to be loving, crisis-free, quick, yet soft and joyful. Place your attention on your reading and on doing what I tell you to do with the overall intention of healing your family by healing yourself, and let go of specific intentions. Are you ready?
The Invisible Family Legacy
Every human being is unique and unrepeatable, but we all have something in common: we are conceived by a father and a mother. As soon as the mother's egg and the father's sperm come together, you receive your invisible family legacy. Regardless of what happens later — how you are raised, the relationship you have with your parents, or your traumas in infancy-you receive a legacy when you are conceived, and this affects you profoundly.
Often when you seek out the root of a problem, the tendency is to give most importance to what occurred in early infancy and the way you were raised. The idea being to find solutions in relationships with important authority figures from the past-the first ones on that list being your mother and your father, generally in that order. However, I assure you that many of the personal problems you have not yet resolved have their origin in your invisible family legacy and not in what happened in your childhood. My professional experience has shown me that most of my clients' problems have their source in what they are carrying from their family. That is why, on recognizing their legacy and taking advantage of it, they achieve extraordinary changes and transformations they were previously unable to achieve even after years of traditional therapy.
Your invisible family legacy is everything you receive at the moment of your conception. It is the information that comes in your mother's egg and your father's sperm. It includes information you received at the unconscious level from your family. This information is not only what occurred in the past, it's what keeps happening in the present. As long as members of a family are alive, the family system shifts and reorganizes, the information changes, and there are updates that affect all parties, positively and negatively.
That's why this invisible family legacy is in perpetual change — you and all members of the family system have access to it, and every one of you can make changes. You can be controlled by it, as happens to most people, or you can take your power and learn to use this information to your greatest advantage. You just need to learn how to do this, and this book will teach you.
Contained within your invisible family legacy are emotions, beliefs, stories, loyalties, and traumas. People tend to forget these subtle aspects; however, many times that is where the root of the problem lies, and therefore the solution as well. The invisible family legacy can be a very heavy load to carry for both you and your offspring. Let me share some examples of how it might be affecting your lives:
Financial problems might have their origin in a loss of goods or money on the part of one of your ancestors.
You may feel unhappy, depressed, or grumpy because you are carrying emotions that belong to another family member.
An inability to get what you want — or getting it and then losing it — might be due to a family loyalty.
Problems with reestablishing a healthy and happy relationship with your mate might arise because you are repeating the story of other family members.
Fears, anxieties, insomnia, or acts of violence might be caused by a trauma someone in your family experienced.
Having accidents, being assaulted, or finding yourself in any situation where your life is in danger could occur because you are unconsciously repeating ancestral cycles of violence.
Any destructive habit could come about as a result of tragic deaths suffered in the family.
It's easy to understand that what happens in your family affects you when you get to know your biological family and relate to it. What is really hard to understand for most people, is how something they're not even aware of, can affect them. How is it possible that the story of some ancestor they have never met, like a great grandmother, is the cause of their child's depression? Or how can the emotions ofsomeone you don't believe belonged to the family, such as your maternal grandfather's lover, be the cause of your not being able to consolidate a healthy relationship with your spouse?
The answer is that this information is stored in your family legacy, and since it's invisible, it affects you without your being aware of it. It's as if you were a puppet being toyed with by the stories of many members of your family. You think you hold your own strings, but that is not the case. You think you are free, but you're trapped.
The first step in moving ahead in your process is to acknowledge that you are carrying this legacy. Envision a small woman with a large bag on her shoulder that contains things she has been accumulating without realizing it. If she continues to deny that the bag is too big for her bone structure, she's going to walk through life all askew because of the weight. On the other hand, if she acknowledges it, she'll be willing to stop, open the bag, and empty the contents to look at what serves her and what she needs to let go of.
In order to take the next step, you need to acknowledge you have a family legacy and that it weighs on you more heavily than you had thought. At the same time, you still don't know specifically what this legacy contains or in what ways it's affecting you. For now, merely open up to the possibility that some of the problems you have been having and have not resolved are coming from that place.
My objective with this book is ambitious. Not only will it teach you the theory of the Magui Block Method, but by reading it you can transform yourself easily and lovingly. I've put in one part by explaining the method, and you put in the other by applying the method. In adopting the right posture, evoking love, and repeating the phrase I propose out loud, you are going to weave together your body, mind, and emotions to create a loving transformation.
First, adopt the right physical posture, as follows:
Hold your body upright. Imagine that your head is touching the sky and that your feet are firmly and deeply grounded in the earth.
Be centered. Your heart and mind are as clear as crystal.
Place your hands, one over the other, on your belly button. Imagine that they connect to the space that is close to your spine, inside of your body. (If you're a woman, place the palm of your right hand on your belly button and the palm of the left hand on the back of your right hand. If you're a man, place the palm of your left hand on your belly button and the palm of the right hand on the back of your left hand.)
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1: The Magui Block Method for Healing Your Family, 1,
Chapter 2: The Invisible Family Legacy, 7,
Chapter 3: The Five Keys to Healing Your Family, 23,
Chapter 4: The Price of Healing, 134,
About the Author, 161,