A chilling work of psychological suspense and forensic memoir, She Left Me the Gun is a tale of true transformation: the story of a young woman who reinvented herself so completely that her previous life seemed simply to vanish, and of a daughter who transcends her mother’s fears and reclaims an abandoned past.
“One day I will tell you the story of my life,” promises Emma Brockes’s mother, “and you will be amazed.” Brockes grew up hearing only pieces of her mother’s past—stories of a rustic childhood in South Africa, glimpses of a bohemian youth in London—and yet knew that crucial facts were still in the dark. A mystery to her friends and family, Paula was clearly a strong, self-invented woman; glamorous, no-nonsense, and frequently out of place in their quaint English village. In awe of Paula’s larger-than-life personality, Brockes never asked why her mother emigrated to England or why she never returned to South Africa; never questioned the source of her mother’s strange fears or tremendous strengths.
Looking to unearth the truth after Paula’s death, Brockes begins a dangerous journey into the land—and the life—her mother fled from years before. Brockes soon learns that Paula’s father was a drunk megalomaniac who terrorized Paula and her seven half-siblings for years. After finally mustering the courage to take her father to court, Paula is horrified to see the malevolent man vindicated of all charges. As Brockes discovers, this crushing defeat left Paula with a choice: take her own life, or promise herself never to be intimidated or unhappy again. Ultimately she chooses life and happiness by booking one-way passage to London—but not before shooting her father five times, and failing to kill him. Smuggling the fateful gun through English customs would be Paula’s first triumph in her new life.
She Left Me the Gun carries Brockes to South Africa to meet her seven aunts and uncles, weighing their stories against her mother’s silences. Brockes learns of the violent pathologies and racial propaganda in which her grandfather was inculcated, sees the mine shafts and train yards where he worked as an itinerant mechanic, and finds in buried government archives the court records proving his murder conviction years before he first married. Brockes also learns of the turncoat stepmother who may have perjured herself to save her husband, dooming Paula and her siblings to the machinations of their hated father.
Most of all, She Left Me the Gun reveals how Paula reinvented herself to lead a full, happy life. As she follows her mother’s footsteps back to South Africa, Brockes begins to find the wellsprings of her mother’s strength, the tremendous endurance which allowed Paula to hide secrets from even her closest friends and family. But as the search through cherished letters and buried documents deepens, Brockes realizes with horror that her mother’s great success as a parent was concealing her terrible past—and that unearthing these secrets threatens to undo her mother’s work.
A beguiling and unforgettable journey across generations and continents, She Left Me the Gun chronicles Brockes’s efforts to walk the knife-edge between understanding her mother’s unspeakable traumas and embracing the happiness she chose for her daughter.
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“We three” and Bonza the dog; it annoyed my mother that in the only photo of her and her parents in existence, you couldn't see her face.
MY GRANDMOTHER THOUGHT she was marrying someone vibrant and exciting, a man with wavy hair and tremendous energy. He was a talented carpenter, a talented artist, a convicted murderer, and a very bad poet. He spent his working life as an engine driver and down the gold mines, and when he met my grandmother, sometime in the early 1930s, he was probably employed at the railway station she passed through en route to her office training course.
My mother said two things about this man: that he was “very clever” and that he was “very peculiar.” She also said he had a faulty sense of humor—he liked slapstick—which was her backhanded way of calling him Afrikaans. I gather he was vain about his European origins.
At the time my grandparents met, my grandmother was being courted by someone else, a man called Trevor, or “Bessie Everett’s brother Trevor” as the family on that side remembers him, which is to say, as a known quantity. Nice Trevor, boring Trevor; I picture him in a cardigan, smoking a pipe and reading the less-interesting bits of the daily newspaper. By all accounts, my grandmother and Trevor stepped out only a few times. The fact he still rates a mention, some seventy years on, is because in the story that follows Trevor became the shining symbol of what might have been.
She was called Sarah Doubell, and, like everyone who dies young, is supposed to have been beautiful. She had long dark hair, pale skin, big brown eyes, and slender ankles. She would get “stopped on buses,” said her older sister Kathy, and asked out by men of superior backgrounds. Before they moved to the coast, her family had been skilled laborers on the ostrich farms, and in group photos, where her siblings look solid, agrarian folk in stout boots and triangular smocks, Sarah seems always to be in floaty dresses and unsuitable footwear. She didn’t marry Trevor. She married the other man, at the Babanango Court House, in the presence of her sister Johanna and her brother-in-law Charlie, and moved to a cinder-block house somewhere out in the country. They came into town for the birth of the baby.
There is a single photo of that brief family, sitting on a picnic mat outside in the sun, the father in a shirt and tie, the mother in a pretty dress, and the baby in a bonnet looking up at her father. A bulldog pants in the foreground. “‘We Three’ and Bonza,” Sarah has written on the back, the “We Three” in quotation marks, as if she is poking affectionate fun at them, a conspiracy of happiness against the rest of the world. I assume they were happy and that my grandmother didn’t know about her husband’s murder conviction. Which is a shame. It would have been useful information to have had when, as she lay dying, she was deciding with whom to leave my two-year-old mother.
For a few years after her death, Sarah’s family stayed in touch with the husband. They were relieved to hear he’d remarried. And then one day he was gone. It was almost forty years before the family tracked down the baby, by which time she was living in London and married to my dad. Her cousin Gloria, Kathy’s daughter, sent her a letter introducing herself as a member of her mother’s family and asking where she had been all those years. I wonder now how my mother replied.
• • •
MY MOTHER DIDN’T TALK much about her past when I was growing up. I knew she had emigrated to England from South Africa in 1960 and, in the intervening years, had been back twice. I had met none of her seven siblings and could name probably half of my sixteen first cousins. There were a few stories: about her childhood, her work, her friends, which for the most part she made sound fun. She also hinted at another history, behind the official version, which sounded less fun and which for a long time I was happy to ignore. It was only when she was dying that she told me anything specific. When she was in her mid-twenties, she said, she’d had her father arrested. There had been a highly publicized court case, during which he had defended himself, cross-examining his own children in the witness box and destroying them one by one. Her stepmother had covered for him. He had been found not guilty.
I was calm as she told me this, as I had not been on the one previous occasion she had tried to bring it up. Along with everything else going on, I filed it away to think about later, but as tends to happen, later came sooner than expected.
