The Pathways to Peace Anger Management Workbook

by William Fleeman

Overview

This anger workbook is unique. It is the official guide for Pathways to Peace, a program which provides self-help anger management and violence prevention instruction for individuals and communities.

Anger is a drug which often turns into a full-blown addiction. This pattern of anger abuse is reinforced socially. People learn to abuse anger from the examples of parents, peers, the media. The book helps people to un-learn these destructive patterns. It shows chronically angry people how to replace their anger habit with peaceful alternatives and respond to their anger triggers in non-violent ways.

This workbook will help the reader:
—Discover how he learned his or her anger pattern
—Find new, nonviolent ways to experience personal power
—Learn to change abusive and violent behaviors
—Focus on values and goals that support a nonviolent rage-free lifestyle
—Identify and change negative attitudes and beliefs that keep a person stuck
—Avoid relapsing back into angry behavior
—Maintain recovery from chronic anger and rage

The workbook is easy to understand. Each of the eighteen chapters includes personal stories and questions for the reader.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780897934176
Publisher:	Turner Publishing Company
Publication date:	06/05/2003
Edition description:	Workbook
Pages:	240
Sales rank:	860,125
Product dimensions:	8.50(w) x 11.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

William Fleeman, founder and director of the Pathways to Peace self-help program for anger management and violence prevention, presents trainings on anger management and trains counselors in Introduction to Pathways to Peace programs. Pathways to Peace peer facilitated groups are popular in New York, Ohio, and Canada, and are spreading to the rest of the US. The author also designs and markets alcoholism and substance abuse home study courses for chemical dependency counselors throughout the US and Canada. Fleeman's courses have been approved by the Navy for use by Navy and Marine Corp chemical dependency counselors at bases throughout the world. He lives in Cassadaga, New York.

