Man of Constant Sorrow: My Life and Times

Man of Constant Sorrow: My Life and Times

by Ralph Stanley, Eddie Dean


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A legend looks back on his six decades in music.

Ralph Stanley was born in 1927 in a corner of Virginia known as Big Spraddle Creek, a place where music echoed from the ridge tops, was belted out by workers in the fields, and resonated in the one-room country church where Ralph first found his voice. For his eleventh birthday, Ralph was given five dollars, and had to chose between buying a sow or a banjo. He chose the banjo, which his mother taught him to play in the clawhammer style. In 1946, he combined his banjo with his brother Carter's guitar, and the two blended their voices into one as the Stanley Brothers. For twenty years the Stanleys chased the dream through good times and hard times, until the hard times caught up to Carter and he succumbed to liver disease at age 41. In the four decades since his brother's passing, Ralph has brought his music from the hills and hollows of southwest Virginia to the wide world.
Now in his eighties and still touring, Ralph has at last grown into his voice and is ready to tell his story. In Man of Constant Sorrow, Ralph looks back on his career in what most call bluegrass but what he prefers to call "old time mountain music." He recounts the creation of hundreds of classic tracks, including "White Dove," "Rank Stranger," and his signature song, "Man of Constant Sorrow." He tells tales from a life spent on road with his band the Clinch Mountain Boys, explains his distinctive "Stanley style" of banjo-playing, crosses paths with everyone from Bill Monroe to Bob Dylan, and reflects on his late-career resurgence sparked by an unlikely Grammy win in 2002 for his song "O Death." He also raises a dirge for Appalachia, his mountain home that is quickly disappearing.

Harmonized with equal measures of tragedy and triumph, Man of Constant Sorrow is the stirring testament of a giant of American music.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781592405848
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 11/02/2010
Pages: 464
Sales rank: 697,698
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.10(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Ralph Stanley was a Grammy Award–winning American bluegrass artist, and an inductee into the International Bluegrass Music Hall of Honor and the Grand Ole Opry. He was part of the first generation of bluegrass musicians, his prolific career beginning in 1946. He died in 2016.

Eddie Dean is a freelance journalist based in the Washington, DC, metro area. He is the coauthor with Ralph Stanley of Stanley’s autobiography, Man of Constant Sorrow.

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Hills of Home
“ I’d like to go back to the days of my childhood
And go to church in the village there
To meet my friends and old acquaintance
And sing again in the village choir”

—“Turn Back,” Ralph Stanley

When I was just a little boy growing up in the mountains of southwest Virginia, singing was as natural as breathing. I was borned and raised way back in the hills, and a lot of our forefathers, our grandpas and great-uncles and so forth, were of the old Baptist faith, and they all had lonesome voices to sing out those sad old hymns.

This was a long time ago, back in the 1930s, and a long way back in steep hills and deep hollows. Where I come from, people lived spread out from one another. There was no radio or telephone. Days would pass between you seeing anybody outside your family. Singing was a way to keep yourself company when you got to feeling lonesome.

You could hear singing everywhere from church to the back porch, from the high ridgetops to the head of the creek, wherever there were chores to do or miles to walk or fields to work. You’d hear people tell about a mule that wouldn’t budge unless the man behind the plow got to singing. Songs were handed down from father to son and mother to daughter. Singing gave you strength, and you needed plenty to get you through rough times. People from our mountains were used to going without, and singing didn’t cost a cent. Not many things you can say that about.

Back in our little part of the world, singing was part of everyday living, one of the natural sounds all around us: the water running through the rocks on Big Spraddle Creek and the coon dogs barking down the hollow and the train whistle blowing as the freight cars hauled coal on the Clinchfield Railroad. Course, we didn’t pay no mind it. When you’re so used to something, you don’t go around making a fuss over it.

