Let Go of the Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your Joy

by Valorie Burton

Overview

Learn how to leave guilt behind for good! Life coach Valorie Burton teaches you a simple yet profound method that will free you from the “false guilt” that is so common among busy women today.

Even women who feel fulfilled often struggle to meet the demands of modern life. Both working and stay-at-home moms agree that the expectations of women have risen dramatically in recent decades.

As a result, many women overcompensate and over-apologize while the guilt dampens the joy of motherhood, relationships, and professional accomplishments. Let Go of the Guilt helps you peel back the layers of emotional, cultural, and spiritual expectations that make it difficult to navigate your multiple roles, dreams, and daily demands on your life.

Through her signature self-coaching process, powerful questions, and practical research, Valorie Burton shows you how to:

• Recognize and overcome the five thought patterns of guilt
• Break the surprising habit that tempts you to subconsciously choose guilt over joy,
• Stop guilt from sneaking its way into your everyday decisions and interactions,
• Flip those guilt trips so you can keep others from manipulating you, and
• Stop setting yourself up for stress, anxiety, and obligation, and instead set yourself for a life of joy and freedom

Valorie’s journaling questions and research-based process will shift your perspective, give you clarity and courage, and equip you with a plan of action to let go of the guilt for good.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780785220213
Publisher:	Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date:	09/01/2020
Pages:	240
Sales rank:	1,085,588
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Valorie Burton helps readers find joy and resilience while navigating the challenges of modern life. She is founder of the Coaching and Positive Psychology (CaPP) Institute and has written a dozen books on personal development. Her unique combination of research, faith, and personal transparency inspires action and delivers practical tools to find fulfillment and purpose in work and life.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Why Did You Do That? vii

How Guilt Can Drive Your Decisions

1 What Are You Feeling Guilty About? 1

The First Step to Conquering Your Guilt Is Naming It

2 Peel Back the Layers 33

Recognizing and Rewriting Your Internal Narrative

3 Happiness Is a Risk, Guilt Is Safe 59

The Surprising Habit That Tempts You to Choose Guilt over Joy

4 The Guilt Gender Gap 77

Why Research Shows Women Are Guilt Prone

5 Own Your Values 87

If You Don't Decide What Matters to You, Others Will Decide for You

6 The Upside of Guilt 101

Why the Traits That Make You Feel Guilty Also Make You Successful

7 (Re)Set Your Expectations 117

Stop Setting Yourself Up for Guilt and Set Yourself Up for Happiness

8 Flip the Guilt Trip 141

Deactivate the Buttons Manipulators Like to Push

9 Take Back Your Joy 167

Embrace the Eight Habits of Guilt-Free Living

Conclusion: The Secret to Letting Go of Guilt for Good 187

Acknowledgments 193

Notes 195

About the Author 203