Managing the Aftermath of Infidelity: A Sequential Guide for Therapists and Couples

by Butch Losey

Overview

This book tackles the challenges that arise from infidelity by helping couples heal through the initial experiences of discovery, providing tools to help partners disclose the details of the affair, manage triggering experiences and obtain forgiveness and reconciliation.

Managing in the Aftermath of Infidelity is organized to speak directly to the betraying partner, the betrayed partner, and the therapist independently, offering valuable insights on how each role can assist in making recovery successful. Early chapters direct couples on how to limit potential damage from the fall out of discovery, and subsequent chapters help the couple repair and rebuild a new post-affair relationship. The strategies within this book can be used by the couple alone or as a companion to working with a therapist.

Taking the reader sequentially through the essential steps of affair recovery, this text is an essential guide for marriage counselors and their patients.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781138317789
Publisher:	Taylor & Francis
Publication date:	06/29/2021
Pages:	192
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Butch Losey is an assistant professor at Xavier University, USA and a counselor educator and CEO of a multi-clinician practice in Cincinnati, Ohio. He provides couples counseling for couples recovering from infidelity and other relationship concerns.

Table of Contents

Beginning vii

1 Immediate Actions 1

2 The Dangers in Seeking Support from Family and Friends 13

3 Contact with the Affair Partner 21

4 Lying about the Affair 29

5 The Use of the Polygraph to Detect Lies of the Betraying Partner 35

6 Structured Disclosure 43

7 Rebuilding Trust 67

8 Managing Intrusive Thoughts and Images 82

9 Managing Triggering Experiences 93

10 Grieving in Isolation 103

11 The Revenge Variable 110

12 Erotic Recovery 122

13 Reclaiming Strategies 133

14 Acceptance, Forgiveness and Reconciliation 138

15 Selecting a Therapist for the Two of You 150

16 Ethical and Legal Considerations for Couples Therapy 156

Index 175