But some voices stood out from all the rest. The way some birds stand out: them hoot owls and whip-poor-wills you’d hear when the sun went down and it got dark in the hollow. I always enjoyed a whip-poor-will come to sit on our yard gate and sing of an evening. Some people get spooked by night birds. The old superstition says when you hear a whip-poor-will, somebody’s going to die. But I was always taken with the mournful song of a whip-poor-will. It made me feel like I wasn’t the only one feeling lonesome.

And that’s the way it was with my voice. It was lonesome and mournful and it wasn’t like nobody else’s. I don’t say this to brag on myself but because it’s true. Even today, people from all over the world tell me my voice is different—completely different—from any voice they’ve heard.

I tell them I’ve sung that way since I was a boy. I think God gives everybody a gift, and He wants them to use it. I’ve always done my best to honor what God gave me. I’ve never tried to put any airs on it. I sing it the way I feel it, just the way it comes out.

When I say I sang like this since I was just a knee-high, I mean just what I say. I’m well past eighty now, but as far back as I can remember, everyone always told me I had an old-time mountain voice: what they call weathered and lived-in, like something you’d hear moaning in the woods late of a night and not from the mouth of a young’un. They called me the boy with the hundred-year-old voice. I reckon if I make it another twenty years, maybe then I’ll finally get to sound like my real age.

There’s a lot of people would tell me not to even bother trying to catch up. They hear something much older than a hundred years in my singing. They say it puts them in mind of the sacred chanting at a Navajo ceremony, or the gospel singing from ancient times, way back to the olden days before the written word, when people first sung out their troubles. I don’t claim to know much about chanting, but the part about gospel music, well, my singing comes right out of the church.

The first time I ever sang in public was in a little country church way out in the sticks. It was a one-room building with plank benches and an old woodstove for heat. No special occasion, just another Sunday morning. You might think there wasn’t much to be nervous about, but I was scared to death because my dad put me on the spot.

It was in 1935 at the Point Truth Primitive Baptist Church in Scott County, Virginia. You just about needed a search party to find it, tucked back in Long Hollow, miles from the nearest town of Nickelsville. In our type of church, the Primitive Baptists, they don’t allow musical instruments whatsoever, not a piano or even a tambourine. They sing the old Baptist hymns the old-time way, a cappella–style, just the voices alone.

You may have seen in the Bible where it says “make a joyful noise unto the Lord,” and that’s what a lot of Pentecostals and Holiness churches do around these mountains, and they play guitars and anything else handy and they get pretty rowdy. It’s got a good beat to it, it makes you happy, and it makes you want to move.

But the Primitive Baptists are different. They’re strictly business when it comes to their hymns. It’s more sad and it’s more mournful and it fits my voice like nothing else. Usually the preacher or one of the elders will line out the songs for the congregation, which means the leader sings a verse and everybody joins in and sings it right back.

On this Sunday morning, my family was sitting all bunched together on the pew-bench like usual: my dad, Lee, and my mother, Lucy, and my older brother, Carter, and me. There was a song my dad wanted to lead on. It was from the old Goble hymnbook: “Salvation, O! The Name I Love.” It was one of his favorites, but he never could remember how the song started out. So he laid his hand on my shoulder and he called on me to start the song, to line it out for the congregation.

Here we were, the church-house packed and everybody waiting on me. I couldn’t even look up I was so scared, just a-trembling from head to toe. I like to stare a hole in the floor and crawl inside and hide. These people were friendly enough, but this was a new church from the one I was used to, the McClure Primitive Baptist Church, close by the hollow I was from back in Dickenson County. We’d moved for a while to the neighboring county, where we lived in an old log house in Long Hollow while my dad worked a sawmill job in the area.

When you traveled mostly by foot or by horse or mule, another county—even the next county over—might as well have been another world. To give you an idea of the distances back then: About twenty-five miles from our home place, in the coal town of West Norton in Wise County, lived the singer and banjo player Dock Boggs, who worked in the mines and made some phonograph records in the 1920s, real old-time ballads like “Pretty Polly.” Well, I didn’t know a thing about Dock Boggs until I met him at the Newport Folk Festival in the 1960s. Nothing against Dock, it just shows you how the world was a whole lot bigger place back then, especially in the mountains of southwest Virginia.

So it felt strange and different to me, this little church in a new county filled with folks I didn’t rightly know. Even if they were Primitive Baptists like us, they were more like strangers. Here I was, barely eight years old, sitting there in the pew, worried and shaking like a leaf, after my dad called me to lead that hymn. Trapped.

I turned to my mother, but she paid me no mind. She was silent and somber, her head bowed down. Much as she wanted, she couldn’t help me. In our church, it had to be a man lining out the songs, the preacher or an elder like my dad. I never did hear of a woman leading on a song. And it was unheard of for a child. So Carter couldn’t rescue me neither, not even with a funny face he’d usually pull to cheer me up.

Ever since I was born, I was in the shadow of my big brother. Carter was just eighteen months older, but that was like dog years for me, because he was my idol. I was a real shy, bashful boy—“backwards” is what they called it in the mountains. I just never could mix well with people. And what was so hard for me came easy as pie to Carter, the Stanley brother everybody loved. He took after our dad, tall and handsome with a million-dollar smile and a joke for any occasion. Carter was game for anything. Me, I was a mama’s boy, and there wasn’t much I wasn’t scared of.

But it wasn’t Carter my dad called on to line out that song. He called on me. Early on, he noticed I had something God-given and unique. He reckoned my voice could carry a hymn as well as any man’s in the church-house. And now he was going to let everybody get a good listen. It’s the sort of thing fathers do. Besides, he was in a bind, forgetting how to start that song.

Scared as I was, I knew how the song went and that was what probably saved me. The melody stuck with me from the first time I’d heard it. I was always taken by the sad old Baptist hymns we sang at our home church down by the river in McClure. I can remember singing those hymns to myself around the house when I was four or five years old. I don’t know why. I just had a feeling for those songs and I still do today. So I took a deep breath and sung out the opening line the best I could:

Salvation, O! The name I love, which came by Christ the Lord above

The words come out of me and hung in the air and then faded to nothing. The silence was only for a second, but it seemed to last forever. I thought maybe I’d messed up somehow and failed my dad. Then the whole congregation joined in and sang the verse back, tracing the melody just the way I done it, and the church filled up with one big voice. I could feel my heart swell up like to bust. It was a feeling I never had before, and I jumped on the next verse before the feeling got away.

Surprising wisdom, matchless grace which regarded my low and helpless case

Just like before, everyone sang back that mournful melody in a booming voice so strong the walls of the little building like to shake down to the ground. I was too young to know what all the words really meant, but I can tell you now the hymn told my story, plain and simple. I looked up at my dad and his face was a-beaming. He finished out the hymn, and I stood there in wonder, listening to the song I had started all by myself.

Well, let me tell you, that was worth a lot to me. If it hadn’t gone well, I might have run off a big cliff somewhere. It lifted me up to a place I’d never been before. Here was my dad, calling on me to lead that song and knowing I could do it. I knew then I had something special nobody else had, not even Carter. I felt proud that my dad had faith and confidence in me, because I was the boy with the hundred-year-old voice.

Another thing, too. Leading on that hymn, I learned you could be afraid and still get the job done. Fear ain’t nothing to be afraid of; you just need to face it down. It’s helped me a lot in my life because I’ve been scared many a time since that Sunday morning and I’ve never let it stop me.

In my sixty-odd years as a professional musician, I’ve sang my music all around the world. I’ve played over in Germany and as far away as Japan. I’ve played for the Queen of England and at the President’s Inaugural in Washington, D.C. At all these fancy venues, I can perform with no stage fright at all, but I still get nervous when I have to line out a song in church. I feel more pressure in our Primitive Baptist church-house than I do in the spotlight at Carnegie Hall, because in church the congregation is depending on me to lead them and that’s where I really don’t want to foul up.

