Mastering Adulthood: Go Beyond Adulting to Become an Emotional Grown-Up

by Lara E. Fielding PsyD

Overview

Discover smart and entertaining strategies for dealing with difficult emotions like anxiety, sadness, anger, and uncertainty. More than just “adulting”—this book will give you the real emotional skills you need to thrive!

Whether you’re graduating from college, starting a career, trying to gain financial independence, or creating meaningful relationships—entering into the world of grownups can be more than a little overwhelming. And while there are plenty of fun books out there for young adults offering advice on how to fix a leaky faucet or find the right apartment, none really delve into the deeply emotional aspects of growing up.

In Mastering Adulthood, psychologist Lara Fielding offers evidence-based skills to help you cope with the feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, and stress that may be getting in the way of living an independent, fulfilling adult life. Drawing on case examples from young adults she’s worked with in her private practice, Fielding provides empowering strategies and skills for managing difficult emotions using mindfulness, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).

When you experience big life changes that cause you stress, you need emotional flexibility to reach your goals and be your best self. Using the skills in this book, you’ll learn to take charge of your emotional habits, stop feeling stuck, and discover what really matters to you.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781684031931
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	01/02/2019
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	878,718
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Lara E. Fielding, PsyD, is a psychologist who specializes in using mindfulness-based therapies to manage stress and strong emotions. She studied the psychophysiology of stress and emotions at the University of California, Los Angeles; and Harvard; before getting her doctorate at Pepperdine University graduate school of education and psychology, where she is currently adjunct professor.

In her private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, she specializes in treating young adults challenged by the stresses of transitioning roles and responsibilities resulting in difficulties with mood, motivation, and emotion regulation. Her values mission, and aim of her work, is to empower young adults through self-awareness, bridge the gap between research and people, and lowering barriers to availability of science-based mental health interventions. She frequently offers trainings in the community, and freely shares the skills she teaches in her blogs on Thrive Global, www.psychcentral.com, and www.youtube.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Part I Waking Up to the Universal You

1 The Emotional Habits That Bind Us 12

2 Your Mind-Body Vehicle: Your Holistic System 27

3 Passengers: The Hijackers and Bullies 44

4 Learning to Love Your Passengers 57

Part II Unique You: Getting Self-Aware

5 Tuning In to Your Autopilot Patterns 74

6 Setting Your GPS for True North 94

7 Putting Your Vehicle in Gear: Making a Commitment 109

Part III Skillful You: Getting Skilled Up for Mastering Adulthood

8 Making Nice with Emotions: Validation Skills 122

9 Keeping a Wise Eye on Thoughts: Check Skills 140

10 Taking Control of Your Actions: Change Skills 157

Part IV Successful You: Maintaining Commitment to Yourself and Others

11 Sharing the Road with Other Drivers 178

12 Shifting from Autopilot to Mindful-Mastery 192

Acknowledgments 205

References 207

Interviews

Fielding resides in Beverly Hills, CA.

Editorial Reviews

“Finally, a ‘how-to’ book for transition age adults. So often manuals with behavioral skills are either too young or too old for eighteen- to twenty-five-year-olds. Fielding uses examples, stories, and practices that will resonate with people who are entering adulthood. Mastering Adulthood combines mindfulness and current emotion regulation strategies in a practical, easy-to-use format. This book can be used by young adults alone, with others, or in a counseling setting. I have begun to use the dashboard practices and the pauses with my own clients.”
—Shari Manning, PhD, CEO and founder of Treatment Implementation Collaborative and SC Center for Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and author of Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

Shari Manning

“I could not love this book more! Fielding beautifully weaves case examples, personal experience, research, and brilliant use of metaphor, into a fun, easy-to-digest book designed to help young adults tackle the psychological complexities of growing into emotionally competent, independent adults. While the language and examples are geared toward a twentysomething to thirtysomething audience, any individual interested in greater self-knowledge and psychological growth can benefit from the evidence-based concepts in Mastering Adulthood—I know I did!”
—Jill A. Stoddard, PhD, director of The Center for Stress and Anxiety Management in San Diego, CA, and coauthor of The Big Book of ACT Metaphors

Jill A. Stoddard

“There is more to adulthood than handling its instrumental challenges: If you stop there, you will never learn how to create the kind of life you really want. This comprehensive and cleverly organized book invites you to look more deeply at your habits of handling emotions, to find what really motivates you, and then to construct the skills you need build your life around deeper goals: relationships that matter; work that prospers; a profound connection with life. Adulthood doesn’t come with an owner’s manual—you need to explore what makes you tick and draft your own. This book will help. Highly recommended.”
—Steven C. Hayes, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of Nevada, developer of acceptance and commitment therapy, and author of Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life

Steven C. Hayes

“Mastering Adulthood does a masterful job of bringing timeless wisdom and practical solutions to young adults. Current social and economic conditions can seem challenging to young people who seek to live lives of meaning, purpose, and joy. Fielding provides evidence-based methods, humor, and practical enlightenment for those facing these hurdles. In fact, this user-friendly guidebook for living with mindful purpose could help just about anybody, at any stage of life.”
—Dennis Tirch, PhD, author of The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, and founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy

Dennis Tirch

“This is the book I needed to grow up. Here is help to know what truly matters, what you truly care about. And with clarity about core values comes motivation and a surer sense of direction. Of equal importance is how Mastering Adulthood helps you overcome the emotional and mental roadblocks—those nasty passengers everyone carries—that sometimes keep you from fully embracing life. This masterful book, based on the principles of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), can throw open the doors to becoming a vital, self-directed grown-up.”
—Matthew McKay, PhD, coauthor of Mind and Emotions

Matthew McKay

“Lara Fielding’s enthusiasm for helping those who wish to have an engaging and meaningful adult life shines through in Mastering Adulthood. Her ability to guide you through learning how to develop and practice psychological flexibility, as well as emotion management, is skillful. She has created a book grounded in solid evidence of psychological theory and practice that will help those grappling with how to participate in “adulting” find new ways to cope with the realities of adulthood in a fast-paced world. For those thousands of people seeking guidance on how to successfully navigate this thing called living, Fielding expertly teaches you how to get in the driver’s seat and steer toward success!”
—Robyn D. Walser, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist; coauthor of Learning ACT, The Mindful Couple, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for the Treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma-Related Problems; and author of The Heart of ACT

Robyn D. Walser

“Adulthood is becoming more complicated. All of us need help, and Lara E. Fielding has written a wonderful guide. Mastering Adulthood will teach readers how patterned habits keep us stuck, how to then develop new and more effective behaviors, and the practice of mindfulness as key to establishing a more grounded and emotionally attuned life.”
—Blaise Aguirre, MD, medical director of 3East DBT-Continuum at McLean Hospital, assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and coauthor of Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder and Coping with BPD

Blaise Aguirre

11/15/2018

Psychologist Fielding uses her background in mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapies to help young people master the emotional aspects of growing up. The author discusses feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, and stress and prescribes antidotes in the form of mindfulness practices. Divided into four sections, the work considers understanding one's own hardwiring, setting commitments, identifying one's skills, and putting together a personalized plan for maintaining wellness. VERDICT Great for mindfulness devotees but otherwise an optional purchase.

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