Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More

Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More

by Janet Mock


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ISBN-13: 9781476709130
Publisher: Atria Books
Publication date: 12/02/2014
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 86,806
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Janet Mock is a writer, TV host, and advocate tackling stigma through storytelling. With a Master’s in journalism from New York University, the Honolulu native began her career as an editor at and went on to write cover stories for Marie Claire, Interview, and The Advocate as well as essays for The New Yorker, The New York Times, and Lenny. She produced HBO’s The Trans List, hosts the podcast Never Before, and serves as a columnist for Allure. Called a “fearless new voice” and “trailblazing leader” who “changed my way of thinking” by Oprah Winfrey, Janet was a featured speaker at the historic Women’s March on Washington. She is the author of Surpassing Certainty and the New York Times bestseller Redefining Realness. Find out more at

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Author’s Note

This book is my truth and personal history. I have recalled facts, from events to people, to the best of my ability. When memory failed me, I did not seek answers in imagination. I sought clarity through conversations with those who’ve shared experiences with me. When my recollection of events varied from theirs, I sided with my memory and used their voice, often direct quotes, to contextualize events.
Many people featured in the book gave me permission to use their names; others I changed or labeled with an initial to protect their privacy, whether they were guilty, innocent, indifferent, or somewhere in between.
As for terminology, I prefer to use trans over transgender or transsexual when identifying myself, although I don’t find either offensive.I do not use real or genetic or biological or natural to describe the sex,body, or gender of those who are not trans. Instead, I’ve used cis, aterm applied to those who are not trans and therefore less likely toexperience the misalignment of their gender identity and assigned sex at birth—a matter we do not control, yet one that continues to frame who is normalized or stigmatized.
Finally, though I highlight some of the shared experiences of trans women and women of color throughout this book, it was not written with the intent of representation. There is no universal women’s experience. We all have stories, and this is one personal narrative out of untold thousands, and I am aware of the privilege I hold in telling my story. Visit for more information, resources, and writings.

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Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 11 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
An important read. Courageous. World changing.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Girls, give YOURSELF a gift this Valentine’s Day and every day by purchasing a copy of Janet Mock’s debut book, Redefining Realness. Janet Mock sweetly lulls and fiercely incites. She shares her family relationships, navigation of gender, a specific generation-X and millennial cusp experience of Hawaiian and U.S. history, as well as the statistically often untold and violently obscured and suppressed story of girlhood for a young trans* girl of color. She shares with us her journeying and surviving. Janet Mock is steadfast. In her “Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love, and So Much More,” she shares her stories - like one about watching Sailor Moon in early mornings before school with her younger brothers, a childhood story about running through the yard in her Grandma’s mumu, and the lived realities of being a teenage sex worker. Put simply, Janet Mock is a girl’s girl, and if you are as well, then this is the book for you!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
There is so much power in sharing your own story. Janet's book was an incredible opening of her life and soul. Thank you so much for this gift Janet.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If words could sing, thus would be an orchestra. The direct style is "softened" by excellent visual descriptions of the world that the author wants us to visit. There is true courage and honesty, which is the point. You learn to feel realness for the characters (real ppl) and love, hate and want to know more about them...especially Janet. You feel her vulnerability and strength at same time. Amazing Book!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Started reading this and couldn't stop. Simply amazing.
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Janet Mock's life story of growing up and coming to terms with her identity, not just her gender, is powerful.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is arguably the hardest book one could write about oneself. Mock writes this with grace and incredible insight into her experience of being trans. She writes that every trans person's history is unique, but I think in reading this a reader can get tremendous insight into what it is like for her to be trans that may suggest what it's like for anyone to be trans. It's a very revealing book, told with great courage and with nothing held back.
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June222013 More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing very well written and very easy to read ms. Mock brings you along thru her life story and along the way you see just how amazing the human spirit really is