Six months after my mother’s death, I flew from London to Johannesburg to try to piece together the missing portions of her life. It is a virtue, we are told, to face things, although given the choice I would go for denial every time—if denying a thing meant not knowing it. But the choice, it turns out, is not between knowing a thing and not knowing it, but between knowing and half knowing it, which is no choice at all.
Even after I discovered the real story, I was still evasive about it, to myself and others. When someone suggested, during the course of writing this book, that I read the “clinical literature,” I was outraged. I didn’t want my mother reduced to the level of case study. I didn’t want to lump her in with all those terrible people moaning on about themselves, going on talk shows to weep and wail. I objected to the language they used: “survivors,” as they sometimes called themselves, seemed to me to be a term that only underlined their victimhood. The notion of “survivordom” had, in any case, become so prized in the culture, so absolving of all behavior resulting from the initial trauma—so completely, narcissistically inviting—that those without very much to survive these days rummage around until they come up with something.
“Hard-hearted Hannah” my mother sometimes called me. Mimics frequently get the style but not the heart of a performance right.
Above all, I didn’t want to give up the memory I had of her and replace it with something skewed and pathologized. My greatest fear, when I started this, was that I would undo all her good work. Finally, one day, during the endless displacement activities one undertakes while writing a book, I bought a research paper online. It was a study by Canadian psychologists into the parenting deficits of women with “girl children” who in their own childhoods had been the victims of extreme sexual and physical violence. There were the well-known repeated behavioral patterns. There were high instances of alcohol and drug dependency. It was the interviews with women who had not gone on to abuse their own children that shook me the most, however. Excerpts from these women’s interviews catalogued the worry they had about overprotecting their children. They saw danger everywhere; they talked about the suspicion of every male who came into contact with their daughters, including their husbands, and the strain this put on their relationships. They talked about the intense pressure they felt to control the environment around their children and of the need to make their children invincible. In the most heartbreaking terms, they talked about the desire to keep them safe without making them crazy. Meanwhile, they had no way of helping themselves.
My mother wasn’t a great one for asking for help. She would rather do something herself than have someone else do it for her. Toward the end of her life, she reluctantly accepted she might need some practical assistance, without ever quite relinquishing the upper hand. When a nurse came from the hospice, my mother extracted her life story and started ringing rental agents on her behalf. When neighbors came around with soup and fans, she smiled as if doing them a favor.
An enormous effort went into maintaining this idea she had of herself, and of me, and there were times when I thought I could see the mechanism at work. It had a hint of the burlesque about it, all her positive thinking. As a child, it annoyed me. “OK, OK,” I thought, “I get it.” Her genius as a parent, of course, was that I didn’t get it at all. If the landscape that eventually emerged can be visualized as the bleakest thing I know—a British beach in winter—she stood around me like a windbreak so that all I saw was colors.
A therapist once described my mother’s background in relation to my own as the elephant in the room, a characterization I reacted strongly against at the time. And my dad did too, when I told him. I have no idea what my mother did with the elephant, but most of the time it wasn’t in the room with us. And so, while I strain to find an explanation for just how a person can live one kind of life to the age of almost thirty and then, witness-protection-like, cut that life off and begin again, I have no real answer. Friendship helped. And humor. Beyond that, all I can say is, it was an effort of will.
She never got any credit for it. Her aim—to protect me from being poisoned by the poison in her system—depended for its success on its invisibility. “One day I will tell you the story of my life,” she said, “and you will be amazed.” She never did, not really, although I think she wanted to. So I went to find out for myself. It’s amazing. Here it is.
Mum, two years old, with her father, Jimmy, in Zululand.
If You Think That’s Aggressive, Then You Really Haven’t Lived
MY MOTHER FIRST TRIED to tell me about her life when I was about ten years old. I was sitting at the table doing homework or a drawing; she was standing at the grill, cooking sausages. Every now and then the fat from the meat would catch and a flame would leap out.
She had been threatening some kind of revelation for years. “One day I will tell you the story of my life,” she said, “and you will be amazed.”
I had looked at her in amazement. The story of her life was she was born, she had me, ten years passed, end of story.
“Tell me now,” I’d said.
“I’ll tell you when you’re older.”
A second later, I’d considered saying, “Am I old enough now?” but the joke hadn’t seemed worth it. Anything constituting a Life Story would deviate from the norm in ways that could only embarrass me.
I knew, of course, that she had come from South Africa and had left behind a large family: seven half-siblings, eight if you included a boy who’d died, ten if you counted the rumor of twins. “You should have been a twin,” said my mother whenever I did something brilliant, like open my mouth or walk across a room. “I hoped you’d be twins, with auburn hair. You could have been. Twins run in the family on both sides.” And, “My stepmother was pregnant with twins, once.” There were no twins among her siblings.
She always referred to her like this, as “my stepmother,” and unlike her siblings, for whom she provided short but vivid character sketches, and even her father, who featured in the odd story, Marjorie was a blank. As for her real mother’s family, all she would say was “Strong women, strong genes,” and give me one of her looks—a cross between Nobody Knows the Trouble I’ve Seen and Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter Here—which shut down the possibility of further discussion.
It wasn’t evident from her accent that she came from elsewhere. In fact, years later, a colleague answering my phone at work said afterward, “Your mother has the poshest voice I’ve ever heard.” I couldn’t hear it, but I could see it written down, in the letters she drafted on the backs of old gas bills. It was there in words like “satisfactory” (great English compliment) and “peculiar” (huge insult). “Diana,” she wrote to her friend Joan in 1997, “such a pretty girl, but such a sad life.” She was imperiously English to her friends and erstwhile family in South Africa, but to me, at home, she was caustic about the English. The worst insult she could muster was “You’re so English.”
I was English. I was more than English, I was from the Home Counties. I played tennis in white clothing. I went to Brownies. I didn’t ride a horse—my mother thought horses an unnecessary complication—but I did everything else commensurate in those parts with being a nice girl. This was important to my mother, although she couldn’t help hinting, now and then, at how tame it all was.
“Call that sun?” she said, when the English sun came out. “Call that rain?” When I got bitten by a red ant on sports day, my mother inspected the dot while I started to sniffle. “For goodness’ sake. All that fuss over such a tiny little thing.” Where she came from, any ant worth its salt would kill you.
Among the crimes of the English: coldness, snobbery, boarding schools, “tradition,” the royals, hypocrisy, fat ankles, waste, and dessert, or “pudding,” as they called it, a word she thought redolent of the entire race. “The English,” she said, “are a people who cook their fruit.” It was her greatest fear that she and my dad would die in a plane crash and I would wind up in boarding school alone, eating stewed prunes and getting more English by the day.