A friend of mine says he hears more grief in my singing down through the years, and I think he’s right. I mourn out my songs more than I did as a young man. Like anyone my age, I’ve had my share of sorrows, losing people closest to me, one by one, first my dad and then my brother, Carter, and then my mother. They were all with me at Point Truth Church on that Sunday morning so long ago, and they’re all gone now.

Brother Carter and I started our band, the Stanley Brothers and the Clinch Mountain Boys, in 1946, and we traveled together for twenty years. On December 1, 1966, Carter passed away and I’ve carried on the band ever since. Even though I’ve been on my own for twice as many years now, I still miss him when I get on stage. There have been so many other losses along the way. Two of my best lead singers who replaced Carter were cut down in their prime. Roy Lee Centers was shot and pistol-whipped and left to die in a creek in Breathitt County, Kentucky, where he was from. Roy Lee’s replacement was Keith Whitley, another eastern Kentucky boy. Keith was just a kid when he joined up with me, and he could sing like an angel. Just when he finally reached the top of the country charts, he overdosed on alcohol. Keith and Roy Lee were both good men and great singers—and just like Carter, taken away from us too soon.

I sung at so many funerals. I sung when we buried my fiddler, Curly Ray Cline, who worked with me for more years than I spent with Carter. When I lost one of my best friends, Bill Monroe, the father of bluegrass music, I sung over Bill’s casket, the same way Bill sung over Carter’s casket in 1966.

So many funerals. So many friends and family gone. Through the years, you never stop missing them. And I wish they could hear me now, because, strange as it is and as old as I am, I believe I’m a better singer now than when I made my first records in the 1940s. I can put more into it now, not as much holding back as I used to. I’m not afraid to let all the feeling out, everything I’ve lived for eighty-two years. And not only the experiences I’ve been through, but my experience as a singer. I’ve worked at it more the last few years. Had to, really, because I can’t lean on the banjo anymore.

Now, I won’t lie to you. My voice ain’t what it used to be. My tenor has thinned out some. It’s got more cracks in it and it can get mighty rough around the edges and I can’t hit all the high notes anymore. But it ain’t all tore down just yet, and I know how to use my voice better. I can put a lot more feeling in now. I started adding some crooks and turns and I can worry those lines like I never could before.

It’s just me and my voice onstage these days, just like it was when I first started singing as a little boy, long before I got a banjo. Every show I still feature a clawhammer song the way my mother taught me, but I haven’t played three-finger banjo for years. As you get older, your fingers don’t work as good. Now I’ve got arthritis, too, so I don’t fool with the five-string much anymore. But it’s been a blessing in disguise. Instead of doing two things, I can focus on the one. Without the banjo, I don’t have a thing to think about but just to mourn out that song.

I’m always working to be a better singer, always learning new ways. Some nights my voice is not as strong as I’d like it to be, especially if I get choked up with a cold. Other nights, I’m singing the best I ever have. It’s something I can’t control, and that’s what gets me nervous sometimes. I ain’t afraid to die, but I am scared of what would happen if my voice was to fail me. That’s something I think about a lot. It’s right hard to face up to, because singing is really all I’ve got to give anymore.

Now I want to tell you something I’ve kept to myself. Back in the 1960s, when Carter knew he wasn’t long for this world, he said something in secret to George Shuffler, one of our band members. George was like family to us, the third Stanley Brother. He called my mother “Ma” Stanley and we called him Uncle George. One time Carter and George were listening to a Stanley Brothers record of me singing my signature tune, the old mountain ballad “Man of Constant Sorrow.” Carter turned to George and said, “That voice of Brother Ralph’s will go somewhere. It may not be in this lifetime, but I believe you’re going to hear a lot more about that voice someday.”

Now, this wasn’t just my brother talking. This was the man Bill Monroe called the best natural lead singer he ever heard, and Bill wasn’t one to hand out compliments. So singing was something Carter knew something about. Course, Carter would have never told me such a thing to my face. He didn’t want his little brother to feel too sure of himself and get puffed up in the head.

