Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More

by Crystal Stine

Overview

Trade comparison for contentment.
Self-criticism for confidence.
Insecurity for peace.

You feel the pressures from society, social media, and even yourself weighing heavy upon you: do more, be better, try harder. No matter how well you can fake it, this hustle to act like the model woman, wife, mother, and friend leaves you feeling exhausted and unworthy.

Crystal Stine spent years striving to meet those same impossible standards, only to realize this struggle was diminishing the woman God made her to be. In Quieting the Shout of Should, she shares how her heavenly Father transformed her priorities when she traded guilt and burnout for obedience and worship.

Incorporating personal stories, reflective devotions, and thoughtful discussion questions, Crystal will help prepare you to…

• relinquish the burdens of perfectionism, comparison, and jealousy
• choose small daily steps to refocus your gaze on God
• find freedom by embracing all God made you to be

You don’t have to keep fighting to live up to the world’s ideals. Quieting the Shout of Should will help you redefine your self-worth and move into the abundant life God has for you.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780736981002
Publisher:	Harvest House Publishers
Publication date:	10/06/2020
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)
Age Range:	3 Months to 18 Years

About the Author

Crystal Stine encourages women to pursue holy hustle—a work-hard, rest-well lifestyle that chases faith instead of fame. Along with being a popular speaker, she is the author of Creative Basics, creator of the “Clarity Coaching” course, and editor of Craving Connection by the (in)courage team. Crystal lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and daughter.

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

Part 1 Relationships

1 I Should Be More Like Her 13

2 I Should Be a Better Mother 25

3 I Should Have More Friends 39

Quiet Time 53

Part 2 Personality and Possessions

4 I Should Have More Things by Now 67

5 I Should Want to Host 77

6 I Should Speak Up More/Less 91

7 I Should Apologize Less 103

8 I Should Stop Worrying and Be Happier 115

Quiet Time 127

Part 3 Time and Talents

9 I Should Work Less and Serve More 141

10 I Should Have Achieved That Dream by Now 155

Quiet Time 167

Part 4 Faith

11 I Should Pray More 181

12 I Should Never Doubt What God Has Planned for Me 195

Quiet Time 209

Appendix: Women Who Silenced Should 221

Notes 235

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

"Whether it's a constant whisper or an overwhelming shout, 'the shoulds' we play in our head over and over can plague us for a lifetime. In Quieting the Shout of Should, Crystal Stine helps us identify the nagging lies we believe and replace them with the truth and freedom that is available to us in Christ today. If you find yourself trapped in the endless cycle of doubt, fear, comparison, and insecurity and are looking for a solid biblical approach to experiencing your life anew, this book is for you."
—Ruth Schwenk, Founder of TheBetterMom.com, cohost of Rootlike Faith podcast, coauthor of In a Boat in the Middle of a Lake

"Crystal has done a clear job of identifying the many areas where women get defeated, carry guilt, or explain away how God has created them. She gives everyday examples that make me think she is reading my journal! Crystal provides practical, biblical ways to work through some of the lies and barriers we encounter. In a time when it’s so easy to compare ourselves to others, it’s a breath of fresh air to have someone give us permission to step into everything God has for each one of us uniquely!"
—Clare Smith, speaker, trainer, coach 

"It’s hard enough trying to navigate life without constant reminders of how we’re not doing it right. In her utterly upfront and expansive new book, Quieting the Shout of Should, Crystal reminds us our value to God is in who we are in His sight, not in who we or others think we should be. Crystal beautifully shares her own honest stories of faith and failure and how we can serve and love from a place of strength, not striving. Her wise words will provide readers practical actions and sound advice to quiet the shouts of should in our own lives."
—Kate Battistelli, author of The God Dare and Growing Great Kids

"The shout of should beats its angry drum louder than ever now. With clarity and grace, Crystal Stine leads us through the battlefields of life, uncovering expectations and realities that keep us from fully embracing what God has for us. This book is a crucial guide for anyone who desires to live past the boundaries of should in the land of freedom."
—Erin Moon, author of Every Broken Thing, The Comfortable Words, and O Heavy Lightness

Editorial Reviews

"Whether it's a constant whisper or an overwhelming shout, 'the shoulds' we play in our head over and over can plague us for a lifetime. In Quieting the Shout of Should, Crystal Stine helps us identify the nagging lies we believe and replace them with the truth and freedom that is available to us in Christ today. If you find yourself trapped in the endless cycle of doubt, fear, comparison, and insecurity and are looking for a solid biblical approach to experiencing your life anew, this book is for you."
—Ruth Schwenk, Founder of TheBetterMom.com, cohost of Rootlike Faith podcast, coauthor of In a Boat in the Middle of a Lake

"Crystal has done a clear job of identifying the many areas where women get defeated, carry guilt, or explain away how God has created them. She gives everyday examples that make me think she is reading my journal! Crystal provides practical, biblical ways to work through some of the lies and barriers we encounter. In a time when it’s so easy to compare ourselves to others, it’s a breath of fresh air to have someone give us permission to step into everything God has for each one of us uniquely!"
—Clare Smith, speaker, trainer, coach 

"It’s hard enough trying to navigate life without constant reminders of how we’re not doing it right. In her utterly upfront and expansive new book, Quieting the Shout of Should, Crystal reminds us our value to God is in who we are in His sight, not in who we or others think we should be. Crystal beautifully shares her own honest stories of faith and failure and how we can serve and love from a place of strength, not striving. Her wise words will provide readers practical actions and sound advice to quiet the shouts of should in our own lives."
—Kate Battistelli, author of The God Dare and Growing Great Kids

"The shout of should beats its angry drum louder than ever now. With clarity and grace, Crystal Stine leads us through the battlefields of life, uncovering expectations and realities that keep us from fully embracing what God has for us. This book is a crucial guide for anyone who desires to live past the boundaries of should in the land of freedom."
—Erin Moon, author of Every Broken Thing, The Comfortable Words, and O Heavy Lightness

From the Publisher