If I’d had my wits about me I might have said, “Oh, right, because white South Africans are so beloved the world over.” But it didn’t occur to me. It didn’t occur to me until an absurdly late stage that we might, in fact, be separate people.
Above all, she said, the English never talked about anything. Not like us. We talked about everything. We talked a blue streak around the things we didn’t talk about.
• • •
MY PARENTS MET at work in the 1960s, at the law firm where my dad was doing his articles and my mum was a bookkeeper. In the late 1970s, when I was a few years old, we moved out of the city to a village an hour away. Ours was the corner house, opposite the tennis club and a five-minute walk from the station.
It was a gentle kind of place, leafy and green, with the customary features of a nice English village: a closely mown cricket pitch, lots of pubs and antiques shops, a war memorial on the high street, and, in the far distance, a line of wooded hills that on autumn days caught the sun and made the village postcard-pretty. It was emphatically not the kind of place where people had Life Stories. Life stages, perhaps, incremental steps through increasingly boring sets of circumstances; for example, we used to live in London and now we lived in Buckinghamshire. It was also very safe. There was no police report in our local newspaper, but if there had been, it would have been full of minor acts of vandalism and dustbins blowing over in high winds. There was the occasional parking violation when the bowls club had a tournament, and two men were arrested, once, for doing something in the public toilets the paper struggled to find words for. “What about the women and children!” thundered a Tory councilor, causing my dad to look up mildly from his newspaper at breakfast. “What has it got to do with the women and children?”
(When my mother read the newspaper, it was with a pen in one hand, so that when she came across a photo of a pompous-looking public official—if he was smiling—she could absentmindedly black out one of his teeth. Helmut Kohl, Francois Mitterrand, Ronald Reagan all lost teeth this way. “Your mother’s been at the newspaper again,” my father would sigh.) She was in many ways a typical resident. She went to yoga in the village hall. She stood in line at the post office. She made friends with the lady on the deli counter in Budgen’s and had a nice relationship with the lovely family that lived next door to us. Their young boys would come around to look at the fish in our pond. Every year I made her a homemade birthday card that depicted scenes from family life. She tacked them up on the kitchen wall, where they faded with each passing summer. I found them recently, seven in all, a memoir of my mother’s existence in the village. There she is, wonkily drawn in her yoga gear, surrounded by me, my dad, two cats, and the fish.
At the same time, it pleased her, I think, to be at a slight angle to the culture; someone who had adopted the role of a Buckinghamshire mum but who had at her disposal various superpowers—powers she had decided, on balance, to keep under her hat. (I used to think this an attitude unique to my mother, until I moved to America and realized it is the standard expat consolation: in my case—a British person in New York—looking around and thinking, “You people have no idea about the true nature of reality when you don’t know what an Eccles cake is or how to get to Watford.”)
In my mother’s case, it was a question of style. She was very much against the English way of disguising one’s intentions. One never knew what they were thinking, she said—or rather, one always knew what they were thinking but they never came out and said it. She loved to tell the story of how, soon after moving in, she was sanding the banisters one day when a man came to the door, canvassing for the Conservatives. “He just ASSUMED,” she raged then and for years afterwards. “He just ASSUMED I WAS TORY.” She wasn’t Tory, but she wasn’t consistently liberal, either. She disapproved of people having children out of wedlock. When a child molester story line surfaced on TV, she would argue for castration, execution, and various other medieval solutions to the problem, while my dad and I sat in uncomfortable silence. She was not, by and large, in favor of silence.
Even her gardening was loud. When my parents bought the house, the garden had been a denuded quarter acre that my mother set about Africanizing. She planted pampas grass and mint. She let the grass grow wild around the swing by the shed. Along the back fence, she put in fast-growing dogwoods.
“It’s to hide your ugly house,” she said sweetly when our other neighbor complained. After that, whenever my mother was out weeding and found a snail, she would lob it, grenadelike, over the fence into the old lady’s salad patch.
“That’s very aggressive,” said my father, who is English and a lawyer. If he ever threw a snail, it would be by accident.
“Ha!” said my mother, and gave him the look: If You Think That’s Aggressive, Then You Really Haven’t Lived.
• • •
WHEN IT WORKS, the only child–parent bond is a singular dynamic. Being an only child is a bit like being Spanish: you have your dinner late, you go to bed late, and, with all the grown-up parties you get dragged to, you wind up eating a lot of hors d’oeuvres. Your parents talk to you as if you were an adult, and when they’re not talking to you, you have no one to talk to. So you listen.
By the time I was eight, I knew that olives stuffed with anchovies were not pukey but “an acquired taste.” I knew that Mr. X who lived down the road was not a blameless old codger but a “mean shit” who didn’t let his wife have the heating on during the day. I knew that Tawny Owl was too scared to drive after dark and that this rendered her useless, not only as a leader within the Girl Guide movement but as a human being generally. Later, I knew which of my friends’ parents had appealed against their children’s twelve-plus results and with what success, and I knew, from a particularly fruitful session at the bathroom door, what my own results were before being officially told. When a classmate was off sick from school for the fourth day running, my mother and I speculated that she and her family were actually in Hawaii, in crisis talks over the marriage. We blamed the dad. “He’s decidedly odd,” said my mother, “don’t you think?”
My mother would never admit to being homesick for South Africa, but she was, occasionally, nostalgic for London. She would, she said, have liked me to have grown up in a more mixed environment. There was only one black person in the village when I was growing up, a man who worked in the library and who was not only black but “gay to boot.”
“Shame,” she said when we passed him in the street. She never lowered her voice when she made these assessments. “Shame,” she would say when she saw someone fat, and smile at them broadly in pity. “It must be glandular.”
“How do you know he’s gay?” I asked. My mother gave me the look: Woman of the World in a Town Full of Hicks.
“It’s the way he walks,” she said. “Among other things.”
• • •
I KNEW A FEW DETAILS from her childhood. My mother loved to tell stories, and there were some dazzling set pieces I begged her to tell me again and again. She had grown up in a series of small towns and remote villages, “out in the bundu” of what was then Zululand, now KwaZulu-Natal, so that most of her stories involved near-deadly encounters with the wildlife and weather. There were hailstones the size of golf balls. There was lightning to strike you dead as you were crossing a field. Those snakes that weren’t hanging from trees waiting to drop down her back were fighting scorpions for the deeds to the toe end of her slippers.
