Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood

by Foster Cline, Jim Fay

Overview

Parents need help to teach their teens how to make decisions responsibly—and do so without going crazy or damaging the relationship.

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, from the duo who wrote Parenting with Love and Logic, empowers parents with the skills necessary to set limits, teach important skills, and encourage decision-making in their teenagers.

Covering a wide range of real-life issues teens face—including divorce, ADD, addiction, and sex—this book gives you the tools to help your teens find their identity and grow in maturity. Indexed for easy reference.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781576839300
Publisher:	The Navigators
Publication date:	05/03/2006
Series:	A Modern Girl's Bible Study Series
Edition description:	Updated
Pages:	320
Product dimensions:	6.40(w) x 9.30(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

FOSTER W. CLINE, M.D. is an internationally recognized psychiatrist. He is a consultant to mental health organizations, parents groups, and schools across North America. He specialized in working with difficult children.

JIM FAY has thirty-one years on experience as an educator ans school principal. He is recognized as one of America's top educational consultants ans has won many awards in the educational field. He successfully guided his three children through their childhood and teen years using love and logic.

Table of Contents

Foreword ix

Introduction 1

Part 1 Love and Logic Parents Grow Up

1 Teenagers 101: Welcome to Parenting Graduate School 9

A Disturbing Call 12

Who's in Charge Here? 13

A Change of Tactics 14

Learning Responsibility 15

The Times They Are a-Changin' 16

Braving the Challenges of the Next Generation 19

A Reason for Hope 21

2 Love and Logic Parenting: Will It Work with Teenagers? 23

Standing on Their Own Two Feet 25

Helicopter Parents 25

The Evolution of the Helicopter Parent: The Turboshaft-Powered Attack Model 27

Drill Sergeant Parents 28

The Laissez-Faire Parent 30

The Consultant Parent 31

The Love and Logic Way 36

3 Back to the Basics, Part One: Training Teens to Act Responsibly 41

Basic Self-Concept-Who Am I? 42

Love and Logic Principle: Responsible Teens Feel Good about Themselves 46

Love and Logic Principle: Responsibility Is Caught, Not Taught 48

Love and Logic Principle: Let Teens Own Their Problems and Their Solutions 51

Love and Logic Principle: Neutralizing Teen Arguing Keeps the Focus on Them 53

4 Back to the Basics, Part Two: Treating Teenagers as Responsible Adults 57

Love and Logic Principle: Gaining Control through Choices 57

Love and Logic Principle: Sharing Control through Thinking Words 67

Love and Logic Principle: Empathy and Sorrow Plus Consequences Equals Success 71

Love and Logic Principle: Consequences Don't Have to Be Immediate 73

Love and Logic Principle: Building a Lifelong Relationship 77

Living on the Edge 78

Part 2 Living on the Edge: The Wild and Wonderful Challenges of Parenting Teenagers

5 Fasten Your Seat Belt and Enjoy the Ride 81

Why Parents Should Relax 82

Some Things Parents Need to Understand 85

Three Types of Teens 86

Again, Relax 95

6 Understanding Teens from the Inside Out: Internal Changes in Adolescence 97

Changes in Thinking 98

Physical Changes 102

Teaching Youths about Sex 105

Psychological Changes (Changes in Values) 113

Dealing with Rebellion 115

Let Them Go and Let Them Grow 117

7 Understanding Teens from the Outside In: External Changes in Adolescence 119

The Pressure of Social Change 120

Different Circumstances, Same Needs 122

What's Different Today 124

Pressures from Outside the Home 125

Riding the Waves of Trends 129

Pressures from Inside the Home 131

Save Your Emotional Energy 134

8 Ready, Set-Off into the Real World 137

Welcome to the Real World 138

Techniques for World-Wise Teens 139

Parenting Perspectives on Real-World Readiness 144

What Love and Logic Is Not 151

Ready, Set, Go! 157

Part 3 Love and Logic Parenting Pearls

How to Use Love and Logic Pearls 160

1 Aggressive Behavior 161

2 Appearance: Clothing, Hairstyle, and Other Surprises 163

3 Arguments 168

4 Back in the Nest: If an Older Child Needs to Move Home 171

5 Back Talk 173

6 Cars, Driving, and Catching Rides 177

7 Church and Synagogue: When Teens Don't Want to Go 181

8 College Expenses: Who Pays? 184

9 Crisis Situations 186

10 Curfews 188

11 Dating 192

12 Disrespect 196

13 Divorce and Visitation 199

14 Drug or Substance Abuse 207

15 Eating Disorders 211

16 Entitlement 213

17 Friends and Peer Pressure 217

18 Giving Gifts to Our Adolescents 219

19 Grades 222

20 Grounding 228

21 Jobs 230

22 Leadership: Prepare Your Teen to Be a Leader 233

23 Money 235

24 Mood Swings 239

25 Music 241

26 Orders: To Give or Not to Give 243

27 Parties 246

28 Professional Help: When to Seek It 250

29 Runaways 252

30 Satanism and Religious Cults 255

31 Sex 258

32 The Silent Treatment 262

33 Social and Extracurricular Activities 264

34 Sports 267

35 Suicide Threats 272

36 Technology: The Internet, Phones, Pornography, Television and Videos, and Video Games 274

37 Violence: Cyberbullying and Gangs 291

Notes 297

Index 299