Well, Carter’s prediction has come true, and it came in this lifetime, even if took a good long while. The voice that Carter and my daddy put so much stock in has carried me all over the world.

If you want to find my place, you can get you a map of the Southern Appalachians and have at it, but it won’t do you much good. I tell people wanting directions that the best thing to do is to go until you get to the last mountain. And then, the next mountain over yonder, well, that’s where I’m at.

I live eight miles from where I was born and five miles the way the crow flies from where I’ll be buried, up on Smith Ridge, where my mother, Lucy, and my brother, Carter, are waiting on me. The family cemetery sits on the highest knob of the ridgetop, in the heart of the Clinch Mountain range. This land belonged to my grandfather, Noah Smith. All around, as far as you can see, are mountains and mountains and more mountains: “the deep rolling hills of old Virginia.” That’s what Carter called ’em in his song “The White Dove.”

Rough mountains, that’s what I call ’em. There’s always been a lot of murder and a lot of death and lot of heartache in these mountains. When Carter and I were coming up, life was real hard here. It was something you had to live to really know about. It was all you could do to get through it. The old songs I sing are all about that, about the hardness of life and the hope for something better beyond. I reckon that’s the quality in the music that people respond to. They feel kin to it even if they’ve never been here.

My wife, Jimmi, is a die-hard Stanley Brothers fan, just like her daddy was. She loves to listen to me and Carter sing together. She thinks my own stuff is fine, but she likes the Stanley Brothers best. I can’t say I blame her. There’s never been a sound like the Stanley Brothers and there never will be. It was just God’s gift. When I leaned my voice next to Carter’s, there was something natural in that blend, like it was meant to be, the way a couple of mountain laurels come out of the same rocky ground and grow into one.

Through the years, people have asked me where my music and the music of the Stanley Brothers comes from. How come it sounds so dark and deep and soulful, so different from all the rest? Well, I can’t hardly explain it real good, but I can tell you where you can find out for yourself: right here on top of Smith Ridge.

It’s where Carter and I grew up, a couple of barefooted boys running those hills wild and free, stubbing our toes on rocks. It’s where we first saw death, our uncle Emery Smith laying in the field after he shot his wife, Lena, and done the same to himself. It’s where our daddy up and left us boys behind for our mother to raise all by herself and to make do from a vegetable patch and whatever we could bring home to help out. It’s where we first started singing and playing music together, where we done our learning and rehearsing round in the barn, out in the cornfield, in the shade of the apple tree.

Smith Ridge is where the dream started. The dream of making music our full-time work and devoting our lives to it. The same way the miners got coal from the ground and the sawmill men got lumber from the woods, we aimed to gather that old music we found in these hills and hollows and take it out to people all around our territory.

It was mostly Carter’s dream at first, but I came to believe in it just as much as he did. Together we lived the dream for twenty years, until the cold winter night in 1966 when he passed on, I believe, from the heavy price he paid to keep it alive in the hard times. Until the end he never did give up on the dream that finally done him in.

But I’m still here, bringing the old-time mountain music to people all over the world. I just wish Carter could be here, too. After all he done for the music, he died a poor man. It still hurts me he never got to share in the success and get a decent payday.

When I get to feeling a certain way, I go to the cemetery to be with Carter and my mother. I walk through the front gate, under the sign I put up that says “Hills of Home Cemetery: Let Me Rest on a Peaceful Mountain,” the name of a song Carter wrote. There’s a pair of white doves on the sign, and sometimes I think of the words to Carter’s “White Dove” we sung together so many times:

As the years roll by I often wonder if we’ll all be together some day
And each night as I wander through the graveyard
Darkness finds me as I kneel to pray

At the top of the cemetery, close by a pair of big cedar trees planted by my aunt many years ago, my grave is ready for me when it’s my time to go. It’s next to the graves of Carter and his wife, Mary. Before Mary died, she said she didn’t want to be put underground. So we took Carter up and now the whole row of tombs are raised aboveground like theirs. On Carter’s there are etchings of the rising sun and a guitar and the words “Farewell, Carter, For a Little While.” I wrote the inscription myself and meant every word. Come one of these days, I believe we’ll all be together in a better place. I don’t know how long it’ll be, so I just said farewell until that time finally does come.