She told me about her auntie Johanna, cracking eggs into a bowl one day and releasing with the final egg a mass of tiny black snakes into the yellow mixture. A cobra had laid its eggs in the henhouse. She told me about her brother Mike and the practical jokes he had played on her. From the earliest age, just as I knew the rules about lying and stealing, I knew what a bad idea it was to leave a dead snake in someone’s bed as a joke, because its partner might come looking for it. Some snakes, she said, mate for life.
As a consequence, if I ever went to Africa, I said, it would be on condition I could wear a balaclava, dungarees, Wellington boots, and some kind of protective headgear. I pictured myself walking down a jungle path dressed in something halfway between a beekeeper’s outfit and what you might wear while welding metal.
“You couldn’t,” she said. “You’d be too hot.”
“I still would, though.”
“It wouldn’t be practical.”
We didn’t go. Instead, every year or so, my dad and I watched as my mother raised the possibility and then talked herself out of it. There were the politics, she said; this was the mid-1980s, when every night on the news we watched footage of government Casspirs going into the townships. There were family politics, too. If we stayed with one, it would upset the others. If we stayed in a hotel, it would upset them all. You have no idea, she said, how a family that size operates.
Anyway, she said, if we went anywhere long-haul, she would rather go to Australia. We didn’t go to Australia. Although the money was there and my dad was willing, I got the impression we didn’t go because, at some level of my mother’s thinking, going to Australia meant flying over Africa. It is quite an achievement, in a village in England, to feel that evasive action is being taken to avoid the southern hemisphere, but that’s how it was.
Instead we went to France and Spain. We went to Cornwall at half-term. I went on school trips to Somerset and to Brownie camp in Liverpool. “I’ll be glad when you’re back,” said my mother, face clenched, seeing me off at the coach. I thought the scene demanded tears and began, experimentally, to sniffle. “For goodness’ sake,” said my mother, relaxing into irritation. “It’s enough now.”
• • •
AMONG HER STORIES, there was one that made me vaguely uncomfortable. I couldn’t put my finger on it at the time, but I see now what it was: the threat of withheld information. It came with one of her looks, the one I didn’t like: a kind of sideways swipe of the eyes, like windows on a desktop hastily minimizing.
After my mother had arrived in England, but before she had met my dad, she had gone to see a healer, a retired postman and “humble little man,” she would say (as if we were royalty), who lived in a council flat in Tottenham. She didn’t believe in all of that; on the other hand, you never know, and so, on the recommendation of a friend whose back he’d fixed, she went to see Mr. Trevor.
His visions came out in flashes over tea. She would have one child, he said, a girl with long fingers like a starfish (true). She would face a fork in the road one day, and depending on which branch she took, be either very happy or slightly less happy (the former, I hope). At some point in the session, Mr. Trevor came over peculiar and in a horrible voice said, “Is that dirt or a birthmark?”
“That was your father,” he said, coming to. Her father was dead and had in any case never been to England. Mr. Trevor couldn’t possibly have delivered his mail.
Whenever she told this story, she would lift her hair and show me, at the nape of her neck, a strawberry-colored birthmark that had survived her father’s best efforts to scrub it off. Those were always the words he would use, she said.
• • •
LETTERS CAME IN from her siblings occasionally; nothing for years and then a fifteen-page blockbuster written entirely in capitals. She would leave it on the kitchen table for me, for when I got home from school. “Read it to me,” she said, and I would.
To me, her siblings had a kind of mythical status, partly for the glamour all large families hold for only children, and partly for their complete and utter absence from our lives. When my mother talked about them, it was as though they were people she had known a long time ago and had been very fond of, once. There was the one she called her best friend. There was one who was her conscience. There were two she hardly knew. There was one who’d died of whooping cough as a child, whose small white coffin she remembered walking behind. There was one who was very charming but whom you had to keep an eye on. There were two she called her babies—“Fay was my baby, Steve was my baby”—whom she’d brought up, more or less, when her stepmother’s hands were full.
There were no photos of these people on display in the house, but she did once dig out a cardboard box from the garage to show me some old sepia-colored photos from an even earlier era. This, she said, was before her mother had died and her father remarried and had so many more children.
There were three or four in the set, small, white-bordered, and faded with age. One was of my mother as a baby, standing in a hot-looking crib, clutching hold of the bars. In another she was standing, waving, in a garden. On the back, my grandmother Sarah had written, “Pauline on her 2nd birthday.” There were two further photos in the set: my mother as a toddler, with fat little legs and scrunched-down socks, standing beside a fresh grave, the soil still exposed; and in the same position on a different day—the grave already looked older. Someone had written on the back, “Pauline arranging flowers on her mother’s grave,” but who that was she had no idea. “Shame,” said my mother, when she showed me the photos, “poor little thing,” as if it were not her we were looking at but someone entirely unrelated to either of us.
Mum putting flowers on her own mother’s grave.
I remember asking her once if we had any heirlooms. It was a word I’d picked up from a friend while tiptoeing around her parents’ formal drawing room one day, where we weren’t allowed to play. My friend had pointed out various spindly legged chairs and silver trinkets that had been her granny’s and which, she said importantly, would be hers one day. I had gone back to my own house and, while my mother considered the question, had looked around for something old to cherish.
“What about this?” I said. It was a green cigar box in thick, heavy glass with a brass hinge.
“For goodness’ sake,” said my mother. She didn’t know where it came from, and anyway, it was hideous.
We didn’t have heirlooms, she said, because she could fit only so much into her trunk, and besides, her mother had died when she was two, what did I want? I was goading her a little, I knew it. Our peculiarities were annoying me that day. Of this particular friend of mine’s mother, my own mother had been known to say, “I don’t know why she’s so pleased with herself. They made their money in gin.”
Actually there were a few things she could have pointed out to me. There was a tiny porcelain teacup, the sole surviving item from a doll’s tea service, with a depiction of the young queen, then Princess Elizabeth, on the side. There was a glass-beaded necklace. And there was a portrait of her mother, Sarah, that hung above the TV in the lounge. It was blown up from a black-and-white photo and painted over in color, in the style of the times. The colors were a little off—the lips too bright, the skin too pale; she looked consumptive, which in fact she was. My mother didn’t mention these items in the talk about heirlooms. They must have struck her as a mean inheritance, the pitiful remains of a long-dead young woman, and when I thought about it later, I was sorry for asking. Later still, I thought about the painting and where she had chosen to hang it; whenever my mother raised her eyes from the TV, she met her own mother’s gaze.
