Being understood by someone you love is one of the most powerful feelings, at all ages. For a young child, it is the most important of all experiences because it allows the child's mind and sense of self to grow. In the midst of the perennial concerns parents bring to Dr. Claudia Gold, she shows the magical effect of seeing a problem from their child's point of view. Most parenting books teach parents what to do to solve behavior problems, but Dr. Gold shows parents how to be with a child. Crises are defused when children feel truly heard and validated; this is how they learn to understand, and, eventually, control themselves. Dr. Gold's insightful guide uses new research in developmental psychology and vivid stories from her practice to show parents how to keep a child in mind and deepen this central relationship in their lives.
About the Author
Claudia Gold, MD, practices behavioral pediatrics in Great Barrington, Massachusetts, and writes a column on children’s mental health for the Boston Globe. Trained in psychoanalytic theory, she has presented her work widely to parents and professionals.
Table of Contents
1 "It's Not About the Soup": Holding Your Child in Mind 1
2 Strengthening the Secure Base: Listening to Parents 27
3 Living with "Colic":Holding Your Newborn in Mind 51
4 Managing Sleep:Holding Your Infant in Mind 73
5 Discipline and Limit Setting:Holding Your Toddler in Mind 97
6 Separation Anxiety and "Explosive" Behavior: Holding Your Preschooler in Mind 123
7 Learning and Social Challenges:Holding Your School-Age Child in Mind 145
8 Supporting the Search for Identity:Holding Your Teenager in Mind 163
9 Beyond Medication 183
Useful Websites 217
Photo Credits 228
About the Author 229
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
In a sea of parenting books, I found this book to offer a different perspective. Parenting two young children has been stressful and I love how Dr. Gold discusses supporting parents and honoring their experience. After reading, I felt reminded of how my emotional state sets the tone for my family even if I am trying to project calmness to them. It starts with me and then we can address my children and their behavior. I found the book engaging, the format user friendly, and the intention refreshing.