In an era of mommy blogs, Pinterest, and Facebook, The Good Mother Myth dismantles the social mediafed notion of what it means to be a “good mother.” This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines or on the news.
From tales of mind-bending, panic-inducing overwhelm to a reflection on using weed instead of wine to deal with the terrible twos, the honesty of the essays creates a community of mothers who refuse to feel like they’re in competition with others, or with the notion of the ideal momthey’re just trying to find a way to make it work. With a foreword by Christy Turlington Burns and a contributor list that includes Jessica Valenti, Sharon Lerner, Soraya Chemaly, Amber Dusick, and many more, this remarkable collection seeks to debunk the myth and offer honest perspectives on what it means to be a mother.
|Publisher:||Da Capo Press|
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About the Author
Avital Norman Nathman is a former teacher and lifelong learner turned freelance writer. Her work, which places a feminist lens on a variety of topics, including motherhood, gender, reproductive justice, and reproductive health, has been featured in Bitch magazine, The New York Times, Bamboo Family Magazine, RH Reality Check, CNN, Offbeat Families, HLNtv.com, and more. In addition to her blog, The Mamafesto, Norman Nathman has a regular series, “The Femisphere,” for Ms. magazine’s site, as well as a regular feminist parenting column, “Mommie Dearest,” for The Frisky.
While teaching high school social studies for a number of years, Norman Nathman completed her master’s thesis at Wesleyan University, with a concentration in women’s studies. Her thesis, which focused on the status of feminism in the lives of women in their twenties, only fueled her interest in investigating and commenting on the role of feminism for women in other aspects of their lives, including motherhood.
Based in Western Massachusetts with her husband and son, Norman Nathman enjoys digging in her urban garden, hosting dance parties in her kitchen, tweeting (follow her @TheMamafesto), and searching for the perfect cup of chai.
Christy Turlington Burns is a mother, a model, and the founder of Every Mother Counts, a campaign to end preventable deaths caused by pregnancy and childbirth around the world.
Table of Contents
Foreword Christy Turlington Burns ix
Part I Mama, Don't Fail Me Now…
Ichabod's Ghost Abby Sher 21
My Little Early Perfect Stephanie Kaloi 27
The Unapologetic No Soraya Chemaly 33
Parenting Without a Rope Heather Hewett 41
Mama Don't Cook Carla Naumburg 49
The Hallowed Life of an Agnostic Mother Victoria Brooke Rodrigues 57
When Our Hearts Walk Outside of Our Bodies Jessica Valenti 65
Yes, I Am That Selfish Avital Norman Nathman 69
Part II In The Mama Trenches
The Good Enough Mother Nerissa Nields 77
Another Way to End the Evening Andie Fox 83
Climbers Deborah Siegel 89
Is This Motherhood or Middle School? Naomi Shulman 97
There's a Zombie Cavewoman in All of Us Amber Dusick 103
No More Fakebook Sarah Emily Tuttle-Singer 107
Oh Father, Where Art Thou? Lisa Duggan 113
Part III Inside Mama's Mind
An Existential Crisis is Born Aly Windsor 121
Through Distortion Arwyn Daemyir 129
Down the Rabbit Hole Anne-Marie Lindsey 135
Failure to Launch Kimberly Morand 141
The Peculiar Curse of Mentally 111 Motherhood Shannon Drury 147
Part IV Mama By Any Other Name
The Invisible Mother Shay Stewart-Bouley 155
The Adoption Aisle Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser 163
Confessions of a Born-Bad Mother Joy Ladin 171
The Impossibility of the Good Black Mother T. F. Charlton 177
Not Your Average Teen Mother Elizabeth Crossen 185
All the Single Ladies Jennifer Baumgardner 193
The Way It's Supposed to Be Kristen Oganowski 201
Part V "No Good" Mama
Joint Parenting Pauline Abraham 209
The End of Cute Sharon Lerner 213
The Macaroni and Cheese Dilemma Liz Henry 221
Making Time for Lust Erika Lust 227
To Be Real Candace Walsh 231
Lucky American Girl K. J. Dellantonia 237
My Online Life as a (Not So) Lesbian Mama Christina Soletti 245
When Good Mothers Come From Bad Ones Gina Crosley-Corcoran 253
Give Me My 'A' In Scarlet Tara Jean Bernier 261
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I found The Good Mother Myth to be informative, eye opening, funny, and at times brought me to tears. No matter what type of mother you are, you will find yourself within this book. Whether you are a stay at home mom, working mom, lesbian mom, postpartum depressed mom, or a mom with physical or mental health issues. I definitely found many essays of the book that I could relate to. My favorite essay was by Amber Dusick. Oh my goodness! It was SO funny! I think this book is a must read for ALL mothers. 5 stars
I bought this book after reading some 4 and 5 star reviews. I was very disappointed. I have 2 young boys and love reading about other moms. This book didn't make me think I could connect to any of them. It seemed more for unconventional families not traditional ones. Such as mental disorders, lesbians, transgenders and single moms, even moms who feel good about having an abortion.