Raising Cubby: A Father and Son's Adventures with Asperger's, Trains, Tractors, and High Explosives

Raising Cubby: A Father and Son's Adventures with Asperger's, Trains, Tractors, and High Explosives

by John Elder Robison


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780307884855
Publisher: Crown/Archetype
Publication date: 03/18/2014
Pages: 384
Sales rank: 577,542
Product dimensions: 5.10(w) x 7.90(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

JOHN ELDER ROBISON is the author of two previous books, the New York Times bestseller Look Me in the Eye and Be Different.  He lectures widely on autism and neurological differences, and is a member of the Interagency Autism Coordinating Committee of the US Dept. of Health and Human Services.  John also serves on committees and review boards for the CDC and the National Institutes of Health. A machinery enthusiast and avid photographer, John lives in Amherst, Massachusetts with his family, animals, and machines.

Table of Contents

1 Every Parent's Worst Nightmare 1

2 From Dropout to Executive 6

3 An Incipient Bear Cub 17

4 Names 23

5 Hatching Time 26

6 A Proud, Scared Dad 31

7 The King of Everything 36

8 Two-Wheel Drive 42

9 Tell Me What You Want 47

10 The Aerial Child 52

11 Monsters 55

12 Child Support 58

13 The Best Kid in the Store 61

14 Wondrous Dada 68

15 Tuck-in Time 73

16 Role Models 81

17 Elves 87

18 The Oxbow Incident 94

19 The Old Boy 100

20 The Power of Wizards 106

21 Becoming Owners 111

22 Cubby Versus the School 119

23 Reading 129

24 An Official Geek 133

25 Divorce 139

26 Dreaming Cubby 144

27 Child Protection 149

28 Bulldozing Off 152

29 The Strolling of the Heifers 156

30 From Stockholder to Chairman 161

31 Gymnastics 165

32 Geologists 170

33 Learning to Drive 176

34 Power Generation 183

35 Boom! 191

36 Amherst 198

37 Pine Demons 208

38 A New Nest 214

39 In the High School Groove 219

40 A Different Animal 226

41 Nicole 231

42 Declaration of Independence 239

43 Blowing Up 246

44 A Visit from the ATF 256

45 The Raid Begins 268

46 The Locus of the Investigation 273

47 The Circus Must Go On 283

48 The DA 292

49 Arraignment 301

50 Asperger's and Cubby 304

51 In Limbo 308

52 The Trial Begins 313

53 The Crime of Inquisitiveness 320

54 Defending Cubby 329

55 The Verdict 339

Epilogue 342

Author's Note 355

Acknowledgments 357

Closing the Circle 361

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“How does a man who lacks a sense of empathy and an ability to read nonverbal cues learn to be a father? And how does a man with Asperger’s learn to recognize the same symptoms in his own child? (A key element in the book is Robison’s son’s own diagnosis, and Robison’s reaction to his having missed seeing the signs for as long as he had.) In many ways, this is a traditional father-and-son memoir, but the added element of Asperger’s gives the story a stronger emotional core: when Robison and his wife separated, for example, he realized he had been misreading a lot of what had been going on between them. It’s a story of a man learning to be a parent, yes, but it’s also—and perhaps more importantly—the story of a man discovering, as an adult, who he really is.”

"John Elder Robison is one of my autism super heroes because he bravely brings humor and humility to the heart and soul of the taboo and unexpected corners of life lived with autism.  His new book, Raising Cubby, is more than a memoir about a father and son bound by their Asperger syndrome. It’s a story that reminds us how precious and precarious the parent child relationship is and how beautiful our lives can be when we are share that ride together. Raising Cubby is Robison’s best work yet.”
Liane Holliday-Willey, coauthor of Pretending To Be Normal: Living with Asperger Syndrome
“John Robison's skill as a master storyteller is nowhere more evident than in his third book, Raising Cubby. This heartwarming memoir takes us on the colorful journey of John and his son, Jack (aka Cubby), as they learn about the world together. At turns funny and poignant, it is, above all, the story of the powerful love of a father for his son. Told in the immensely entertaining and engaging style of John Elder Robison, it should be on everyone’s must-read list.”
Lori S. Shery, President and Founder, ASPEN®

"Funny and moving...A warmhearted, appealing account by a masterful storyteller."
Kirkus Reviews

"Robison's third book starts with a bang—his description of the 'malicious explosion' created by his teenage Cubby that has the boy, who has Asperger's syndrome, looking at 60 years in prison, is as disconcerting as it is captivating....With the ensuing investigation and trial, Cubby and the author are drawn into a crazy world that threatens to tear apart their already delicate lives."
Publishers Weekly

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Raising Cubby: A Father and Son's Adventures with Asperger's, Trains, Tractors, and High Explosives 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 6 reviews.
Jimmy-Chaos More than 1 year ago
This is simply an amazing book. Even if you don't know the first thing about Aspergers, you're sure to find this memoir touching, hilarious, and inspiring. You'll also walk away with a better insight into both parenting and autism. All of John's books are terrific and I recommend all of them, but I especially recommend this one for parents; you don't have to have a child on the spectrum to walk away with some great advice. I cannot say enough great things about this book and its author-you just have to read it for yourself. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Raising Cubby is the third book by American author, classic car restorer and Aspergian, John Elder Robison. In it, he details the challenges faced by a father with Asperger’s Syndrome as he tries to raise a child whom he belatedly learns has the same condition. From describing the plight of a person who cannot detect behavioural cues trying to understand a baby, through making up bedtime stories, battling with inflexible school authorities and finally on to the high school chemistry hobby that brings the ATF visiting and ends with a court appearance, Robison’s narrative is often hilarious, occasionally poignant and always interesting. Robison’s imaginative explanations are a great source of humour: how Santa got his reindeer; where babies come from; flying lizards; children with tails; nuclear horses; and being bear bait. He takes a novel approach to getting his son to sleep. Looking at trains takes on a whole other meaning with Cubby and his dad. Together they practice the economies of labour unique to bachelors; they experience their own version of the running of the bulls; they design their own house; they even get to be Chairman Mao (for a short while). Bizarre behaviour can become perfectly logical when explained by an Aspergian. It is gratifying to read just how positive Robison remains despite all the challenges and setbacks he has faced. This memoir is a fascinating look into the very different world of the Aspergian. Funny, moving and quite captivating.
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HarrietteWilson More than 1 year ago
A completely original memoir. Funny and fierce and loving and compelling, a father and son with creative and adventurous turns of mind as well as Asperger's Syndrome diagnosis navigate the world together.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
GREAT READ!!! I didn't want to put it down.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago