Table of Contents
About This Book iii
About the Author iii
Preface xv
Part I: Personality Traits: What Are You Like? 1
Chapter 1 Investigating Personality Traits 7
Skill 1: Identifying the Big Five Personality Traits 8
Worksheet 1: Are You Honest? 9
Worksheet 2: Are You Kind? 10
Worksheet 3: Are You Trustworthy? 12
Worksheet 4: Are You Friendly? 13
Worksheet 5: Are You Hardworking? 14
Skill 2: Identifying Yourself on Common Personality Traits:
How You Function in a Group Setting 16
Worksheet 6: Lead or Follow 18
Worksheet 7: Micromanage or Let Go 19
Worksheet 8: Working Alone or with Others 20
Worksheet 9: Introduce New Ideas or Wait to Be Asked 22
Worksheet 10: Accept or Resent Criticism 23
Skill 3: Identifying Yourself on Common Personality Traits:
How You Organize Things 24
Worksheet 11: Visually in Place or Looks Chaotic 26
Worksheet 12: Big Picture or Detail-Oriented 28
Worksheet 13: Planner or Spontaneous 29
Worksheet 14: Own or Delegate 30
Worksheet 15: Ask for Help or Figure It Out 31
Skill 4: Identifying Yourself on Common Personality Traits:
How You Make Decisions 32
Worksheet 16: Quick Decision or Think It Over 34
Worksheet 17: Regret Mistakes or Accept and Move On 36
Worksheet 18: Get Advice or Make a Good Guess 37
Worksheet 19: Weigh Pros and Cons or Go with Gut 38
Worksheet 20: Opportunities or Disasters 39
Skill 5: Identifying Yourself on Common Personality Traits:
Your General Demeanor/What You’re Mostly Like 40
Worksheet 21: Outgoing or Quiet 42
Worksheet 22: Open to New Ideas or Prefer the Familiar 44
Worksheet 23: Creative or Structural Thinker 45
Worksheet 24: Hold Grudges or Quick to Forgive 46
Worksheet 25: Sensitive to Others or Not into Feelings 47
Chapter 2 Putting It All Together 49
Worksheet 26: Verifying Your Responses 52
Worksheet 27: Your Personality Profile 54
Worksheet 28: Why Personality Matters 55
Worksheet 29: Job/Task Match with Your Personality 56
Worksheet 30: Can You Change Your Personality? 57
Part II: Learning Basic Social Skills 59
Chapter 3 Skills to Make a Good Impression 65
Skill 6: Making a Good First Impression 66
Worksheet 31: What Is a Good Impression? 68
Worksheet 32: Your Appearance 69
Worksheet 33: Your Attitude 71
Worksheet 34: Getting Prepared 72
Worksheet 35: Asking Appropriate Questions 73
Worksheet 36: Pleasantries or Short Conversations 75
Worksheet 37: Voice Volume and Tone 76
Worksheet 38: Using Appropriate Language 78
Worksheet 39: Just Answer the Question! 79
Worksheet 40: Introducing Yourself 81
Skill 7: Being Aware of Your Behavior 83
Worksheet 41: Blending in with a Group 85
Worksheet 42: Behaviors That You Can’t Help 86
Worksheet 43: Neutral Behavior 87
Worksheet 44: Invading Personal Space 88
Worksheet 45: Repeating Yourself 90
Worksheet 46: Being Bossy 91
Worksheet 47: Refusing to Be Social 92
Skill 8: Being a Good Listener 94
Worksheet 48: Identifying a Good Listener 96
Worksheet 49: How to Be a Good Listener 98
Worksheet 50: Important Listening Situations 100
Worksheet 51: What Problems Do You See? 101
Worksheet 52: Remembering Things About Others 103
Chapter 4 Skills for Self-Improvement 105
Skill 9: Having a Good Sense of Humor 106
Worksheet 53: Benefits of a Sense of Humor 107
Worksheet 54: Creating Humor Appropriately 108
Worksheet 55: Easing Tension with Humor 109
Worksheet 56: Laughing WITH, not Laughing AT 110
Worksheet 57: Using Humor to Include Others 112
Skill 10: Communicating 113
Worksheet 58: Expressing Yourself with Words 115
Worksheet 59: Waiting Before Responding 117
Worksheet 60: Avoiding Getting Upset 119
Worksheet 61: Public Versus Private Conversations 120
Worksheet 62: Controlling Your Feelings 121
Skill 11: Standing Up for Yourself 122
Worksheet 63: That’s Not Right! 123
Worksheet 64: Why Do You Think That Way? 125
Worksheet 65: What’s the Problem? 126
Skill 12: Making Good Decisions 127
Worksheet 66: Questions to Ask Yourself 130
Worksheet 67: A Decision-Making Chart 132
Worksheet 68: What Decision Needs to Be Made? 133
Worksheet 69: When You Need More Information 135
Worksheet 70: Head Versus Heart Decisions 137
Worksheet 71: Not Everything Is a Crisis 139
Worksheet 72: What Is Common Sense? 140
Worksheet 73: Looking for Clues 141
Worksheet 74: Using Your Common Sense 142
Chapter 5 Skills for Interacting with Others 143
Skill 13: Knowing What’s Expected 144
Worksheet 75: A New Kind of Reading 146
Worksheet 76: Clueing into Others’ Moods 147
Worksheet 77: Knowing What to Expect: People 149
Worksheet 78: Knowing What to Expect: Situations 150
Worksheet 79: Knowing What to Expect: Tasks 151
Worksheet 80: Knowing What to Expect: Commonsense Clues 152
Skill 14: Negotiating or Compromising 153
Worksheet 81: Negotiation as a Social Skill 156