My tombstone has an etching of a banjo on the front, and it sits in between my mother’s grave and Jimmi’s. All ours are needing are the final dates carved into that granite slab. But I’m not ready to go just yet, not by a long shot, not as long as I can sing. Just like the words say in “O Death,” the song I won the Grammy for: Won’t you spare me over for another year?

I’ve had a few close calls. I’ve had open-heart surgery, and it’s pretty rough when they have to saw you in two and stitch you back up. But I got through it. I was back on the road in seven weeks. Ever since I was nineteen, I’ve sung and picked a banjo for a living. I stay on the road playing shows because it’s my job and, to tell you the truth, it’s really all I know how to do. I ain’t much good for anything except music.

It’s been eighty-two years now, and I’ve been spared to go on. I don’t rightly know why I’ve been allowed forty years more than Carter. I can’t question what I believe has been preordained. My wife, Jimmi, says the Man Upstairs has let me stay around because he has more work for me to do.

I used to go to the cemetery a lot. I don’t go up there as often anymore. When you get to be my age, you figure you’ll be there soon enough for good. But it’s still a place where I can spend time and look around and linger awhile. In a way, it makes me sad. In a way, I like to go. It puts me in mind what my granddaughter Amber Dawn said to me one time. I had been on the road for a tour. She was around five years old and she’d been missing me something awful. When I walked in the door, she looked at me and said, “Pa-Paw, if you ever die, I want to lie right down with you.” You hear something like that, well, it makes you feel good and bad at the same time.

It’s more than memories that draw me to Smith Ridge. It feels peaceful up on the high knob there with nobody else around. It’s somewhere I can always go when I need to. I reckon everyone should have such a place, and I feel blessed to have it. You can see a long ways from up here, some days clear to Kentucky. It’s a view you’ll never forget and it puts you in your place. You feel like your troubles ain’t so bad.

Sometimes I walk down the road a few hundred yards to the house where my mother lived. It’s standing right there: the old home place. It’s still furnished today, same as it was when she died in 1973. I keep all the furnishings and everything in there neat as a pin and shiny as a new dime, and it’s setting down below the cemetery. Nobody lives in it. I don’t want anybody in there. I want the house just like it was when she lived there.

Sometimes I like to go to the house and sit in there and stay awhile and reminisce. There’s a rocking chair by a window where my mother sat alone for hours at a time. She’d just rock in her chair and look out the window up the hill to Carter’s grave. It was her way of grieving: A cemetery, a house, a window to see a grave—there are some things you need to keep around so you know where you been and where you’re headed.

I’m not the only one who likes visiting the cemetery. Loads of pilgrims come to Smith Ridge every year to pay their respects. Many have told me they think it’s the prettiest spot on God’s earth. I know what they mean. It suits me just fine.

When Carter and I first started out, we never thought our music would ever get past the three or four states around our home. Now, thanks to the O Brother, Where Art Thou? album, I’m more popular than the Stanley Brothers ever was. It still surprises me, and I know it surprises people here in Dickenson County. When Carter died, not many around here reckoned I had what it takes to be a front man. People figured I was the little brother just along for the ride. Even now, they still can’t quite believe I was able to make it without him and go on to make a name for myself. If you’d known me in the early days, a backwards kid who could barely hand over a howdy, you’d be surprised, too.

And after all the places I’ve been, I haven’t changed much from that shy mountain boy. Now, I’m nowhere near as backwards as I was. I like to meet the people at my shows. I know they’re the ones who made me what I am. But it’s still hard for me to converse and make small talk; I never could learn to mix as well as Carter. All those years, I was happy to let Carter do the talking for us both, and he done a good job. And in the time I’ve been on my own, I’ve mostly let my singing do my talking for me.

