Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

by Henry Cloud, John Townsend

Overview

Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over—or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.

In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You'll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.

Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:

• How can I learn to pick better friends?
• Why do I choose people who let me down?
• How did I end up with this critical boss?
• How do I attract irresponsible people?
• Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?
• What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?
• Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?

It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310345794
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	08/02/2016
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	208
Sales rank:	28,432
Product dimensions:	5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist, pastor to pastors, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold over 20 million copies worldwide. Throughout his storied career as a clinician, he started treatment centers, created breakthrough new models rooted in research, and has been a leading voice on issues of mental health and leadership on a global scale. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.

Dr. John Townsend is a nationally known leadership consultant, psychologist, and author, selling over 10 million books, including the New York Times bestselling Boundaries series. John founded the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the Townsend Leadership Program. Dr. Townsend travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking events, and to help develop leaders, their teams, and their families. John and his family live in Southern California and Texas. Visit Dr Townsend.com.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction 11

Part 1 Unsafe People

1 What Is an Unsafe Person? 17

2 Personal Traits of Unsafe People 27

3 Interpersonal Traits of Unsafe People 41

4 How We Lost Our Safety 61

Part 2 Do I Attract Unsafe People?

5 Do I Have a "Safety Deficit"? 85

6 Why Do I Choose Unsafe Relationships? 93

7 False Solutions 111

8 Why Do I Isolate Myself from People? 123

Part 3 Safe People

9 What Are Safe People? 143

10 Why Do We Need Safe People? 147

11 Where Are the Safe People? 159

12 Learning How to Be Safe 169

13 Should I Repair or Replace? 189