05/20/2019
In this thoughtful treatise spurred by the 2015 death of African-American academic Sandra Bland in jail after a traffic stop, New Yorker writer Gladwell (The Tipping Point ) aims to figure out the strategies people use to assess strangers—to “analyze , critique them, figure out where they came from, figure out how to fix them,” in other words: to understand how to balance trust and safety. He uses a variety of examples from history and recent headlines to illustrate that people size up the motivations, emotions, and trustworthiness of those they don’t know both wrongly and with misplaced confidence. He relates, for example, the story of a whole cadre of American spies in Cuba who were carefully handpicked by American intelligence operatives, all of whom turned out to be pro-Castro double agents. Gladwell writes in his signature colorful, fluid, and accessible prose, though he occasionally fails to make fully clear the connection between a seemingly tangential topic such as suicide risk and the book’s main questions. In addition to providing an analysis of human mental habits and interactions, Gladwell pleas for more thoughtful ways of behaving and advocates for people to embrace trust, rather than defaulting to distrust, and not to “blame the stranger.” Readers will find this both fascinating and topical. Agent: Tina Bennett, William Morris Endeavor. (Sept.)
★ 2019-05-12
Every few years, journalist Gladwell (David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants , 2013, etc.) assembles serious scientific research on oddball yet relevant subjects and then writes a bestseller. Readers expecting another everything-you-think-you-know-is-wrong page-turner will not be disappointed, but they will also encounter some unsettling truths. The author begins with a few accounts of black Americans who died at the hands of police, using the incidents to show how most of us are incompetent at judging strangers. Countless psychological studies demonstrate that humans are terrible at detecting lying. Experts such as FBI agents don't perform better. Judges interview suspects to determine if they deserve bail; they believe it helps, but the opposite is true. Computers, using only hard data, do much better. Many people had qualms about Bernie Madoff, but interviewers found him completely open and honest; "he was a sociopath dressed up as a mensch." This, Gladwell emphasizes, is the transparency problem. We believe that someone's demeanor reflects their thoughts and emotions, but it often doesn't. Gladwell's second bombshell is what he calls "default to truth." It seems like a university president resigns in disgrace every few months for the same reason: They hear accusations of abusive behavior by an employee—e.g., Larry Nassar at Michigan State, Jerry Sandusky at Penn State—conduct an investigation, but then take no action, often claiming that they did not have enough evidence of deceit. Ultimately, everyone agrees that they were criminally negligent. Another example is CIA official James Angleton, who was convinced that there was a Soviet mole in the agency; his decades of suspicion and search ruined careers and crippled American intelligence. Gladwell emphasizes that society could not function if we did not give everyone the benefit of the doubt. "To assume the best of another is the trait that has created modern society," he writes. "Those occasions when our trusting nature is violated are tragic. But the alternative—to abandon trust as a defense against predation and deception—is worse."
Another Gladwell tour de force but perhaps his most disturbing.
"Talking to Strangers is a must-read...I love this book... Reading it will actually change not just how you see strangers, but how you look at yourself, the news—the world...Reading this book changed me."—Oprah Winfrey, O, The Oprah Magazine People, Book of the Week Chris Barton, Los Angeles Times Talking to Strangers is weightier than his previous titles."—Amy Chozick, New York Times Rhett Power, Forbes Maggie Taft, Booklist Kirkus Reviews (starred review) Publishers Weekly Bob Brisco, WebMD Magazine Stephen Galloway, Hollywood Reporter Leigh Anne Focareta, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette John Brandon, Daily Beast Pilita Clark, Financial Times (UK)
Inspiring and motivating...Gladwell is a wunderkind and a saint...He takes on racial division, incompatible perspectives, and emotional dissonance without ever sounding preaching or proud. The stories make you think.
Gladwell’s message that we should all approach strangers ‘with caution and humility’—has fortuitous timing, given a political climate in which we can hardly stand to interact with people who watch a different cable network.”
A sweeping survey tour of miscommunication, through stories ripped from the headlines and history books…Fascinating.”
