The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works

The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works

by Suzanne Venker
The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works

The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works

by Suzanne Venker


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The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage shows women who have a dominating personality how to love a man.

America is in love with the alpha female. She’s the quintessential modern woman—assertive, razor sharp, and fully in control. Her success in the marketplace is undeniable, a downright boon to society. But what happens when the alpha female gets married?

She becomes an alpha wife, of course.

An alpha wife is in charge of everything and everyone. She is, quite simply, the Boss. The problem is, no man wants a boss for a wife. That type of relationship may work for a spell, but it will eventually come crashing down. Since 1970, just as women became more and more powerful outside the home—more alpha—the divorce rate has quadrupled. And it is women who lead the charge. Today, 70% of divorce is initiated by wives.

Do men just make lousy husbands? Not at that rate, says Suzanne Venker, bestselling author of The War on Men. The truth is that women don’t know how to be wives. Why would they? That’s not what they were raised to become.

But women can learn. There’s an art to loving a man, says Venker, and any woman can master it. An alpha female herself, Venker learned how to be a wife the hard way—through trial and error. Lots of error. And here’s what she knows today—the set of skills a woman needs to pursue a career, or even to raise children, is the exact set of skills that will mess up her marriage but good. No man likes to be told what to do. And no woman respects the man who does.

The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage gives women who are used to being in charge the tools they need to make their marriages less competitive and more complementary. Part memoir, part advice, this brave manifesto argues that while marriage is more challenging for the alpha female, it is possible to find peace in your marriage. In fact, it may be easier than you think.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781618688446
Publisher: Post Hill Press
Publication date: 02/14/2017
Pages: 176
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.25(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Suzanne Venker is on a mission to deprogram women from the toxic cultural influences that undermine their success in life and in love. She’s the author of five books, a certified relationship coach, and host of The Suzanne Venker Show. Her work has appeared in countless publications, such as Fox News, the Washington Examiner, TIME, USA Today, and the New York Post. She has also appeared on many television and radio programs. Suzanne lives in the Midwest with her husband of twenty-three years. They have a son and a daughter, both of whom are in college. Her website is and her podcast can be reached at

Table of Contents

A Note from the Author vii

Disclaimers ix

Quiz: Are You an Alpha Wife? x

Introduction: A New Set of Tools 13

Chapter 1 Wave the White Flag 25

Chapter 2 Decide to Stay 38

Chapter 3 Learn the Dance 47

Chapter 4 Own Your Feminine (or Your Inner Beta) 62

Chapter 5 Serve for the Sake of Serving 77

Chapter 6 Have Zero Expectations 87

Chapter 7 Don't Use Money as a Weapon 104

Chapter 8 Stop Saying No 126

Chapter 9 Speak Less-You'll Say More 135

Chapter 10 Get Busy in the Bedroom 144

Afterword 157

Dos and Don'ts for Alpha Females 159

Notes 161

Acknowledgements 165

Reading Group Questions 167

An Interview with the Author 169

About the Author 175

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