That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week: Helping Disorganized and Distracted Boys Succeed in School and Life

That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week: Helping Disorganized and Distracted Boys Succeed in School and Life

by Ana Homayoun

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Overview

At last, the solution for getting disorganized boys back on track.

Missed assignments. Lack of focus and enthusiasm. Falling grades. For too many boys and their frustrated parents, these are the facts of life. But they don't have to be.

Top academic couselor Ana Homayoun has helped turn even the most disorganized, scattered, and unfocused boys into successful young people who consistently meet their personal and academic challenges. She does this by getting back to basics- -starting with a simple fact: Most boys needs to be taught how to get organized, how to study, and— most important—how to visualize, embrace and meet their own goals.

With an accessible and no-nonsense approach, Homayoun shows how to:

•Identify their son's disorganizational style
• Help him set academic and personal goals he cares about
• Design and establish the right "tools of the trade"
• Complete assignments without pulling all-nighters
•Help him tune out social pressure and fend off anxiety
Much more than a study guide, this insightful, user-friendly book provides a roadmap for the success too many boys have trouble finding—in school and in life.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780399535598
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 01/05/2010
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 152,285
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Ana Homayoun is a nationally recognized counselor and consultant specializing in strategies for junior-high and high-school students. The founder and president of Green Ivy Educational Consulting and the author of That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week, she is a frequent writer and lecturer on adolescent issues.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

1 Why Boys Struggle With Organization And Time Management 1

Challenge 1 The Reality of Multi-Tasking 4

Challenge 2 The Parent Crutch 6

Challenge 3 he Lure of Technology 8

Challenge 4 Sleep Deprivation 9

Challenge 5 The Crippling Fear of the Unwise Choice 10

How This Book Can Help 12

Summary 13

2 Approach And Attitude: How Parents Factor Into The Equation 15

Creating the Positive Foundation 17

Have Cooperative Collaborative Meetings 19

You Are Not Alone: Seek Like-Minded Friends 19

Avoid Competitive Parenting 21

Bribery, Humiliation, and Negotiation Do Not Work 23

Your Son Does Care (He Just May Not Want You to Know It) 25

Make a Fresh Start and Just Let It Go 26

Accept Your Child for Who He Really Is 28

Let Him Take Ownership of His Successes and Mistakes 30

Summary 32

3 Identifying Your Son's (Dis) Organizational Style 33

The Over-Scheduled Procrastinator 34

The Scattered Charmer 36

The Tech Master 38

The Seriously Struggling Student 40

The Creative Wonder 42

The Intellectual Conversationalist 45

The Sincere Slacker 47

The Seemingly Satisfied Underachiever 49

Summary 52

4 Setting Academic And Personal Goals 55

His Dreams, His Goals 58

Three Academic and Three Personal Goals: Measurable and Specific 61

Why Setting Goals Is My Favorite Part of My Work 70

Summary 71

5 Binders, Planners, And Other Essential Tools 75

The Elusive and All-Important Key: An Organized Binder 76

Creating Organized Binders 82

Organizing Binders After the Grading Period Is Complete 88

The Other Essential: Planners 89

The Wired Challenge: PDAs and Online Homework 91

Summary 93

6 Creating SpaceFor Success: A Place To Study 97

Beware of the Bedroom 98

Effective Study Spaces 102

What If the Bedroom is the Only Option? 108

Creating That Home Space: Supplies and Other Necessities 109

Final Thoughts 110

Summary 111

7 Scheduling Homework to Manage time Effectively 113

Study Habits That Work and Free Up Time 115

Summary 127

8 Strategies For Quizzes, Tests, Projects, And Finals 129

Proactive vs. Reactive 131

Designate Break Times 133

Active vs. Passive Learning 133

How to Handle Quizzes 134

The Indispensable Flash Card 138

Big Tests 139

A Word About Test Anxiety 141

Long-Term Projects 145

Writing Essays 148

Studying for Finals 153

Final Thoughts 155

Summary 155

9 Healthy Mind, Healthy Body: Helping Your Son De-Stress, Recharge, And Grow 161

Diet and Nutrition 162

Exercise and Sleep 167

Healthy Motivations Outside the Classroom 174

Emotional Balance 180

The Problem of Over-Scheduling 184

Summary 192

10 Special Considerations: Students With Learning Differences 195

The Particular Challenge of Parental Over-Involvement 197

The Psychological Fallout of Learning Difficulties 204

Creating the Right Set of Accommodations 207

Summary 216

11 Special Considerations: Single Parent/Guardian, Separation/Divorce, And Two Households 219

Household Transitions Can Cause Major Upheaval 220

Separation and Divorce 222

With Divorce, Focus on the Parenting Plan 225

Two-Household Challenges 227

Tips for Two-Household Families 230

Summary 235

12 Special Considerations :Illness 237

Short Term Illness: Cold, Flu, Strep, and Other Ailments 238

Chronic, Long-Term, and Life-Threatening Illnesses 246

When a Parent/Family Member is Sick or Dies 256

Summary 261

13 Implementing The Strategies 263

Sample Five-Week Strategy 265

Acknowledgments 269

Recommended Reading List 271

Sources 273

List Of Worksheets 275

Index 277

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

"That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week provides an innovative and practical approach to helping boys find success. Ana Homayoun presents straightforward, easily implementable solutions that will help transform the lives of boys and parents. A wonderful read!"
-Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Minds of Boys

"Ana Homayoun gets it! Combining an extraordinary feel for what boys face in schools these days with an enormously shrewd, practical sets of tips on how to get organized and excel, this book hits a home run. All parents and teachers as well as students (yes, I think girls could find it useful, too!) will find that this book makes school less of a struggle and more of a pleasure. Brief, to-the- point, and clear, this book is an invaluable, unique tool."
-Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Super Parenting for ADD and Driven to Distraction

"Filled with practical advice for the parents of disorganized boys (and that's an awful lot of young boys), Ana Homayoun's That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week teaches us how to help our sons navigate through a school environment that is less than kind to distracted and disorganized young men."
-Madeline Levine, Ph.D., Author of The Price of Privlege

"Homayoun, an educational consultant, has seen plenty of boys who score high on standardized tests but earn poor grades. Often the reason is that boys are not as good as girls at multitasking, a crucial skill that requires organization. She reports complaints from parents of boys chronically losing homework, forgetting tests, and not turning in assignments. She cites research on differences in how girls and boys learn, and examines them in the context of the distractions of technology, from video games to the Internet. Homayoun also looks at contributing factors, from sleep deprivation to overly involved parents. She helps parents to identify the particular style of their son's disorganization—procrastinator, scatterbrain, slacker, underachiever—and how to tailor a program that will help him. Among the suggestions: goal setting, self-competition, breaking down tasks into steps, scheduling to avoid stress and manage extracurricular activities, and using an assortment of tools, including binders and planners. Helpful advice for parents struggling with disorganized boys—or girls."
-Vanessa Bush, Booklist December 2009

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I saw the book reviewed on television and ran out to get it. I have a son who is intelligent but has a problem with organization, focusing and "forgetting" to turn in his work. After reading this book, I realized I was not alone. It was an easy read, full of practical advice.
walterqchocobo on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This was an excellent guide to helping boys learn to be more organized for school and everyday life. The author lays out a common sense approach to organization and gives plenty of suggestions and examples to assist parents on how to implement her strategies. I thought that her reminders not to focus so heavily on the grades, but instead on the organization and study methods was a good suggestion. I would strongly suggest this book for anyone with a child that needs some help with organization. I am looking forward to trying some of her suggestions with my own teenage son.
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