In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse.
Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.
Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.
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Table of Contents
Part I Identifying the Mother Wound
1 The Taboo of Questioning Your Mother's Love: "Don't you dare say anything had about your mother." 13
2 The Severely Narcissistic Mother: "But what about me?" 24
3 The Overly Enmeshed Mother: "You are my whole life." 51
4 The Control Freak Mother: "Because I said so." 69
5 Mothers Who Need Mothering: "I depend on you to take care of everything." 87
6 Mothers Who Neglect, Betray, and Batter: "You're always causing trouble." 105
Part II Healing the Mother Wound
7 The Beginnings of Truth: "I'm starting to see it wasn't all my fault." 139
8 Acknowledging the Painful Feelings: "It feels so good to get it all out." 156
9 Tapping the Wisdom in Your Anger and Grief: "I'm ready to face the feelings I've pushed down for so long." 171
10 Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life: "I see that change is really hard, but not changing is harder." 192
11 Setting Boundaries: "I would never have believed I had the right to say no." 206
12 Deciding What Kind of Relationship You Want Now: "I finally feel like an adult." 222
13 The Most Difficult Decision: "It's come down to a choice between my mother and my well-being." 242
14 Old, Sick, or Alone: The Suddenly Dependent Mother: "I have to be there for her. After all, she is still my mother." 253
Coda: Connecting, at Last, with the Good Mother 263
Suggested Reading 273