Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself: Making the Journey from Condemnation to Compassion

by Chris Thurman

Overview

Everyone of us struggle with faulty ways of thinking that damage our emotional health, relationships with others, and spiritual growth and development. One of the most toxic and destructive ways we view reality is to think in terms of how things should or shouldn't be, something that keeps us from accepting the difficult things that come our way and coping with them properly. This book examines twenty of the most toxic "shoulds" we suffer from and how to overcome them so that our lives can flourish.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781637460221
Publisher:	Kharis Publishing
Publication date:	05/31/2021
Pages:	268
Product dimensions:	5.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.56(d)

About the Author

Dr. Chris Thurman is a psychologist, a author, and public speaker. He has a doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of Texas, and has been in private practice for over 30 years. Chris has authored numerous books including the bestseller The Lies We Believe (over 250,000 in print) and conducted hundreds of seminars for churches and corporations around the country. Chris and his wife, Holly, have been married for forty years and have three grown children and three adorable grandchildren. In his spare time, Chris loves to play golf, follow his beloved Texas Longhorns, and, most importantly, teach others how knowing the truth can set them free to live the abundant life.For more information concerning Dr. Thurman's seminars, please contact him at his website, drchristhurman.com.

Table of Contents

CONTENTS

1 You're Shoulding All Over Yourself 1

2 I Shouldn't Make Mistakes 10

3 I Should Be Able to Get More Done 14

4 I Should Be Able to Control My Circumstances 18

5 I Should Know More Than I Do 22

6 I Should Be Happier Than I Am 26

7 I Shouldn't Do Embarrassing Things 30

8 I Shouldn't Be Addicted to Anything 35

9 I Should Be More Sensitive to Others 39

10 I Shouldn't Forget Things 43

11 I Should Be More Successful 47

12 I Should Like Everything About the Way I Look 52

13 I Should Be Emotionally Smarter 55

14 I Should Be in a Better Mood 60

15 I Should Know What I Want to Do with My Life 64

16 I Shouldn't Have Any Bad Habits 68

17 I Shouldn't Be Losing a Step 72

18 I Shouldn't Have a Bad Bent 76

19 I Should Be a Better Communicator 80

20 I Shouldn't Have Any Unlikeable Qualities 85

21 I Should Have High Self-Esteem 91

22 What Should Have Happened Did 96

Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself Workbook 103

Appendix A: Recommended Reading That Will Help You Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself 247

Appendix B: References 252

Appendix C: Favorite 'Should' Quotations 253

Editorial Reviews

Who among us doesn't wrestle with toxic guilt? Who has never been ravaged by unhealthy self-punishment? Who hasn't experienced the damage of unwavering shame? Well, Chris Thurman has done it again! In this eye-opening book, he offers the antidote to self-condemnation, an elixir guaranteed to induce better emotional health, and the secret balm for more grace and compassion - for you and those around you. Don't miss out on this life-changing message.

-Les Parrott, Ph.D.

#1 New York Times bestselling author of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.

I wish this book had been around twenty years ago! I recognized myself in just about every chapter. Chris Thurman's work provides important insight into the struggles that often keep people from recognizing their full God-given potential and, better still, offers a remedy to put a stop to the "shoulding" game. Trust me when I say, you SHOULD buy this book!

-Vicki Courtney

Speaker and bestselling author of Move On, Rest Assured, and 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter, and 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son.

"Should" is a word we've all said a million times, but Dr. Thurman insightfully helps us see how often it leads to shame, perfectionism, or a critical spirit that we need to let go of so we can become healthier, more loving people. If you want to break free from the shame and self-condemnation caused by shoulding all over yourself and experience a fuller taste of the abundant life, read this book.

-Pastor John Burke

New York Times bestselling author of No Perfect People Allowed and Imagine Heaven.

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