How to Survive Change . . . You Didn't Ask for: Bounce Back, Find Calm in Chaos, and Reinvent Yourself (Uplifting Gift, Coping Skills)

by M.J. Ryan

Overview

Be Empowered in the Face of Change

"…teaches us how we can get through the pain more quickly and extract greater meaning from the nonnegotiable events of life." —Ellyn Spragins, author of What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self

Overwhelmed by life’s challenges? Exhausted by crisis after crisis in the world? How to Survive Change is filled with advice and timely, relevant tips to help you cope, change your mindset, and ultimately thrive.

Change your mindset to change for the better. These are challenging times. Chances are, at this moment, you’re confronting some change you never asked for—perhaps a life crisis, like a loss of job or the failure of a dream. Maybe you must learn to work in new ways or find a new place to live. Bestselling author, thought leader, and change expert M.J. Ryan is here to help. Within the pages of her book How to Survive Change . . . You Didn't Ask For, you’ll find the support and practices you need to successfully ride the wave of this change, whatever it may be.

Discover tools for coping with the changes of life. Change is always hard, and it's even harder when it's thrust upon us, unbidden. But with every change, there is also opportunity. In her book, Ryan provides strategies to retain your brain and optimize your response to life change, step-by-step. Best of all, as your adaptability increases, so does your confidence—with her guidance, you will be able to survive and thrive no matter what life throws your way.

Find new opportunities for success. With both detailed chapters explaining how to embrace change and twenty quick tips for adapting to change you didn't ask for, Ryan's advice can be used in any evolving situation.

This book teaches you how to:

• Accept change
• Expand your options
• Strengthen your adaptability
• Take action

If you liked Switch or books by Gretchen Rubin like Better than Before or The Four Tendencies, you'll love How to Survive Change . . . You Didn't Ask For.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781573246002
Publisher:	Mango Media
Publication date:	03/01/2014
Pages:	223
Product dimensions:	8.30(w) x 5.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Known internationally as an expert on change, inspirational speaker and human development guru M.J. Ryan works as an executive coach to senior executives and entrepreneurs around the world to accelerate business success and personal fulfillment. She combines a practical approach gained from being the CEO of Conari Press with methodologies from neuroscience, positive psychology, and asset-focused learning to help clients and readers more easily meet their goals.

A highly successful author, Ryan is known for co-creating the Random Acts of Kindness series, as well as writing best-sellers such as A Grateful Heart, Atitudes of Gratitude, The Power of Patience, and her AdaptAbility book How to Survive Change . . . You Didn't Ask For. She lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her family.

Table of Contents

I Welcome to "Permanent White Water" 1

II Seven Truths about Change 13

Change Truth #1: Change Is the One Thing You Can Count On 13

Change Truth #2: It's Not Personal 16

Change Truth #3: Your Thinking Is Not Always Your Friend 19

Change Truth #4: Change Isn't the Enemy, Fear Is 24

Change Truth #5: There's a Predictable Emotional Cycle to Change 28

Change Truth #6: You're More Resilient Than You May Think 31

Change Truth #7: Your Future Is Built on Bedrock That Is Unchanging 34

III The Actions of a Change Master 37

Step 1 Accept the Change 37

Gather the Facts Like a Newspaper Reporter 39

What Other Information Do You Need? 45

The Truth Will Set You Free (Or at Least into Motion) 48

If You Can See It, It's Yours to Deal With 51

How Could This Be Good Luck? 53

"Worry Well" 56

What Core Issue Does This Trigger? 59

Relate to Your Fear 63

Send Out an SOS 67

Recognize If You're Milling 70

It's Good to Bitch and Moan but Not Forever 72

Get the 3Cs in Place 75

Choose Carefully Where You Put Your Attention 79

Avoid Shame by Remembering That Difficulties Can Happen to Anyone 81

Don't Waste Precious Time or Energy on Blame 84

Regret Well 86

Experience the Comfort of Forgiveness 90

Do the Three Blessings 94

Cultivate Your Witness Self 97

Stay Open to Miracles 101

Find the Gift in the Change 104

Step 2 Expand Your Options 106

What Helps You Expand Your Thinking? 107

How Does Your Self-Concept Need to Change? 110

Seek Information Outside Your Box 113

Hedge Your Bets 116

Kill Your Little Darlings 119

Tap Into Your Inner Resources 121

What Other Resources Are Available? 124

Be Like the Native Americans 126

Create the Necessary Reserves 130

Don't Go into the Wilderness Without Your Compass 133

What Are Your Inner Talents? 139

Reexamine Your Priorities 142

Envision Your Next Chapter 147

Who Do You Need by Your Side? 149

Watch the Road, Not the Potholes 152

Step 3 Take Action 155

Create a Story of Possibility 155

Make Deposits into Your Hope Account 159

Hope Is Not a Plan 163

Get the Balls in the Air 166

Think Through the Implications 169

Just Do One Thing 171

Ready, Fire, Aim 173

Evaluate Progress 177

If You're Not Stretching, You're Probably Missing Something 180

Do What's Needed 183

Build Your Brand 186

Get More Connected 190

Create a Change Masters Circle 194

Use an Inspiring Mantra to Keep Up Your Spirits 197

Focus on the Upside of Scaling Back 199

Allow Your Circumstances to Open Your Heart 202

Step 4 Strengthen Adaptability 204

Become a Lifelong Learner 205

Reflect on Your Learnings 207

IV Twenty Quick Tips for Surviving Change You Didn't Ask For 213

V Resources for More Support 219

For Personal Support From Me 224

Acknowledgments 225

Editorial Reviews

"…teaches us how we can get through the pain more quickly and extract greater meaning from the nonnegotiable events of life." —Ellyn Spragins, author of What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self

Reviews

"…teaches us how we can get through the pain more quickly and extract greater meaning from the nonnegotiable events of life." —Ellyn Spragins, author of What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self

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