• • •
THERE WAS, IN FACT, something my mother wanted me to have by way of an heirloom. It had come over on the boat with her in an old-fashioned trunk, the kind with its ribs on the outside. “All my worldly goods,” she would say, and when one of these things surfaced in the course of daily life, a moment would be taken, as before an item recovered from Christ’s tomb.
Before I moved countries myself and understood the pull of sentiment over practicality, I thought her packing choices eccentric. So no overcoat, although she was sailing into an English winter, but a six-piece dinner service. The complete works of Jane Austen, minus Mansfield Park. A bespoke two-piece suit in oatmeal with brown trim. A tapestry she had done, even though she wasn’t arty, of a seventeenth-century English drawing-room scene in which someone played the harpsichord and someone else the lute. And at the bottom of her trunk, wrapped in a pair of knickers, her handgun. Getting it through customs undetected was her first triumph in the new country.
The gun was kept in a secret drawer beneath the bookcase in the downstairs guest bedroom, the most secure of the improvised safes in the house. In my parents’ bedroom, a decoy tumble dryer contained some gold and silver necklaces under a pile of citrus-colored T-shirts and a terry-cloth tracksuit whose shade we called aquamarine. Outside the bathroom, in the cavity between two plastic buckets that served as a fortified laundry basket, were my mother’s gold bracelets. For a while, she stashed things in the ash collector beneath an unused fireplace in the dining room, but couldn’t shake the fear that she would die suddenly and we would forget what she had buried there, sending it up in smoke. I forget what she buried there. Not the rings we called knuckle-dusters, with huge semiprecious stones—topaz, amethyst, tourmaline—on tiny gold and silver mounts. They weren’t valuable or even wearable, but they were very pretty, and most of them had been given to her by friends or sent in padded envelopes across vast distances of space and time by relatives who thought she should have them. The person they’d belonged to must have died, but who that was I don’t know.
The secret drawer, which she had designed herself after consulting the carpenter, was where she kept her most precious items: her naturalization papers; a list of how much I weighed during the first six months of my life; various documents testifying to her abilities as a bookkeeper; and the gun.
“Remember it’s here,” she said, the one time she showed it to me. “And remember my jewels. Don’t let your father’s second wife get her hands on them.”
“Ha!” called my dad from the hallway. “I should be so lucky.”
My mother smiled. “You’ll miss me when I’m gone.”
It was smaller than I’d imagined, silver with a pearl handle, like something a highwayman might proffer through a frilly sleeve during a slightly fey holdup. I knew it was illegal, but gun licensing wasn’t the issue then that it is now and it struck me as naughty in the order of, say, a white lie, rather than something genuinely criminal, like dropping litter in the street or parking on the double yellow lines outside the liquor store. She had it, she said, because “everybody had one.” I think she saw it as a jaunty take on the whole stuffy English notion of inheritance—just the thing for a woman to bequeath to her only daughter. My dad hated having it in the house and threatened, once, to throw it in the local arm of the Grand Union Canal.
“You’ll do no such thing!” my mother raged. “I’m very fond of that gun.”
• • •
IT WAS ABOUT A YEAR after this that she stood in the kitchen cooking the sausages, face flushed from the heat pulsing out of the grill. My dad was watching TV in the next room. “Go and change,” she had said when he came in from work, as she said every night. Without turning and in a voice so harsh and strange she sounded like a medium channelling an angry spirit, she said, “My father was a violent alcoholic and a pedophile who . . .” The rest is lost, however, because at the first whiff of trouble I burst loudly into tears like a cartoon baby.
Something unthinkable happened then. My mother, who at the slightest hint of distress on my part would mobilize armies to eliminate the cause, who routinely threatened to kill people on my behalf and who felt, I always thought, shortchanged that I never gave her an opportunity to show me exactly what she could do in this area, didn’t move across the floor to console me, but stood staring disconsolately into the mouth of the grill. “Your father cried, too, when I told him,” she said, and I could see there was consolation in this, her sense of being surrounded by weaklings. Abruptly I switched off the tears. My dad came in. We ate dinner as normal. We didn’t talk about it again for fifteen years.
Except that we did, of course. “The absence from conversation of a known quantity is a very strong presence,” wrote Margaret Atwood in Negotiating with the Dead, “as the Victorians realised about sex.”
“Don’t get kidnapped,” said my mother, whenever I left the house. “Don’t get abducted. Don’t get raped and murdered.”
“I’m only going to the shop,” I said, or later, over the phone from London, “to the office/Manchester/the loo.”
“So?” she said. “They have murderers in Manchester, don’t they?”
About once a week, she rang after a sleepless night and we went through the routine.
“I had a sleepless night.”
“Someone broke into the house in the night and snatched you away.”
“Someone ran away with you on your way home from work.”
“Your dirty washing.” The more ludicrous the cause, the better. Once, a personal best, a sleepless night about my flatmate’s dirty washing. I told him by way of a boast, “Look how much my mother loves me, so much she loses sleep over whether you have clean clothes or not.” I remember he giggled rather nervously.
Only occasionally her comic tone faltered. In the car on the way back from Oxford one day: “Don’t be cross with me—I had a sleepless night.”
I was instantly furious. “For God’s sake,” I said. “It was one date. ONE DATE.”
My mother looked at me ruefully. “I thought he might cut you up and put you under the floorboards.” This referred to a recent case in the news in which a man from Oxford had murdered his girlfriend and, folding her like a ventriloquist’s doll, stuffed her in a suitcase under his bed. The floorboards part was a flourish I think she got from Jack the Ripper.
“I’m not going to tell you anything if this is how you behave.”
Her contrition evaporated. A warning look. “People get abducted, don’t they? People get murdered.” And there it was in the car with us, the huge mauve silence at the edge of the known world. “These things happen.”
“Not to me, they don’t.”
She looked at me then with every ounce of love in her system.
“No, not to you.”
Mum, her sister Fay (in the huge hipster glasses) and Fay's ex-husband, Frank, in Trafalgar Square before I was born.
South Africa, 1932–1960
THE OFFICIAL REASON my mother gave for leaving was politics. “I couldn’t stand the politics,” she said, and pointed to March 1960, when sixty-nine people had been killed in Sharpeville while protesting against apartheid. She had been to a couple of meetings, she said, and had to decide whether to stay and commit or leave altogether. This was the story as she told it.
