I Don't Want a Divorce: A 90 Day Guide to Saving Your Marriage

by Dr. David Clarke, William G. Clarke

Overview

What could be good about a bad marriage? The good news is that couples can get beyond their old marriage and its destructive habits and build a brand-new one with the same spouse. And they can do it in just 90 days, even if only one spouse is committed to change.

Thousands of couples in marriages that are on the brink of divorce will never enter a therapist's office. For others, it's too late by the time they do agree to come. But for more than twenty years, David Clarke has seen marriages turn around in just three months. In I Don't Want a Divorce, he takes his practical plan and presents it using wit, Scripture, and personal stories to help couples turn difficult marriages into great ones. Whether the issue is communication, the kids, negative attitudes, or even serious sin, Clarke's personalized approach will put readers on the road to a great marriage.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780800728175
Publisher:	Baker Publishing Group
Publication date:	10/18/2016
Edition description:	Repackaged Edition
Pages:	288
Sales rank:	678,145
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Dr. David Clarke is a Christian psychologist and speaker and the author of ten books, including Kiss Me Like You Mean It and Married but Lonely. A graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary and Western Conservative Baptist Seminary, he has been in full-time private practice for over twenty years. He lives in Florida.

William G. Clarke has been a marriage and family therapist for over thirty years. A former Campus Crusade for Christ director and founder of the Marriage and Family Enrichment Center, he lives in Florida.

Table of Contents

Part 1 Yes, You Can Change Your Marriage

1 The Good News about a Bad Marriage 11

Part 2 The "We're Unhappy but Willing to Work on It" Marriage

2 "Take Your Marriage Out Back and Shoot It!" 25

Week 1 Rebuild from the Ground Up 26

3 "I'm Wrong, I'm Sorry, I'll Change" 38

Week 2 The Letter of Responsibility 45

Week 3 Do the Top Two 51

4 Where the Rubber Meets the Road: One Couple's Journey through Weeks 2 and 3 53

5 A Breath of Fresh, Positive Air 65

Week 4 The Power of Positivity 69

6 A Little Bit of Romance Goes a Long Way 78

Week 5 Bring Back the Romance 81

7 Conflict-Resolving Skills That Work 90

Week 6 Learn How to Fight 92

8 Heal from Your Past Pain 103

Week 7 The Past Pain Transfer Letters 110

Week 8 The Follow-Up Talks 116

9 The Pain Is Gone and We're Moving On: One Couple's Journey through Weeks 7 and 8 118

10 Forgive Each Other 129

Week 9 The Letters of Forgiveness 134

Week 10 Read and Follow-Up Talks 136

11 "I Forgive You": One Couple's Journey through Weeks 9 and 10 140

12 The Code Queen and the Clam 151

Week 11 Make Your Needs Clear 157

13 To Be Soul Mates, You Have to Be "Need Mates" 162

Week 12 Meet Your Top Three Needs 165

Part 3 The "My Spouse Won't Change" Marriage

14 "I Married a Stick and Now I'm Stuck" 179

15 Your Stick's Last Chance 190

16 Rock Your Stick's World 204

Part 4 The "My Spouse Has Sinned Big Time" Marriage

17 Make Your Spouse's Serious Sin the Only Issue 219

18 Get Angry and Stay Angry 230

19 How to Heal from a Spouse's Serious Sin 241

Part 5 With God and a Proven Plan, It's Time to Change Your Marriage

20 Killing Your Goliath 261

Frequently Asked Questions267

Appendix: Beginning a Relationship with God 273