More Than Just the Talk: Becoming Your Kids' Go-To Person About Sex

More Than Just the Talk: Becoming Your Kids' Go-To Person About Sex

by Jonathan McKee


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ISBN-13: 9780764212949
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 03/17/2015
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 811,799
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Jonathan McKee is an expert on youth with more than twenty years of youth-ministry experience and three teens of his own. In addition to running his popular parenting and youth-ministry websites, he has written over a dozen books and speaks each year at more than thirty conferences and parenting workshops around the world. Jonathan and his wife, Lori, and their children live near Sacramento, California. Learn more at

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More Than Just the Talk: Becoming Your Kids' Go-To Person About Sex 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 8 reviews.
SeasonsofGrace More than 1 year ago
 After growing up in a conservative home, where sex was not discussed often and when it was, at least to me, it seemed to be in a negative context. It mostly came across as a "thou shalt not" topic. (This is not to reflect negatively on my parents, who by the way, I love, respect, and think very highly of)  I believe it was just the way sex was addressed back then, or how they were taught. Sex was to be saved for marriage, anything else was taboo. (Of course, I still feel that way) But I think the presentation could have been a little more positive, and that is what I like about this book. Sex was just not something we "talked" about. Maybe we should have been more open. It made people uncomfortable. And even in raising my oldest, I was the same way. But now I see that we need to be talking about this in a positive light with our children. Because everyone else is!!! Society is broadcasting sex left and right. Media, magazines, music, video games, and almost all sorts of entertainment use sex or sexual content to market, support, propagate their product. Sex is appealing. And it should be, because God created it that way, but not the way the world is marketing it to our children. So what is this book all about? Being pro-active! Combating those loud voices that are talking to your children. Being your child's go to person when it comes to questions about sex. Hearing those "shocking" questions without freaking out, and being able to answer them in a way that won't turn God's gift into something negative. With all the negative feed our children are getting, we as parents have a choice to be open and honest, to present the truth of God's plan for sex and marriage, and to keep open the doors of communication. This book addresses tough issues, the appropriate age to begin talking to your children, how to answer those hard questions, and what to do if your child has already gotten involved in areas you would rather not think about. It is never too late, and in some ways, it is never too early to open those doors of conversation. The things you think they never think about, may already be on their minds. I personally, feel like every parent, especially Christian ones, would benefit from reading this book. I know it has really been helpful to me, and I intend to keep it as a reference for future use. I received this book from Bethany House in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own. I was not given any other compensation and not required to review this positively.
LVandercook More than 1 year ago
More Thank Just the Talk by Jonathan McKee is a great book to encourage parents to talk about tough sexual topics with their children. He gives examples of questions, Biblical advice, and gives suggestions to help parents through this tough time. My favorite quote of the book was in answer to the "How far is too far?" question. His answer is don't do anything that you wouldn't do in front of your grandma. Thinking about my own parents and my children, I would say that is pretty sound advice, and something that I wish someone had said to me. Jonathan's down to earth advice is very helpful in encouraging parents in today's media-friendly world in which kids are simply exposed to things in a way that we weren't when we were kids. I was given a free copy of this book from Bethany Publishing House in exchange for my honest review. I recommend this book.
S-Scales More than 1 year ago
This is a great and needed book!! It was well written and easy to read — not due to the subject matter, but I guess you could say in spite of the subject matter. Jonathan McKee’s humor was just the right amount to lighten the mood of the reader (no defeatist attitude here!) while not making lessing the importance of such this issue. This book was both eye-opening and encouraging. He has a chapter specifically written towards helping our daughters and another for our sons. His “How Far?” chapter has a perfect example involving a toothbrush and a toilet!! (You’ll have to check that out!!) He also helps readers as parents and leaders who are guiding kids as they understand and stay away from issues like porn and masturbation. His “Tough Questions” chapter is a good resources to address specific questions he has heard from kids and parents. Continuing conversations, asking questions, and building relationships are huge parts of “becoming your kids’ go-to person about sex”! His tips for keeping conversations open are… Don’t Overreact  Don’t Make Sex “Naughty” Keep Your Eyes Open for Natural Springboards Ask, Listen…Repeat My husband and I want to help our kids in the areas of purity. We want them to guard their hearts and their eyes as they grow and mature. We want them to look forward to experiencing God’ wonderful gift of sex in marriage!!  Resources like this book are welcomed tools for us as parents! I received this book for free from Bethany House in exchange for my honest, unbiased opinion.
