Table of Contents
Foreword xi
1 People's Protective Bubbles Are Okay 3
2 How to Make Friends in a New City 4
3 The Uniqlo Game 6
4 Going to the Gym 7
5 How to Be Good at Playing Charades 9
6 Don't Pretend There Is No Leader 12
7 The Chairs Are Where the People Go 15
8 How to Teach Charades 17
9 Miscommunication Is Nice 20
10 The Gibberish Game 21
11 The Residents'Association 23
12 There Are Some Games I Won't Play with My Friends 36
13 Social Music 37
14 Manners 39
15 How to Improvise, and How Not to Not Improvise 42
16 The Crazy Parts 46
17 Charging for My Classes 48
18 What Is a Game? 50
19 Spam 51
20 Margaux 55
21 Charades Homework 56
22 Harvard and Class 59
23 The Rocks Game 66
24 Some Video on the Internet 68
25 People Who Take My Classes 70
26 Shut Up and Listen 71
27 Is Monogamy a Trick? 72
28 The Conducting Game 75
29 Sitting on the Same Side of the Table 78
30 Seeing My Friends Drunk for the First Time 81
31 A Decision Is a Thing You Make 84
32 All the Games Are Meant to Solve Problems, but Problems Are Unpleasant 89
33 Home Maladies 90
34 Keeping Away People Who Would Be Disappointed 92
35 The Happiness Class 93
36 The Converge/Diverge Game 98
37 Going to Parties 101
38 Kensington Market 103
39 Keeping People Quiet 108
40 Feeling Like a Fraud 110
41 Negotiation 111
42 Fighting Games 113
43 What Experimental Music Is For 118
44 These Projects Don't Make Money 119
45 Seeing Your Parents Once a Week 122
46 Asking a Good Question 123
47 A Mind Is Not a Terrible Thing to Measure 125
48 Doing One Thing Doesn't Mean You're Against Something Else 128
49 Get Louder or Quit 129
50 Why Robert McKee Is Wrong About Casablanca 130
51 Conferences Should Be an Exhilarating Experience 132
52 Improvised Behavior 139
53 Storytelling Is Not the Same Thing as Conversation 140
54 Introducing People in the Classes 141
55 Making the City More Fun for You and Your Privileged Friends Isn't a Super-Noble Political Goal 143
56 Seeing John Zorn Play Cobra 145
57 Impostor Syndrome 148
58 Nimbyism 149
59 Conducting from the Center of a Circle 151
60 Why Noise Music? 153
61 Absenteeism 154
62 Failure and Games 155
63 Why a Computer Only Lasts Three Years 156
64 What Are These Classes For? 157
65 Who Are Your Friends? 159
66 Neighborhoods Change 160
67 Atheism and Ritual 162
68 Social Capital 164
69 Sitting Down and Listening as a Role 165
70 Everyone's Favorite Thing and Unfavorite Thing Are Different 167
71 Finding an Ending 168
72 Wearing a Suit All the Time Is a Good Way to Quit Smoking 169
Acknowledgments 175