Table of Contents

	Introduction	1
	How Long Will It Take to Complete the Workbook?	1
	How Long Will It Take to Heal from Anger and Rage?	2
	The Problem	2
	Pathways to Peace: A Solution	2
	A Message to the Person Struggling to Change	2
Part I	Understand the Problem	5
Chapter 1	The Self-Assessment Process	6
Lesson 1	Pathways to Peace Founder's Story	6
Lesson 2	The Importance of Self-Honesty	18
Lesson 3	Writing Your Story	20
	My Story	21
Lesson 4	Self-Test	29
	Anti-Violence Self-Agreement	30
Chapter 2	Understand the Nature of Anger, Rage, and Violence	31
Lesson 1	Normal Anger vs. Problem or Addictive Anger	31
Lesson 2	What Is Violence?	34
Lesson 3	How Anger Is Like a Drug	36
Lesson 4	Excessive Anger as Learned Behavior	37
Lesson 5	Styles of Anger	39
Lesson 6	The Masks Anger Wears	40
Lesson 7	Anger and Grief	42
Lesson 8	The Roots of Anger, Rage, and Violence	45
Part II	Understand the Process of Recovery	47
Chapter 3	The Eight Parts of the Whole Self	48
Lesson 1	The Biological Part	50
Lesson 2	The Environmental Part	51
Lesson 3	The Behavior (Action) Part	53
Lesson 4	The Skill Part (Learning)	54
Lesson 5	The Values/Goals Part	55
Lesson 6	The Beliefs Part	57
Lesson 7	The Mission Part	58
Lesson 8	The Spiritual Part	59
Chapter 4	The Eight Steps of the Recovery Process	61
Step 1	The Admission Step	62
Lesson 162
Step 2	Take Responsibility	64
Lesson 264
Step 3	Realize That Violence Is Never Justified	67
Lesson 367
Step 4	Learn New Ways to Feel Powerful	69
Lesson 469
Step 5	Treat People and Property with Respect	70
Lesson 570
Step 6	Change Negative Beliefs into Positive Beliefs	71
Lesson 671
Step 7	Find Your Purpose	72
Lesson 772
Step 8	Transformation	73
Lesson 873
Chapter 5	Motivate Yourself to Change	75
Lesson 1	The Motivation Script	76
Chapter 6	Understand the Anger Process Using the Niagara Falls Metaphor	82
Lesson 1	A Little Bit About the Niagara Falls	82
Lesson 2	The Niagara Falls Metaphor	85
Lesson 3	The Five Stages of the Anger Process	86
Chapter 7	Interrupt the Process	94
Lesson 1	Will You Ever Forget Your Anger Habit?	94
Lesson 2	Three Steps to Interrupt the Anger Process	96
Part III	Change Your Behavior	103
Chapter 8	Basic Considerations	104
Lesson 1	Nutrition	104
Lesson 2	Sleep and Rest	105
Lesson 3	Physical Exercise	105
Lesson 4	Relaxation	106
Lesson 5	Maintain a Schedule	109
Chapter 9	Skills	111
Lesson 1	Maintain a Positive Mental Focus	111
Lesson 2	The Skills	113
Chapter 10	What to Avoid	123
Lesson 1	Avoid Alcohol and Other Drugs	123
Lesson 2	Avoid Places Where Heavy Drinking or Drug Use Takes Place	125
Lesson 3	Avoid the Use of Anabolic Steroids (Growth Drugs)	126
Lesson 4	Avoid Other People Who Have Problems with Anger and Rage	127
Lesson 5	Avoid Watching Violence in the Media	128
Lesson 6	Avoid Venting	129
Lesson 7	Avoid Guns	130
Chapter 11	Special Methods and Skills for Managing Anger	132
	Anger Cues	132
Lesson 1	Deal with Stubborn Memory Cues	133
Lesson 2	Learn to Change Your Posture, Breathing, and Voice	136
Lesson 3	Recite a Brief Poem or Prayer	138
Lesson 4	Read a Joke Book or Scan a Book of Cartoons	138
Lesson 5	Aggression vs. Assertiveness	140
Lesson 6	Take a Respite	143
Lesson 7	Go to a Pathways to Peace Meeting	145
Lesson 8	Establish and Use an Empowerment Cue or an Aversion Cue	145
Part IV	Change Your Mind	151
Chapter 12	Values	152
	Introduction	152
Lesson 1	Values and Recovery from Your Anger Habit	153
Chapter 13	Beliefs	158
Lesson 1	Anger and Beliefs	158
Lesson 2	How to Change Beliefs About Anger That Keep You Stuck	162
Lesson 3	Acquire Positive Beliefs About Yourself, Others, and the World	165
Chapter 14	Life Mission and Spirituality	170
	What Is Your Life Mission?	170
Lesson 1	How to Discover Your Life Mission	172
Lesson 2	Mission Support	174
Lesson 3	Spirituality	176
Chapter 15	Goals	180
Lesson 1	What Is a Goal?	180
Lesson 2	Recovery Goals and the Eight Parts of the Whole Self	184
Lesson 3	Set a Goal to Stop the Use of Rage and Violence	188
Chapter 16	Forgiveness	190
Lesson 1	The Importance of Forgiveness	190
Lesson 2	Forgive Others	192
Lesson 3	Forgive Yourself	194
	Conclusion	196
	Self-Contract	197
	Conclusion	198
Appendix 1	The Pathways to Peace Self-Help Program	199
	Overview: What Is Pathways to Peace?	199
	The Purpose of Pathways to Peace	199
	What Types of People Join Pathways to Peace?	199
	The Pathways to Peace Principles	200
	The Pathways to Peace Rules	203
	The Pathways to Peace Mentor Program	203
Appendix 2	How You Can Start a Pathways to Peace Group in Your Area	204
	First Steps in Starting a Group	204
	Pathways to Peace Materials	205
	Pathways to Peace Group Structure Guidelines	205
	Pathways to Peace Meeting Facilitator's Guide	207
	The Pathways to Peace Principles	210
	The Pathways to Peace Rules	211
	The Pathways to Peace Definition of Violence	212
	Pathways to Peace Books, Videos, and Master Programs	213