Hope for all those who want to meditate but feel they can't because they think too much.
“My mind is so busy, I really need to meditate.”
“My mind is so busy, there’s no way I can meditate.”
Familiar dilemma? These days just about all of us know we should be meditating, but that doesn’t make it any easier to sit down and face the repetitive thoughts careening around our brains—seemingly pointless, sometimes hurtful, nearly always hard to control. Rather than quitting meditation or trying to wall off the monkey mind, Ralph De La Rosa suggests asking yourself a question: If you were to stop demonizing your monkey mind, would it have anything to teach you? In a roundabout way, could repetitive thoughts be pointing us in the direction of personal—and even societal—transformation?
Poignant and entertaining, The Monkey Is the Messenger offers a range of evidence-based, somatic, and trauma-informed insights and practices drawn from De La Rosa’s study of neuroscience and psychology and his long practice of meditation and yoga. Here at last—a remedy for all those who want to meditate but suppose they can’t because they think too much.
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About the Author
Ralph De La Rosa is a therapist, meditation teacher, storyteller, and musician. A graduate of Fordham University’s Graduate School of Social Services, he is trained in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy (TF-CBT) and incorporates Internal Family Systems therapy (IFS) alongside traditional psychotherapy in his work. He has been featured in numerous publications including GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and Elephant Journal. He currently resides in New York City.
Table of Contents
List of Practices ix
Foreword Susan Piver xi
Part 1 Body-The Monkey Is a Meditator 11
1 Taking Responsibility for Your Own Happiness 15
2 The Magnificent Mismatch 21
3 Befriending the Body in Meditation 31
4 Evolving the Monkey's Motivations 55
Part 2 Mind-A Monkey Molded by Model Scenes 71
5 The Body of Breath 73
6 Our Monkeys, Ourselves 81
7 How You Breathe Is How You Feel 97
Interlude: The Stories We Tell Ourselves 111
8 How We Get Stuck: Trauma and the Unconscious Mind 117
9 What We Lose When We Lose Empathy 141
Part 3 Heart-The Monkey's Ultimate Message 153
10 The Challenge of Self-Love 155
11 The Monkey Is a Mensch 169
Interlude: Love, Level 10 183
12 The Gifts of Difficulty 185
13 The Family Within 205
14 Working with the Inner Critic and Other Harsh Inner Voices 227
15 Putting It All Together: Integrating Buddhist Meditation with Parts Work 239
About the Author 263