No one in her family had ever been to England. Her father’s ancestry was Dutch. Her mother’s, she said, had been French. But like most English-speaking white people in the former colony, she had grown up thinking of England as a point of origin. She was a great reader and had plowed her way through the nineteenth-century English novels. She identified strongly with Jane Eyre, even more so with Bertha Mason, and not at all with Cathy, in Wuthering Heights, who she thought made a spectacle of herself, carrying on like that at the window. She would have sympathized with Virginia Woolf’s put-down of Katherine Mansfield, who was said to have appeared in ghost form after her death, which Woolf thought typical of the woman: to be caught leading such a “cheap posthumous life.” Her favorite Austen heroine was Elizabeth Bennet, for what she saw as her keen lack of hysteria.
I knew she had been born in Durban, in her auntie Kathy’s house, and that when she was two years old her mother had died of tuberculosis. I also knew that around the age of five her father had remarried. But of his second wife—where they met, who her family was, or anything much about her beyond her name, Marjorie—I knew nothing. My mother had no sympathy for her, although her life would seem to have been hard. She was pregnant for more or less a decade after marrying my grandfather, and my mother, like many eldest children in a family that size, was put in the position of surrogate parent to some of her half-siblings.
She never called them “half.” She called them “my brothers and sisters.”
If it struck me as odd that we never saw or heard from them, I didn’t dwell on it. Like most children, the life my parents led before I was born was a rumor I didn’t believe in. When I gave her childhood any thought at all, I thought it sounded kind of fun; like Cider with Rosie, but with deadlier wildlife.
My mother was tall, slim, not athletic exactly but aware of her own strength. She was very blond as a child, and no matter what she did with her hair, couldn’t get it to curl. This was the era of Shirley Temple, and my mother presented it to me as the tragedy of her childhood: lank hair. But she had large brown eyes and high cheekbones, and one day, as she left the schoolyard, two little boys shouted after her, “We love you, we love you!”
Math was her subject. She worked hard at school, each week competing for first place with a girl called Stella, but whereas Stella was gifted, said my mother, she had to work for it. She gave me a meaningful look. “Oh, cut it out,” I thought. She wanted to be a nurse, but the teacher took her aside and said, nonsense, you should be a doctor. Since most of her schooling took place in English-speaking Natal, in the southeast of the country, she never learned Afrikaans—which didn’t stop her, years later, startling Dutch guests around the pool in Majorca by trying to use it to engage them in small talk, while I slid behind my paperback and pretended to be Spanish.
“We love you, we love you!” Eight-year-old mum with her brother, Michael.
She sometimes referred to her father as Jimmy. He had worked in the gold mines or as an engine driver, and she was rather proud of the latter; of the two jobs, it’s the one she chose to list as his profession on her marriage certificate. She showed me a poem he had written once, which he had given to her when she left South Africa. It was called “Salutation to the Dawn” and was full of soppy descriptions of the sky and wildlife. “He probably copied it out of a book,” she said bitterly, a rare break in tone. Most of her recollections ran along jollier lines.
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What People are Saying About This
"[A] courageous, clear-sighted book, which shifts between memoir and elegy as it examines the persistence of family secrets and the fragile interface between innocence and knowledge ... Brockes handles her toxic material with a lightness of touch that navigates skillfully between tragedy and bleak comedy... [Brockes's mother] did not need to leave her daughter a gun in the end. Her real bequest to Brockes was the psychological freedom to be able to confront the past without inhibition, and to take straight aim at it. The gun is this book." The Guardian (UK)
"She Left Me the Gun is quite simply an extraordinary book. In the hands of any halfway decent author, this would be an incredible story: a mother with a mysterious South African past who arrived in England in her early twenties with a beautiful antique handgun and a mission to forget who she used to be. In the hands of a writer as gifted as Emma Brockes, it’s basically the perfect memoir: a riveting, authentic tale elegantly told.' Sunday Telegraph (UK)
"Full of intellect and feeling and dartlike expression. It’s one of those memoirs that remind you why you liked memoirs in the first place, back before every featherhead in your writers’ group was trying to peddle one. It has the density of a very good novel... As you do with the best writers, you feel lucky to be in Ms. Brockes’s company throughout She Left Me the Gun. She is mugged; her car breaks down in the middle of nowhere, and swastika-wearing bikers roar up. She never loses her composure... This is a grim story, but it’s also a love story." Dwight Garner, The New York Times
"An exemplary family history and immensely brave... Brockes’s descriptions of South Africa and her newly discovered family (towards whom she is loyal and generously affectionate) are astute and, one feels, tempered by the tightly coiled wayward nature of the freshly grief-stricken. It makes the slow pace of the revelations all the more honourable and heartfelt. The result is a wise, tender letter of love to a mother and her incredible sense of love and necessary self-sufficiency." Helen Davies, Sunday Times (UK)
"This soul-searching tale is a shocking trail of murder, violence, incest and betrayal that leaves her both shocked and proud ... Emma Brockes writes with dry humour and a refreshing lack of sentiment as she unravels the complex family ties that have become twisted into a difficult and at times almost impenetrable web of hidden suffering." Daily Express (UK)
"The riveting memoir about how a prizewinning British journalist reclaimed her mother's traumatic past... The story of Brockes’ quest to understand her mother’s past is powerful on its own, but the backdrop against which most of the narrative unfolds—a country with its own history of rapacious violence—makes the book even more poignant and unforgettable."
“This astonishing, unsettling book examines the relationship between knowledge and love. Vigorously unsentimental, deeply absorbing, and written with fierce wit, it is an unstinting look at what it means to be innocent, at any stage of life, and how obsessively we all seek and avoid the many faces of truth.”
—Andrew Solomon, author of Far From the Tree and The Noonday Demon
“A beautiful, wise book. It deals with some of the grimmest aspects of human experience, but it is also one of the most genuinely uplifting works I have read in years. Emma Brockes’s superb, clear-eyed narration is an object lesson for any aspiring memoir writer. She Left Me the Gun deserves to become a classic.”
—Zoë Heller, author of The Believers and Notes on a Scandal
“Emma Brockes sets out on a delicate journey to uncover a secret locked in the heart of her own family’s darkness. A harrowing tale of murder and incest emerges, unfolding by stages in this utterly compelling psychological memoir.”
