The Lies We Believe: Renew Your Mind and Transform Your Life

by Chris Thurman

Overview

In a world that is veering dangerously off course from what it calls “truth” comes a classic work that unmasks the lies we unwittingly believe, lies that destroy us and ultimately damage our emotional health, relationships, and spiritual life.

In this completely revised and updated edition, psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman guides the reader through the lies we believe about ourselves, relationships, life, men, women, and, most important, God. He then unpacks the twelve essential truths for emotional health and the truth about God—the ultimate source of Truth.

This easy-to-follow guide to renewing the mind helps identify problem areas and the midcourse correction needed in how we view ourselves and our world. With discussion questions and biblical support, this timeless classic is required reading to help develop the mind of Christ and be able to experience the abundant life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780785226338
Publisher:	Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date:	08/13/2019
Edition description:	Revised
Pages:	352
Sales rank:	338,378
Product dimensions:	8.30(w) x 5.40(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Dr. Chris Thurman is a psychologist, bestselling author, and popular speaker. His passion is to help people experience personal transformation through the renewing of their minds. Chris is the author of numerous books and has conducted hundreds of seminars for churches and corporations around the country. He and his wife, Holly, have three adult children and live in Austin, Texas.

Table of Contents

Introduction xiii

Part 1 Your Beliefs Make or Break You

1 Our Minds Are Under Attack 3

2 The High Cost of the Lies We Believe 23

3 Pulling Down Mental Strongholds 35

Part 2 The Lies We Believe

4 The Lies We Believe About Ourselves 49

"It's Not Okay to Be Human and Make Mistakes"

"My Worth Is Determined by How I Perform"

"I Must Have Everyone's Love and Approval"

"It Is Easier to Avoid My Problems Than to Face Them"

"My Unhappiness Is Externally Caused"

5 The Lies We Believe About Others 63

"People Can Meet All My Emotional Needs"

"Others Should Accept Me Just the Way I Am"

"To Get Along, Everyone Needs to Think, Feel, and Act the Same Way"

"Others Are More Messed Up than Me"

"People Who Hurt Me Have to Earn My Forgiveness"

6 The Lies We Believe About Life 74

"You Can Have It All"

"You Shouldn't Have to Wait for What You Want"

"You Can Do Anything You Set Your Mind-To"

"Being Happy Is the Most Important Thing in Life"

"People Are Basically Good"

"Life Should Be Easy and Fair"

7 The Lies We Believe About God 86

"God's Love Must Be Earned"

"God's Mean and Vindictive"

"God Ignores Our Disobedience"

"God Gives Us Everything We Want"

"God Has Lost Control of Everything"

8 The Lies Men Believe 98

"I Don't Have What It Takes to Be a Man"

"It's Not Okay to Feel Sad, Scared, or Hurt"

"My Good Intentions Ought to Satisfy Everyone"

"Sex Is About My Pleasure and Enjoyment"

"I Can Do It by Myself"

9 The Lies Women Believe 110

"My Main Job in Life Is to Make Everyone Happy"

"It's Not Okay to Speak My Mind"

"I'm Facing My Flaws"

"I'm Not Worthy of Being Loved for Who I Am"

"Outer Beauty Is More Important Than Inner Beauty"

Part 3 The Truths We Must Believe

10 The Truth About the Truth 127

11 To Err Is Human 140

12 You Can't Please Everyone 152

13 There's No Gain Without Pain 163

14 Love Never Fails 176

15 It's Not All About You 187

16 Life Is Difficult 199

17 You Must Change What You Can, Accept What You Can't 210

18 It Is More Blessed to Give Than to Receive 223

19 You Are a Person of Great Worth 233

20 The World Owes You Nothing 245

21 The Victory Is in the Effort, Not the Result 258

22 You Are Going to Die 268

Part 4 The Truth Will Set You Free

23 What Would Jesus Think? 281

24 The Humility of Christ in Interacting with People 292

25 Staying the Course in Renewing Your Mind 304

Acknowledgments 315

Appendix A Biblical Passages on Truth 318

Appendix B Recommended Reading 323

Notes 325

About the Author 335