The Intimate Connection: Secrets to a Lifelong Romance

The Intimate Connection: Secrets to a Lifelong Romance

by Kevin Leman


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Creating a happy, lifelong marriage is about much more than physical compatibility. It's about a lifestyle of 24-7 intimacy that bonds couples in a mutually satisfying relationship. In The Intimate Connection, bestselling marriage expert Dr. Kevin Leman explores key secrets to the love life couples crave. He helps readers

- understand each other's needs, backgrounds, and personalities (and how those factors influence every marital interaction)
- talk so their spouse really listens
- turn negative game-playing into positive behaviors that help couples grow closer
- create deep, long-lasting intimacy that's divorce-proof

Whether couples are new to marriage or have been married a long time, Dr. Leman's time-tested strategies will create the kind of exciting intimacy, mutual respect, and fulfilling communication that will keep husbands and wives in each other's arms for a lifetime.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780800734947
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/30/2019
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 104,491
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker. He has made house calls through hundreds of radio and television programs, such as Fox & Friends, The View, Fox's The Morning Show, Today, Morning in America, The 700 Club, CBS's The Early Show, Janet Parshall, CNN, and Focus on the Family, and has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. A bestselling and award-winning author, Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books, including The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and four grandchildren.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 15

Introduction: How to Get Now What You Had Back Then 15

Secret #1 Acts of Love Create an Unbreakable Bond 19

If you want to change your spouse, try changing yourself first.

Secret #2 Outside Forces Have Shaped Your Relationship (without Your Permission) 33

Three societal factors that greatly impact how you think, feel, and relate to your spouse.

Secret #3 Preconceived Notions Matter 49

What your mom and dad did influences you far more than you know.

Bonus Section: Be Your Own Counselor 59

Secret #4 There's No Reason to Settle for Blah, Less-Than, or a Battlefield 63

The top four reasons couples feel disconnected … and what you can do about it.

Secret #5 Yup, Men and Women Are Different 75

Exploring your spouse's needs and bow you can best meet them.

Secret #6 Sex Is Important … but Not for the Reasons You Might Think 97

How this culminating act of intimacy reflects personal views and needs and impacts marital health.

Secret #7 To Love Your Spouse, You Have to Know Who You Married 107

Understand birth order and you can use it to your shared benefit.

Secret #8 Clashes Feel Less Personal When You Understand Your Partner's Personality 121

How personality types influence the way each of you views life and your relationship.

Secret #9 To Truly Know Your Partner, You Have to Understand Their Life Mantra 135

The seven "I only count in life when …" lifestyles and how they influence your loved one's responses.

Bonus Section: Want to Better Understand Your Spouse? 165

Try these revealing questions for date nights and couples' getaways.

Secret #10 Feelings Pull You Together; Judgments Push You Apart 169

The five things you need to know about feelings, getting behind your spouse's eyes, and how to be good and angry.

Bonus Section: How to Find a Professional Counselor 191

Secret #11 Marriage Isn't a One-on-One Competition; It's a Team Sport 193

How to identify negative moves in six power games and turn them into positive plays.

Secret #12 For Your Spouse to Truly Hear You, You Have to Talk in a Way That Encourages Them to Listen 213

Why miscommunication happens, and bow you can cure it before it causes trouble.

Bonus Section: 3-1-1 Couple Workout 241

Improve listening skills and work out relational kinks with no fighting.

Secret #13 You Can Have the Marriage You Deserve 243

Seven ways to take your marriage off autopilot and make it the best it can be.

Conclusion: Your Intimate Connection Awaits 261

Experience the mutual satisfaction and excitement of two truly becoming one.

The "I Promise" Challenge 265

Notes 267

About Dr. Kevin Leman 269

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 271

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The Intimate Connection: Secrets to a Lifelong Romance 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
lolly-pops More than 1 year ago
INTIMATE CONNECTION is a marriage book by a marriage expert, Dr. Kevin Leman. I learned a lot from Dr. Leman from the first book of his I read. Such as most couples only spend 2 minutes a day talking. I made it a point to connect with my spouse and ask about his day... He knows I care and he gets to vent or share blessings as needed. Also, he may not do a household chore the way I would, but thank him and don't criticize. Random love notes....We've been married over 30 years and are still close. I requested this book for review for my newlywed son and his bride. I think it would be a wonderful gift for them--for any newlywed couple. For any married couple (period). It could save a flagging marriage from divorce. It could revitalize a stagnant marriage. It could save your marriage. INTIMATE CONNECTION is a must have for any pastor's or marriage counselor's library. It is an excellent wedding gift for newlyweds. It is necessary reading for those in a floundering marriage. Grab a copy for you or a friend, a grown child or your church library today and save a marriage. Revitalize a marriage. Connect intimately. Recommended. I was given a copy free. All opinions are my own.
summer_no9 More than 1 year ago
This book was incredible writing and compelling to read with that also will going you more satisfying marriage or you are in relationship and you don’t want to feel like just a best friend. This book will giving you a sweet touches of a long connection, for stimulating flow of conversation, and show you the kind of life partner you’ve always looking of or the kind of marriage that you deserve of. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Revell Reads for this review”.
TemporaryWaffle More than 1 year ago
The Intimate Connection by Dr. Kevin Leman is a self help book based on the secrets to building up a lifelong romance, and a better marriage with your spouse. This book talks about key secrets to increase the bond one another has together, continuing a lifestyle of intimacy, learning to fully respect each other, and open the doors of communication. Some key points that are covered in this book are •gaining the ability to understand each others needs, backgrounds, and personalities •talk so your spouse really listens •turn negative game-play into positive behavior, and •create deep and long-lasting intimacy together. There are are a lot of topics covered in this book, some that you may want to skip over, some that you may find really helpful, and some that you know might help someone else. Dr. Kevin Leman is full of advice and really goes into depth on all kinds of information. I really enjoyed reading about different personality types, and matches based on birth order. Though I didn't really relate to the descriptions, it was interesting to read his take on them. I like that there are different scenarios used in the chapters, to kind of help pave a picture of things different couples go through. There are a lot of interesting ideas in this book, making it great for both first time married couples, or long term marriages. *Disclaimer: I received the above product in exchange for my honest review. All opinions my own.