If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

Lance Valcour had it all. Or so it seemed. A thirty-three-year career in policing, rising through the ranks to become an inspector. A decorated veteran cop, respected as an expert in technology and information management systems. Speaking and consulting to police services across Canada and around the world. A happy family, a loving wife and three amazing sons. That's what everyone thought. That's what everyone saw. If they only knew.

Behind the veneer lies a deeper story of pain, anger, and a lifelong struggle with addiction and mental health. If all those cops, colleagues, clients, and even friends and family could have seen his ugly private truth, they would have detested the monster he'd become.

If They Only Knew is an intensely personal story, not only of one man's demons and depression, but also of a couple's commitment, courage, and love. Of a woman who, faced with her husband's growing venom, anger, and cruelty, found the inner strength to stand up and say, "No more. This ends today."

And of a man who, faced with this ultimatum, eventually found the strength and courage to admit that he had a problem and needed help. Who, haunted by his own self-loathing, overcame his darkest days to find serenity, peace, and fulfillment.

Join this couple on their deeply personal journey. You will cry. You will laugh. You will learn how-together and with a great deal of help-they survived the valleys of despair to achieve a life full of love, respect, and interdependence.

Powerful and inspiring, If They Only Knew gives hope to anyone struggling with addiction and mental health challenges that recovery and forgiveness are possible.

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If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

Lance Valcour had it all. Or so it seemed. A thirty-three-year career in policing, rising through the ranks to become an inspector. A decorated veteran cop, respected as an expert in technology and information management systems. Speaking and consulting to police services across Canada and around the world. A happy family, a loving wife and three amazing sons. That's what everyone thought. That's what everyone saw. If they only knew.

Behind the veneer lies a deeper story of pain, anger, and a lifelong struggle with addiction and mental health. If all those cops, colleagues, clients, and even friends and family could have seen his ugly private truth, they would have detested the monster he'd become.

If They Only Knew is an intensely personal story, not only of one man's demons and depression, but also of a couple's commitment, courage, and love. Of a woman who, faced with her husband's growing venom, anger, and cruelty, found the inner strength to stand up and say, "No more. This ends today."

And of a man who, faced with this ultimatum, eventually found the strength and courage to admit that he had a problem and needed help. Who, haunted by his own self-loathing, overcame his darkest days to find serenity, peace, and fulfillment.

Join this couple on their deeply personal journey. You will cry. You will laugh. You will learn how-together and with a great deal of help-they survived the valleys of despair to achieve a life full of love, respect, and interdependence.

Powerful and inspiring, If They Only Knew gives hope to anyone struggling with addiction and mental health challenges that recovery and forgiveness are possible.

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If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

by Lance Valcour
If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

If They Only Knew: A Cop's Journey with Addiction and Mental Health

by Lance Valcour

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Lance Valcour had it all. Or so it seemed. A thirty-three-year career in policing, rising through the ranks to become an inspector. A decorated veteran cop, respected as an expert in technology and information management systems. Speaking and consulting to police services across Canada and around the world. A happy family, a loving wife and three amazing sons. That's what everyone thought. That's what everyone saw. If they only knew.

Behind the veneer lies a deeper story of pain, anger, and a lifelong struggle with addiction and mental health. If all those cops, colleagues, clients, and even friends and family could have seen his ugly private truth, they would have detested the monster he'd become.

If They Only Knew is an intensely personal story, not only of one man's demons and depression, but also of a couple's commitment, courage, and love. Of a woman who, faced with her husband's growing venom, anger, and cruelty, found the inner strength to stand up and say, "No more. This ends today."

And of a man who, faced with this ultimatum, eventually found the strength and courage to admit that he had a problem and needed help. Who, haunted by his own self-loathing, overcame his darkest days to find serenity, peace, and fulfillment.

Join this couple on their deeply personal journey. You will cry. You will laugh. You will learn how-together and with a great deal of help-they survived the valleys of despair to achieve a life full of love, respect, and interdependence.

Powerful and inspiring, If They Only Knew gives hope to anyone struggling with addiction and mental health challenges that recovery and forgiveness are possible.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781988344492
Publisher: Milner & Associates
Publication date: 03/10/2025
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.61(d)

About the Author

Inspector (Ret.) Lance Valcour, O.O.M., retired from the Ottawa Police Service in 2010 after 33 years of service. He is an author, independent consultant, strategic adviser, marketing technologist, digital evangelist, coach, internationally recognized keynote speaker and facilitator on a wide range of public safety issues including information management, information and communications technology, interoperability and business development. Lance was invested as an Officer of the Order of Merit of the Police Forces by the Governor General of Canada in 2010 and received the Queen's Diamond Jubilee Medal in 2012. In May 2019 Lance received the 2019 Ontario Women in Law Enforcement's Presidential Award, one of few men to receive this prestigious award. Lance has been married to Lise, whose inner strength and courage inspired "If They Only Knew," for 39 years. They have three sons and three grandsons. He is currently writing his next book, tentatively titled "What's Next."
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