It’s been so long since Carter passed away. I haven’t talked much about it, or even tried to think much about it. It hurt too much to remember, so I tried to let it go to the past. But I’ve lived so long, the past has caught up with me, and I believe it’s time to face it down. There were a lot of things I never got to tell Carter when he was still around, and tell my mother and so many others who’ve passed on as well. There are a lot of things I haven’t said to a lot of people, and it’s time to change that. I think it’s time for me to look back and remember, the good memories along with the bad. As for time, I don’t know how much I’ve got left. This book is my way of saying all the things I haven’t been able to say, before it’s too late.

It’s funny how we look to other people. A famous photographer once took some pictures of me. She traveled all the way here to Dickenson County. Said she wanted to get me in my natural setting: laying around the house, walking down by the railroad tracks, standing at the old church-house where I sang as a boy. She was a nice lady, but I don’t care much for the photos. Made me look freakish, I think, more like Mr. Death than Dr. Ralph. That’s maybe the way she saw me, but I don’t see myself that way.

Another time a painter done a portrait of me. He had the same sort of notion she did, and he set me out in the countryside, picking the banjo, Clinch Mountains in the distance. The mountains look fine, but the banjo player don’t look a bit like me. “Now, who in the world is that old fellow?” I thought to myself.

I know they were just doing their job, but neither one got close to the man I am. Same with writers. A lot of words been written through the years, and there’s even been a play for the stage. But they played me pretty dumb in that play, made me more backwards than I ever was. The writers told me they done that to sell more tickets, and I can understand, because in a play you can make your story any way you want. It was a good play, I enjoyed watching it, but it really wasn’t me up on that stage.

I’m just an old hillbilly, and proud of it, too. Plain as an old shoe, same as a lot of us mountain people. I think it’s best to try to tell your own life. What people want is to hear the words out of my mouth, and I’m going to do the best job I can, to tell you what I remember. Some politicians and preachers, they’ll talk at you and not to you. The one thing I can promise is to talk to you in plain old words. I know correct and proper English just fine, but I don’t use it because that’s not the way I was raised. I talk natural the same way I sing, so I’m gonna give you my story like I was talking to you across the table.

I’m a man of few words, but I try to make ’em count. It was Carter with the gift for words, not me. But I’ll tell you something I never told Carter, because I wouldn’t have wanted to hurt his feelings. A promoter once said something to me in private, and I’ve never forgot: “Carter’s a lot better talker than you are. But three words from you mean more than a hundred from Carter.”

So this here is the memoir of a man who don’t much like to talk unless he’s got something to say. I’ve kept my mouth shut more than most, but I’ve kept my eyes and ears open all the while. I’ve been paying close attention. I believe that’s how you learn things, by looking and listening.

I know a lot of you are coming to me late, maybe only in the last few years since the O Brother, Where Art Thou? album put me in the spotlight. I’ve seen you newcomers at the shows, and I enjoy seeing your faces out there; I can’t make it without you. I remember the lean years when rock ’n’ roll nearly starved us out, when if I hadn’t had a crowd at a show, I couldn’t have bought gas to get back home. It’s the fans keeping me on the road, the new fans and the old fans like Bob Dylan and so many diehards from the early days who’ve stuck by me. It’s their support that makes me feel I’ve done something worthwhile, that all the hard work and the hard miles ain’t been wasted.

We’ve got a lot of ground to cover, most of a century by my reckoning, so I’m going to pull your ear for a good while, if you have the patience to set a spell and listen to an old man ramble on about the way things used to be. I’ve got plenty of stuff I’ve kept bottled up, and I’m ready to let it out. I give you fair warning: We’re going to spend a lot of time on my early years, because those are the memories that stand out most, just as clear and strong as ever. I couldn’t tell you much about the show we played last week, but I can tell you all about a summer day on Smith Ridge seventy-odd years ago, as fresh in my mind as my mother’s garden after an early-morning rain.