—John Berendt, author of The City of Falling Angels and Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil
Reading Group Guide
“If the landscape that eventually emerged can be visualized as the bleakest thing I know—a British beach in the winter—she stood around me like a windbreak so that all I saw was colors.” (p. .xv)
Emma Brockes’s childhood was, by any measure, a happy one—an only child doted on by her gentle father and Paula, her beautiful and fiercely devoted mother. Paula’s sharp humor and unsentimental view of life was balanced by anxiety and overprotectiveness that bordered on the absurd, and her life centered on Brockes’s happiness, success, and, most importantly, safety. Yet within this idyllic life were glimmers of a troubled history, with occasional comments that suggested Paula had survived a dark and tumultuous past in South Africa before her move to rural England. The extent of the secret tragedy that defined Paula’s youth is only revealed to Brockes as her mother is dying of cancer: poverty, a violent father, an ugly court case, and her eventual escape to England and a new life. But the truth isn’t always the whole truth and Brockes discovers that even in her dying confession, Paula has protected her daughter from the ugliest details of her secret.
The unearthing of Paula’s past and Brockes’s newfound perspective on her own childhood is at the heart of her latest work, She Left Me The Gun.A story as witty, honest, and brave as the woman it reveals, Brockes’s book is a testament to the strength and resilience of the human spirit and the depths of a mother’s love. Compelled by grief, affection, and curiosity, Brockes travels to South Africa to discover the truth firsthand. Drawing on her experience as a journalist, she resurrects the details of her mother’s childhood through research and interviews with long-lost family members. Alcoholism, violence, and—most disturbing of all—incest were the defining features of Paula’s youth; later, in a brave attempt to protect her youngest siblings, Paula took her father to court, only to have the case collapse in traumatic and damning fashion. Yet, as each sibling shares their own experience of those years, they depict Paula as their emotional anchor and champion, a beacon of light and love in an otherwise tragic life.
By exploring this history, Brockes struggles with the question of whether this work will bring her closer to her mother or if it will destroy what Paula surely saw as the crowning achievement of her life—her daughter’s innocent ignorance of the life Paula had before her. Brockes is amazed, heartbroken, and proud in equal measure about what she learns about her mother and readers will be equally enthralled by this story of a joyful life built upon the ashes of tragedy. Paula is a bold, lively woman of strong opinions and enormous love, and Brockes, as both daughter and journalist, is an excellent guide on this journey through Paula’s life.
ABOUT EMMA BROCKES
Emma Brockes is a writer for The Guardian newspaper and has contributed to Vogue, The New York Times, and Harper’s Bazaar. She has won two British Press Awards as well as the Philip Geddes Memorial Prize for Journalism while a student at Oxford. Her previous book, What Would Barbra Do?: How Musicals Saved My Life,was serialized on the BBC. She currently lives in New York.
A CONVERSATION WITH EMMA BROCKES
1) The South African members of your family are a colorful and compelling group. Are you still in touch with them? Where are they now? What has the experience of the book’s publication been like for them?
I’m in regular touch with my aunt, Fay, and her daughter, Victoria. They’ve been extraordinarily generous about the publication of the book and have decided to embrace it as a good thing, which is no small feat on their parts. My Uncle Tony, too, has been very generous. He dusted off his suit in the hopes we all might get on Oprah.
2) As difficult as it was for you to discover the truth, being a generation removed from the experience provides some emotional safety; your aunts and uncles, on the other hand, were revisiting their own traumatic experiences. How did you get your family—in particular, Fay—to share the details of their youth with you? What concerns, if any, did they have?
Alcohol helped. Not many of these interviews were done in the conventional style, which is to say sitting formally at a table with a voice recorder whirring. During some encounters, I made notes as we spoke, but in most cases, the conversations happened spontaneously. There was no campaign on my part to get my family to speak to me. It was an organic thing that arose naturally from the circumstance of my visiting them in the wake of my mother’s death. My mother’s family understood that I needed to know all these things just to help me deal with the grief and they obliged, even though it involved dredging up horrific memories. From the outset, however, I think they saw the value of these conversations, for themselves as well as for me, and the same went for my writing of the book. They also wanted to honor the memory of their sister and what she had done for them. I think that was a huge, and hugely touching, part of it.
3) In what ways did the discoveries you made about your mother’s past change your view of her, both from the perspective of a daughter and as a woman?
Nothing about my view of her changed at all, which is the most remarkable thing about the whole exercise. I worried at the beginning that I would tarnish or corrupt my memories of her with unpleasant images, or facts I couldn’t reconcile with my understanding of who she had been. But, I realize now, such a thing would only have occurred if my discoveries had shown her up in a bad light; if I had discovered that she had done something dreadful, rather than suffered something dreadful, which is of course not the same thing at all, although in the case of child molestation, the two things are often conflated.
I suppose the only shocking adjustment I had to make was a function of getting older as I wrote the book and realizing that one’s childhood memories don’t lose any power as one leaves one’s twenties and gets into the thirties towards forty. I can summon the sharpest memories from my own, uneventful childhood, which means she could, too, and the thought is impossible to process: that these images were as vivid to her as I was growing up, as my childhood is to me, now. Just extraordinary that she could function in the way she did with all these memories in her head.
4) Considering her strength of will and bravery to endure what she did as well as attempt to bring her father to justice, do you feel that you could you have done what she did?
Yikes, I’ve never given that question any thought. It’s very hard for me to imagine, which is of course a good thing. My suspicion is that under sufficiently pressurized circumstances, I would have large reserves of fanaticism at my disposal. It’s not a part of my nature that has been activated in any meaningful way, but the power of precedent, particularly from one’s parents, is very strong indeed, and so I think if push came to shove, I could do what she did. As I was growing up, my mother would luridly threaten anyone who threatened me, and I’ve always taken it for granted that if one has a child, and that child is victimized, one does what is necessary to eliminate the source of victimization, even if that means being played by Sally Field in a made-for-TV movie called A Mother’s Revenge. (Of course, my mother behaved the way she did without benefit of love, support, or a role model. Her courage came out of a vacuum. An entirely different equation.)
5) Which characteristics have you inherited from your mother?
Her ability to reboot by laughing things off and leaving them behind. A certain unfair impatience with people who can’t do the same. A love of avocados and 1950s musicals.
6) What do you think your mother’s response to the book would be?
She’d be really annoyed by all the things I got wrong. Who in the world wants to read someone else’s interpretation of their life? She would be superficially disapproving of my need to write it at all, which it would’ve been her instinct to perceive as a weakness. Let sleeping dogs lie and all that. But in her heart she’d have known that we killed it. None of this stuff has any power over us any more. She could only have rejoiced at that.
7) Your father is a supportive, albeit secondary, figure in the novel; this is very much a book between you and your mother. How much detail did he know before you began your investigation? How did he respond to the discoveries, and now to the publicity the book has received?