michelemorin More than 1 year ago
One of the rites of passage in our family of four boys has been the one-on-one camp out with Dad. Around the age of ten or eleven, before they were interested in girls, before their bodies started to take on a mind of their own, my good husband took them away for a weekend of canoeing and hotdogs; tenting and s’mores; swimming and “The Talk.” He had all kinds of resources to serve as a broad outline, but the main reason why the whole experience was not bathed in awkwardness is that he has had an open-door policy for “that kind of question” ever since he was changing their diapers. Obviously, I have been involved in our boys’ sex-education as well — I was with them 24/7 when they were all young. But their dad has been their go-to guy, and he’s happy about that. If More Than Just the Talk by Jonathan McKee had been written a few years earlier, he would have read it and used it, because the author candidly addresses topics that might not occur to the average middle-aged parent. He would rather run the risk of offending his reader with startling truth than to allow them to be blind-sided by real life after it’s too late. Running through the book is the all-important Deuteronomy principle that you don’t just sit down and discuss “plumbing and mechanics” with your children when they hit puberty and consider that your work is done. Our children receive inaccurate and damaging information about sex from entertainment media and technology — McKee calls them The Pseudo Parent. Kids get this information about dating, sex, and friendships a little here, a little there, when they are sitting in their house, when they are walking by the way. . . Anyone hearing an allusion to Deuteronomy? This is the premise of More Than Just the Talk: if you want to be the one who shapes your child’s bedrock beliefs about sex, you have to be available for explicit day-to-day conversations about issues you might prefer not to acknowledge, at times of the day (or night) when you’d rather be doing something else — like sleeping. The Pseudo Parent is explicit (think about song lyrics for a minute), so the REAL parent has to avoid the trap of using “irrelevant words from a different era” in conversations about sex. Speaking frankly from his own regrets, McKee shares personal experiences that have shaped the way he deals with questions in his present-day ministry with teens. Most of the questions he has heard from teens over the years about the “rightness or wrongness” of specific behaviors boil down to one clear answer: “Lusting is wrong.” Based on this biblical truth (Matthew 5:27-29), McKee encourages believers to flee sexual sin in all its forms and provides some very specific and practical conversational guidelines for teaching our sons and our daughters what it looks like to pursue righteousness, for this truly is the path, more than just the avoidance of sin, which leads to life and freedom. More Than Just the Talk is based in reality, and parents may gulp at the startling statistics around sexual activity, use of pornography, and the prevalence of STD’s. However, they are offered with hope that readers will take on their kids’ unanswered questions about sex with explicit information that is offered like a calm voice of hope in their child’s ear saying, “Sex is good. It’s a gift from God. You can talk to me about anything.” Disclosure: This book was provided by Bethany House Publishers, a division of Baker Publishing Group, in exchange for my honest review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Book description:  "The old ways of having the "sex talk" just won't cut it anymore. Sadly, the number one place today's young people go to for answers about sex is Google. Meanwhile, kids view nearly 14,000 sexual references a year on television, and 70 percent of teenagers have encountered pornography on the Internet. If we want our children to know the truth about healthy sexuality, we need to create a comfortable climate of continual conversations. Jonathan McKee will show you how to move beyond the initial awkwardness of this subject into an ongoing communication with your kids about God's amazing gift of sex. He equips you with what you need to talk openly about dating, temptation, porn, and purity, and you will find answers to tough questions and relevant Scripture on sexual issues. It's normal for kids to be curious about sexuality, and they need to know that their parents are the most reliable source of information. Be the one your kids turn to on this crucial topic." My review:  "More than Just the Talk"  is a wonderful resource for parents!  Jonathan McKee presents astonishing statistics that help make you realize how important it is to have open communication with your children.  Not only does he inform and convince the reader of the importance of talking openly with your children about sexual issues, but he gives tips and suggestions on how to talk with them while referencing Scripture throughout the book.  I highly recommend this book to all Christian parents.  I received a complimentary e-copy of this book from Bethany House publishers in exchange for an honest review.  All opinions are my own. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
