Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World

Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World

by David Kim
Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World

Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World

by David Kim


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Author and pastor David Kim shares his experiences with loneliness as a Korean American immigrant and delivers compelling research about belonging that includes the revolutionary five anchors for developing meaningful relationships.

Even though we are connected more than ever—through social media, video calls and texts, and advanced travel opportunities—we're also drowning in loneliness and isolation. As discipleship pastor of WestGate Church in Silicon Valley, David Kim decided to research the reasons why—and uncovered surprising answers.

When Kim moved to America from South Korea as a child, he experienced isolation during his school years. Differences in language, food, and culture spiked an immense desire for an accepting, supportive community. As an adult, he read widely about belonging, and in his survey of more than 1,300 Christians, he discovered that the number-one struggle shared by them is loneliness. Left to ourselves, Kim says, we naturally drift away from God and others, and we begin to believe the lies of the enemy:

  • You are all alone. No one else feels this way.
  • No one cares about you. How could they?
  • God has abandoned you. You were just imagining things before.

In Made to Belong, Kim combats those lies with the incredible hope found in the revolutionary Five Practices for Meaningful Connection:

  • Priority: People first, no regrets.
  • Chemistry: What, you too?
  • Vulnerability: Dangerously safe.
  • Empathy: I hear and see you.
  • Accountability: I can't carry it, but I can carry you.

True belonging takes intentional effort, but Kim reminds us that we are made to belong—to each other and to Jesus. Through sound wisdom from the Bible, proven research from the social sciences and his own data, and examples from his pastoral ministry and moving personal anecdotes, Kim shows us that we are uniquely designed by God to belong to one another for our flourishing.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781400234967
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 02/07/2023
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 1,095,829
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

David Kim is the discipleship pastor of WestGate Church, a large multiethnic, multisite church in the heart of Silicon Valley. He is the author of A Kids Book About Change, which was selected for Oprah's Favorite Things List in 2020. As a certified coach and YouVersion contributor, he is passionate about building healthy churches and individuals through community, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence. David received his master of divinity and master of theology from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and is married to Nina. They have two daughters, Skylar and Zoey.

Table of Contents

Introduction: We Are Losing Our Ability to Belong xi

Part 1 Why Belonging is So Hard

1 The False Connection Cycle 1

2 Barriers to Belonging 19

Part 2 How Belonging is Possible

3 Practice #1: Priority Let's Talk About Our Commitment Issues 41

4 Practice #2: Chemistry The Difference Between Clique and Click 61

5 Practice #3: Vulnerability Lowering the Wall of Shame for Connection 79

6 Practice #4: Empathy Supporting Others Well in a Self-Absorbed World 107

7 Practice #5: Accountability The Necessary Road to Christlikeness 135

Part 3 How Belonging Deepens Our Discipleship to Jesus

8 Being Fully Known and Truly Loved 159

9 The Gift of Isolation 165

10 Cultivate Belonging in Christian Community 183

Conclusion: Discerning to Stay or Move On 199

Acknowledgments 205

Notes 209

About the Author 216

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