Powerful advice on truly getting to know others...Gladwell brilliantly argues that we should stop assuming, realize no one's transparent and understand that behavior is tied to unseen circumstances.
Gladwell brilliantly argues that we should stop assuming, realize no one’s transparent, and understand that behavior is tied to unseen circumstances.”
Mr. Gladwell's towering success rests on the moment when the skeptic starts to think that maybe we're wrong about everything and maybe, just maybe, this Gladwell guy is onto something...Talking to Strangers is weightier than his previous titles.
New York Times Amy Chozick
Gladwell uses compelling real-world examples to show the how and why behind our interactions with folks we're trying to understand.
Gladwell's case studies are thrilling...Chock-full of gripping anecdotes from the recent and forgotten past. He uses these riveting stories to offer up bite-size observations about how we engage with strangers.
Gladwell has again delivered a compelling, conversation-starting read...At a time when the world feels intractably polarized, a book examining the varying ways we misinterpret or fail to communicate with one another could not feel more necessary...With a mix of reporting, research and a deft narrative hand, Gladwell illuminates these examples with the page-turning urgency of a paperback thriller.
Los Angeles Times Chris Barton
This book is kind of like taking a crash college course in communication, except Malcom Gladwell is your professor, and he’s helping you completely rethink the way you go through the world.”
Superb writing. Masterful structure.
Financial Times (UK) Pilita Clark
With a mix of reporting, research, and a deft narrative hand, Gladwell illuminates these examples with the page-turning urgency of a paperback thriller, building a case on the ways these misconceptions lead to disaster…A compelling, conversation-starting read.”
Offers a provocative take on what close encounters between strangers have to teach us…Reading it will actually change not just how you see strangers, but how you look at yourself, the news—the world.”
As always, with his narrative gift and eye for the telling detail, Gladwell peppers his work with unforgettable facts... He has immense gifts—a probing, original, questioning mind, an ability to dig up information others haven't considered and tie it to a broader point. He has a narrative skill nonpareil.
Hollywood Reporter Stephen Galloway
Gives us more food for thought…Read by the engaging author himself.”
Gladwell interviews brilliant people, generates powerful insights, writes like an angel, and has earned a massive and admiring audience. He has a keen eye and a witty flair and he's one of the best observationalists of a generation. Gladwell is a big-picture thinker who helps us make sense of the human condition.
WebMD Magazine Bob Brisco
Malcolm Gladwell is a fabulous narrator…His pleasing tone, phrasing palette, and exceptional skill with dramatic pauses all sound natural, yet add sparkling energy to his writing…Winner of the AudioFile Earphones Award.”
Talking to Strangers is a must-read...I love this book... Reading it will actually change not just how you see strangers, but how you look at yourself, the news—the world...Reading this book changed me.
Puts a distinctive and provocative spin on his topic, bringing it to life by populating the book with riveting, headline-grabbing scandals and drawing on psychological research and social science to support his claims.”
Christian Science Monitor
Engaging...Mr. Gladwell [presents] a mountain of quirky anecdotes and interesting research about our blunders with strangers, and why we make them...It's fascinating to peek at these incidents through Mr. Gladwell's psychological lens.
Pittsburgh Post-Gazette Leigh Anne Focareta
Malcolm Gladwell is a fabulous narrator of his latest book, this one about the biases and blind spots people have when trying to understand people who are not like they are. His pleasing tone, phrasing palette, and exceptional skill with dramatic pauses all sound natural, yet add sparkling energy to his writing. He says we often misunderstand others because of cultural and neurological factors that make us default to believing, trusting, and wanting to connect with them. His discussions of how people misread figures like Bernie Madoff and Amanda Knox are riveting. And without moralizing or excusing, he shows how we can also be sidetracked by a variety of institutional and character flaws when doing police work, conducting courtroom trials, and judging any number of people in situations where the truth is mismatched with what is presented. T.W. Winner of AudioFile Earphones Award, 2019 Best Audiobook, 2020 Audies Finalist © AudioFile 2019, Portland, Maine