How do you approach your children and teenager’s questions about sexuality and its place in God’s plan for husbands and wives who are married and committed only to each other? Not too long ago, parents addressed the topic of sex with their teenagers with a one-time talk that may or may not have answered all questions.  Author Jonathan McKee, in his new book More than Just the Talk: Becoming Your Kids’ Go-To Person About Sex, explains to us that in a culture of lies and sexual perversions, our children need to be able to feel comfortable enough to come to us about all sexual questions and concerns about sexual behaviors or they will get explanations and lies from inaccurate and wrong sources.  Drawing upon his experience as a youth counselor, McKee introduces parents to the loud voices that youth face every day regarding their sexuality and how those voices and influences often go directly against God’s commandment that sexual relations exist only between a man and a woman married to each other. With specific examples to underscore his experiences working with youth, McKee offers practical suggestions of how parents and influential adults can teach youth to understand for themselves why waiting for sexual relations within marriage is worth the wait. He also discusses common lies and misunderstandings that youth often have about sex and how that affects their behavior when they do not understand God’s law.  Finally, McKee addresses pervasive sexual perversions, like pornography, that youth confront in our culture and how responsible adults can teach and help youth understand the dangers of accepting and participating in activities that distort God’s true purpose for sexual relations.  Overall, McKee presents a candid, informative message of how to approach our youth with candor and honesty as we help them understand for themselves why sex is good when it complies with God’s laws, and why sex is harmful to them when distorted, perverted, and casually approached outside of God’s prescribed boundaries. Bethany House gave me a complimentary copy of More than Just the Talk by Jonathan McKee for my candid review.
tmurrell2 More than 1 year ago
Parents use to be able to have "the talk" with their children and leave it at that. But today our children are constantly coming in contact with sex in some aspect or another. With phones, internet, and television being so accessible we, as parents, need to be super vigilant about what our children are coming in contact with. And this means knowing the dangers and being comfortable talking to our kids about them. This author really knew his stuff. He presented facts and statistics in an easy to read and digest manner. The information is often difficult to read, but he did a great job of making it relevant and applicable. I liked how he seemed to touch on every subject a parent might come up against and then gave practical ways to deal with it. His focus was from a Christian stand point and was well rounded and straight forward. This book is about sex, so be prepared. But it is definitely a book that all parents should be reading. I received this book free of charge from Bethany House in exchange for my honest review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When I received More Than Just "The Talk" in the mail, the irony of me reviewing this book brought a few laughs. I am, after all, a married woman with no children. However, I quickly realized that it was important for me to read this book at this pre-children stage of life. In More Than Just "The Talk," Jonathan McKee uses present-day examples, research, his experience, and Scripture to give parents the knowledge to confidently approach conversations about sex with their children. He emphasizes the importance of regular conversations throughout childhood instead of one hallmark talk - often referred to as The Talk. McKee provides realistic ways to answer the tough questions that children and teenagers ask. He includes a sampling of questions, but also gives parents the tools to answer unexpected questions, or to buy time if the parent needs time to form an answer. I also appreciated how McKee uses More Than Just "The Talk" to review parental reactions to their child who is struggling with sexual temptation, including sexual promiscuity, pornography addiction, or masturbation. His recommendations balance God's forgiveness, the reality of consequences, and ways to learn from mistakes. I didn't always enjoy McKee's writing style; however, More Than Just "The Talk" was easy to read and included repeated review of content that I believe would be helpful for readers. More Than Just "The Talk" would also be a beneficial read for mentors, grandparents, youth leaders, teachers, pastors, and anyone who interacts with children or youth on a routine basis. Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.