My dad knew the same amount that I did, which is to say, not very much at all. A skeleton outline at most. He was calm and rational and supportive, as he always is, during both the discoveries and the book’s publication. He is a rock, a total rock.
8) On a related note, how did you decide to take a difficult story like this—one that you mention feeling uncomfortable about even discussing with friends—and publish it? How did you convince yourself not only that you wanted to do it, but that you could?
I did it in increments, and at each stage I told myself I didn’t have to go any further if I didn’t want to. So when I researched the book, I thought, well, I don’t ever have to write it. I can just use the distancing mechanism of imagining I might write it to get me through the research period. Then, once I’d done that and was sitting at my desk in New York trying to figure out if I could bear to go back over the notes, I thought, well, I don’t ever have to publish it. I can just write it and put it in a drawer. I kept thinking this right up until the last minute. As for why I wanted to write it in the first place, I can say lots of things about how I wanted it to act as a rebuke to all those terrible, voyeuristic misery memoirs that invite the reader to take a gory delight in other people’s unhappiness, and that was certainly part of it. But the main reason was that it is a terrific story, and I’m a writer. What the hell else is one supposed to do in those circumstances?
9) As a journalist, you have the ability to create a neutral distance between yourself and the stories you write; is this a skill that you relied on during the course of the book? Once the work was finished, did that distance vanish? How did you move beyond the pain of discovery?
The distance never vanished. It’s not just a professional, but also a constitutional consideration. It’s how I am. Maybe the one thing informs the other, but I operate at a distance most of the time any way. (Not in a crazy way). There’s a very good line in an Anne Tyler novel—I forget which one—in which the character is traveling on a bus, trying to absorb a traumatic event while looking at his reflection in the bus window and wondering to himself if (I paraphrase) “there was anything terrible enough that could happen to him in life, that would prevent him from studying his own reaction to it.” I think about that line all the time. It doesn’t denote a lack of involvement, or commitment, or care. It’s simply a way of processing the world.
10) You raise the question of whether in pursuing your mother’s story you are undoing the work she did to separate her childhood from your own. Did you see this as a betrayal?
I worried that it would constitute a betrayal, but it hasn’t, because by integrating those details of her childhood into my life, I have, paradoxically, completely neutralized them. I’m not just saying that to give myself a neat ending: I can say with absolute honesty that while it will pain me to the end of my days to think about these terrible things that happened to my mum, they have zero power over me now. I'm not “haunted”, or ashamed, or frightened, all of which I have been in the past. I’m occasionally furious. But that’s OK. Fury flies outwards, it’s not something you internalize that makes you feel bad.
11) What are you currently working on?
Aaaaaaargh. I’m fulfilling my contractual obligations to The Guardian and trying to get started on another book.
- Should some family secrets remain hidden or is it always healthy to bring the truth to light? Should that decision be left solely to the people directly involved?
- Do you think that Brockes was right to write this memoir? Do you think her mother would have been happy about it?
- How did the writing of this book help Brockes deal with her grief over Paula’s death?
- Paula’s decision to take her father to court in order to protect her siblings was an immensely risky and courageous decision. What is the bravest thing you have ever done?
- While the details are not known, it appears that Paula’s stepmother, Marjorie, recanted or changed her testimony during the second trial, and contributed to Paula’s father’s release. What do you imagine compelled her to do that? Does Marjorie’s behavior make her complicit in abuse of the children?
- Brockes discusses her reluctance to carry a South African passport because of the country’s history of apartheid and its culture of violence. In what ways, if any, did this environment contribute to Paula’s father’s behavior, to her stepmother’s passivity, and/or to the eventual overturning of her father’s conviction?
- Despite the trauma of their childhood, Paula and her siblings have warm memories of each other. Which example did you find most touching?
- Brockes admits that she, like many children, never thought much about her parents’ lives before she was born. Is this true for you? What is the most incredible story you ever learned about your parents?
- Imagine you are talking to your own children, thirty years from now. What would you want them to know about you? What would you want to keep hidden?
- What questions, if any, do you still have about Paula’s life? If you could ask Brockes anything, what would it be?
- Considering what eventually happened to the gun, why did Brockes choose this title for the book?
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
She Left Me the Gun is a truly fascinating biography. How and Why Paula reinvented herself is an amazing story.
This is an excellent book; everything you want in a memoir - riveting characters and plenty of surprises. I fully applaud the author for a memorable book.
Read the reviews, eagerly started it & plodded along throughout this overly long, overly dull recounting of the author's mother's turbulent past at the hands of a predatory sexual deviant . Yes it is a sad story, but it takes so long in the telling that my eyes were glazing over & I had to force myself to finish it. more could have been done to move the book along, making it far more impactual, engrossing & to the point. I understand the author was on a "journey of discovery" but she lost her way in trying to make pages for a book. I would NOT recommend this book at all & I read & enjoy most every genre.
I couldn't put this book down. From start to finish it is an amazing emotional ride. I highly recommend this book.
I couldn't put this book down. The author knows how to capture the reader's attention and never let go. It's a bizarre story that will keep you turning the pages. A great book.
Complicated story of a daughters search for her mothers history and how she came through it. Story of disfuntion, not your light summer read.
There are still some questions in my mind after finishing this book. I think it would be a good book club selection.
An engaging memoir dealing with the troubling past of a South African family. ~*~LEB~*~
Half way through the book and totally bored. Author could have wrapped this one up in 1/2 the pages. Everyone has a family history and not finding this one particularly interesting or entertaining. Only read rest of it because I made the mistake of purchasing it. I'd have thought a journalist would have been far more specific and curious in her meets and interviews with family.
Rings true on each page Wonderfully done
Hehehe thats funny! The last on was better though. There is my version of the deathrow inmates....well not really<p> There were these three women, a brunet, a redhead and a blonde that had been kidnaped by men that were armed. When they realized that they were going to get rap<_>ed they came up with a plan...... The brunet yelled "tornado" and the men ran into hiding and left the women unattended so she got out. When the men came back they watched girls again. The redhead yelled "earthquake" and the men ran into hiding again so that redhead ascaped. The last women was the blonde, as soon as the men came back she screamed "fire" and the men all shot her dead. <p> Yours sounds soooooo much better.
This sounded really interesting.....except for the fact the the overview tells the whole story. Now im no longer interested in reading it. Thanks.
Now that I've read the entire story in the online Overview, I don't need to buy the book.