Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction

by Candace Plattor
Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction

by Candace Plattor

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Loving someone who has an addiction problem is like being trapped on a roller-coaster of painful emotions.

You never know what’s going to happen from one moment to the next. It can be like living a re-occurring nightmare that you can’t wake up from.

The ongoing lies and the broken promises, the constant worry and fear, the dwindling hope that someday things will change.

You know the story…

It’s downright exasperating.

Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the goods news is there is a way to end your suffering and Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction shows you how.

It doesn’t matter what kind of addictive behavior your loved one is struggling with.

It could be alcohol and drug misuse; an eating disorder; smoking; gambling; an Internet, relationship, or sex addiction; or compulsive shopping and over-spending.

All addictions have negative consequences for loved ones.

It’s not news that many family and friends get caught in the “cycle of addiction” and don’t know how to untangle themselves from the spiral of destruction the addict is engaging in.

Candace shows you that the key to changing this painful reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one’s addiction to your own self-care.

She shows you how to stop doing the things that are not only making your own life miserable, but which are also “enabling” the addict to continue on the path of destruction.

However, thanks to this ground-breaking book you can now discover how to help yourself disengage from the ugly path of addiction.

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Shows You How to Stop the Cycle of Pain and Chaos

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off your loved one’s roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.

The book clearly and simply outlines 10 things you can do to take back control of your life. It covers all aspects of loving an addict. It will help you:

  • Understand the true nature of addiction.
  • Face the truth even when you don’t want to.
  • See your own behavior more clearly.
  • Set boundaries with the addict when they ask for something that will only hurt them—or you—further.
  • And most importantly, how to look after YOU.

This book helps you see that it’s not your fault. Your intentions have been in the right place, you just haven’t known what to do. You’ve done everything you can to try to help, and yet nothing you’ve done has worked. It’s time for a new approach—an approach that works!

Even though it may seem daunting at first to cease engaging in behaviors that appear to help your loved one, Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself describes how once you take this crucial step, not only does your life start getting better, but it also encourages the addict to make important decisions that could end up being life changing for them as well.

Although Candace acknowledges that the addict may be helped through the actions you take to help yourself, the central theme of the book is that — no matter what — you must make this shift for your own sake!

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780981385068
Publisher: Being at Choice Consultants
Publication date: 12/03/2014
Edition description: 2nd Revised ed.
Pages: 204
Sales rank: 526,525
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Candace Plattor, M.A., R.C.C., is an Addictions Therapist in private practice. Candace specializes in working with the family and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction, in her unique and signature Family Addiction Therapy Program. Candace believes that everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone needs to heal. For more than 25 years, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviors and make healthier life choices. Visit lovewithboundaries.com for more information.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Welcome to Your Life: A Dramatically Fresh Approach to Loving an Addicted Person

Chapter 1: Loving Someone with an Addiction: A Life of Chaos

Chapter 2: Understanding Addiction in a New Way

Chapter 3: Survival Tip #1: Come Face-to-Face with Reality

Chapter 4: Survival Tip #2: Discover How to Love an Addicted Person

Chapter 5: Survival Tip #3: You Cannot Control of "Fix" Another Person, so Stop Trying!

Chapter 6: Survival Tip #4: Stop Blaming Other People and Become Willing to Look at Yourself

Chapter 7: Survival Tip #5: Learn the Difference Between "Helping" and "Enabling"

Chapter 8: Survival Tip #6: Don't Give in to Manipulation

Chapter 9: Survival Tip #7: Ask Yourself the "Magic Question"

Chapter 10: Survival Tip #8: Know That "Self-Care" Does Not Equal "Selfish"

Chapter 11: Survival Tip #9: Rebuild Your Life

Chapter 12: Survival Tip #10: Don't Wait Until the Situation Is Really Bad--Reach Out for Help Now!

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