But this book ain’t just for me. It’s for anybody that ever wanted to set down with their grandpa late of a night and hear what all he’s been hoarding up in his memory, things he did and said but he never aired out because he figured nobody much cared. I sure wish I’d had the chance with my grandparents, but they were like so many from these mountains, who lived and died without ever getting to tell their story. Just like some of the best musicians I ever heard never made it off the back porch.

I can count on one hand the people I grew up with from around these parts who are still living. We were the last generation from these mountains to live from the earth. It was a hard life and there was a lot of suffering. But the music we made couldn’t have come from any other place or time. The suffering was part of what made the music strong, and I reckon that’s why it’s lasted. It won’t be long before we’re all of us gone. I hope this book leaves behind something worthwhile to remember us by.

After I’m dead and buried, I don’t know who will be around to carry on the old-time music, the way it’s played and sung the old-time way. But I believe the songs will survive. When I was celebrating my fiftieth anniversary in the business, Bob Dylan sent me a surprise telegram. I will tell you more later about what all he wrote, but the last line said, “You will live forever.” I know Bob wasn’t talking about me, really, but about the songs I helped keep alive down through the years, “Man of Constant Sorrow” and “Pretty Polly” and others that took root here in the Clinch Mountains so long ago. Those old songs were here before me and they’ll be here when I’m gone. What’s real doesn’t die.

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

"The life chronicled in this autobiography is right out of Southern Gothic lit... The level of detail renders Stanley's tales as captivating as his music."
-Rolling Stone

"A delightful, outspoken surprise... An often tart yet affecting music memoir."
-Kirkus (starred review)

"After all these years [Stanley's] tongue is still sharp."
-Wall Street Journal

"[Man of Constant Sorrow] is a lot like the man himself: warm, folksy, down to earth, plainspoken, a little blunt and prickly at times."
-New York Times

"No less than the oral history of a quintessentially American music scene."
-Mother Jones

"This late-in-life memoir is a classic- remarkably frank, detailed, revealing, and from time to time it rises to the level of plainspoken poetry. The master of old time singing and clawhammer banjo pulls no punches as he recalls his rural Virginia mountain boyhood, the Stanleys' slow rise to success, his career restart after his alcoholic brother's death in 1966, and musicians he played with, from Bill Monroe to Keith Whitley and even Bob Dylan. He settles a few scores, shares his inner thoughts on matters social, political and spiritual, and tells his tale in a flowing, engaging style that's no doubt also a credit to Virginia journalist Dean."
-American Songwriter (five stars)

"In the prologue to Man of Constant Sorrow Ralph Stanley writes: 'I've always done my best to honor what God gave me. I've never tried to put any airs on it. I sing it the way I feel it, just the way it comes out.' With music writer Eddie Dean, he relates his life in the same speaking voice - honestly and with extraordinary detail."
-Austin Chronicle

"As fascinating as Stanley's personal revelations are, this book's greatest value lies in his documentary-like descriptions of the hardships rural musicians faced in the 1940s and '50s-crowded cars, band rivalries, long and dangerous roads and hand-to-mouth living."

"Man of Constant Sorrow brims with Stanley's homespun wit as he recalls vivid tales of the church and sawmills of his youth, which served as the wellsprings for the Stanley brothers' halting, soulful music; their days with King Records, when they were label-mates with soul legend James Brown; and the personal struggles Stanley faced after his brother's alcohol-related death."
-American Way

"With music journalist Dean's help, Stanley has put his speech on paper. Every word about his hardscrabble upbringing, how Carter and he built livings in music, his perseverance after Carter's untimely death in 1966, the many personalities he has worked with and admired, and much more, is vibrant with it. Perhaps in the future this lovely book will occupy a position in American autobiography like that of Huckleberry Finn among American novels, as the great vernacular example of its kind."
-Booklist (starred review)

"Man of Constant Sorrow is an invaluable book...You've never heard anything like this story, but if you care anything about great American voices, at the microphone or on the page, you won't miss it."

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