Worksheet 82: You Can’t Always Have Your Own Way 158
Worksheet 83: Situations to Negotiate 159
Worksheet 84: Things That Aren’t Negotiable 160
Worksheet 85: Practice Negotiating 161
Worksheet 86: Introduction to a Different Viewpoint 162
Worksheet 87: Identifying Different Points of View 163
Worksheet 88: Changing Your Situation, Changing Your Opinion 164
Worksheet 89: What Are Your Opinions? 166
Worksheet 90: Being Open to New Things 167
Skill 15: Making Others Feel Comfortable 169
Worksheet 91: Embarrassing Moments for Others 171
Worksheet 92: Helping Others Through Stressful or
Uncomfortable Situations 172
Worksheet 93: Things to Beware Of! 173
Worksheet 94: Being Happy/Sad/Sharing Emotions with Others 174
Worksheet 95: Avoiding Hot Topics 176
Worksheet 96: When NOT to Be Social 177
Skill 16: Recognizing Interactions That May Not Be for You 178
Worksheet 97: Everybody’s Doing It 181
Worksheet 98: Positive and Negative Peer Pressure 182
Worksheet 99: When There’s a Conflict 184
Worksheet 100: Resisting Negative Pressure 186
Worksheet 101: Asking for Too Much Information 187
Worksheet 102: Rude Behavior of Others 188
Part III: Applying Social Skills in Life Situations 189
Chapter 6 Using Social Skills at Home 193
Worksheet 103: Getting Along with Parents 197
Worksheet 104: Getting Along with Siblings 198
Worksheet 105: Balancing Responsibilities and Desires 199
Worksheet 106: Intrusions on Privacy 200
Worksheet 107: Handling a Divorce or Family Split 202
Worksheet 108: Living with Abusive or Dysfunctional Family Members 204
Worksheet 109: Spending Quality Time with Your Family 205
Worksheet 110: Learning About Your Family 207
Worksheet 111: Becoming Independent 208
Worksheet 112: Forgiving Others 209
Worksheet 113: Family Pride 211
Chapter 7 Using Social Skills at School 213
Worksheet 114: Getting Along with Teachers and Other Authority Figures 218
Worksheet 115: Managing a Social Life 220
Worksheet 116: Asking for Help 222
Worksheet 117: Eating Lunch Alone 224
Worksheet 118: Failing Classes 226
Worksheet 119: Discipline Problems 227
Worksheet 120: Intimidation from Other Students 228
Worksheet 121: Developing a Bad Attitude Toward School 229
Worksheet 122: Extracurricular Activities 230
Worksheet 123: Giving Extra Effort Toward Excellence 231
Worksheet 124: Work-Study Options 232
Worksheet 125: School Safety 233
Worksheet 126: Remote Learning 234
Chapter 8 Using Social Skills at Work 237
Worksheet 127: Getting Along with Your Supervisor 242
Worksheet 128: Getting Along with Coworkers 244
Worksheet 129: Is This the Right Job for You? 245
Worksheet 130: Understanding the Skills Required for the Job 247
Worksheet 131: Developing Good Work Habits 248
Worksheet 132: Following Instructions 249
Worksheet 133: Dealing with Complaining Customers 250
Worksheet 134: Being Resourceful 251
Worksheet 135: Taking Initiative for Promotion 252
Worksheet 136: Dealing with Sick Days 254
Worksheet 137: When Your Boss Is Wrong 256
Chapter 9 Using Social Skills with Peers 257
Worksheet 138: Is This a Good Friend? 262
Worksheet 139: Ways to Make Friends 263
Worksheet 140: Are You a Good Friend? 264
Worksheet 141: Why We Want Friends 265
Worksheet 142: Respecting Others as Individuals 266
Worksheet 143: Taking Advantage of Social Opportunities 267
Worksheet 144: Feeling Outcast 268
Worksheet 145: When a Friend Is in Trouble 269
Worksheet 146: Misunderstandings 270
Worksheet 147: Using Social Media Positively 271
Worksheet 148: Types of Bullying 272
Worksheet 149: Cyberbullying Responses 273
Worksheet 150: Responding to Bullying 275
Worksheet 151: Making Friends Online 276
Chapter 10 Using Social Skills in the Community 277
Worksheet 152: Respecting the Property of Others 280
Worksheet 153: Demonstrating Good Manners Toward Others 281
Worksheet 154: Respecting Community Authority Figures 282
Worksheet 155: Being Aware of Local Issues 283
Worksheet 156: Supporting Efforts to Improve the Community 284
Worksheet 157: Dealing with Unhelpful People 286
Worksheet 158: Helping in Your Community 288
Worksheet 159: Showing Respect to Older People 289
Worksheet 160: Welcoming Visitors to Your Community 292
Chapter 11 Using Social Skills in Leisure Settings 293
Worksheet 161: A Few of Your Favorite Things 295
Worksheet 162: Unwritten Rules 296
Worksheet 163: Inviting Others to Join In 301
Worksheet 164: Dealing with Social Anxiety 304
Worksheet 165: Special Events 307
Worksheet 166: Popular Leisure Activities for Teens 309
Chapter 12 What Others Need to Know 311
Worksheet 167: Treating Others with Kindness 313
Worksheet 168: Treating Others with Respect 315
Worksheet 169: Treating Others with Patience 316
Worksheet 170: Sharing Your Skills and Influence 318
