The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships

by Jessica Fern

Overview

The Polysecure Workbook encourages examination of any attachment challenges you may have experienced in your opening up process and offers insights into how to build secure relationships. Through practical exercises, you will explore your own attachment history, examine your reasons for practicing nonmonogamy and the different styles of nonmonogamy that you relate to, and consider whether you rely on relationship structure for your attachment security. The Polysecure Workbook provides the tools needed to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and to build personal security.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781990869044
Publisher:	Microcosm Publishing LLC
Publication date:	11/25/2022
Pages:	184
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love.

Table of Contents

In Part One you will focus on your own attachment history with your childhood attachment figures, your resulting attachment styles as an adult, your different attachment experiences on the multiple dimensions of Nested Model of Attachment and Trauma, and how to bring more acceptance and release of your past. In Part Two you will explore your why for practicing nonmonogamy, the different styles of nonmonogamy that you relate to, your experiences of relying on relationship structure for your attachment security and the specific ways that you may have experienced attachment challenges, changes and ruptures throughout your opening up process. Part Three attends to the safe haven and secure base foundations of being polysecure, how to apply HEARTS in your relationship with partners and yourself and then ends with walking you through some contemplations and ideas for assessing your level of polysaturation and how to create your own vessel when there are attachment struggles at play.

What People are Saying About This

author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren’t Having and In It Togethe - JoEllen Notte

“In Polysecure Jessica Fern gave people a whole new language for healthily navigating nonmonogamy. Now, with The Polysecure Workbook, she is giving those readers practical tools to actively build their healthiest nonmonogamous relationships."

Editorial Reviews

An essential read for consensual nonmonogamists looking to better understand themselves and cultivate healthy relationships that meet their unique needs. Fern writes in an accessible style and offers readers a series of helpful, in-depth exercises in self-discovery. The end result is an indispensable guide to creating the foundation for secure relationships.

Ph.D., Kinsey Institute Research Fellow and author of Tell Me What You Want - Justin J. Lehmiller

The Polysecure Workbook is a one-of-a-kind tool for anyone looking to create more secure attachment within nonmonogamous (or monogamous) relationships. This ground-breaking book has helped to remove the stigma of polyamory as a pathology, making it more possible for people to explore non-monogamy in a conscious way that strengthens their attachment style. The exercises are thoughtfully created to encourage deep reflection on your values, patterns and relationship structures to work towards healing your relationship with yourself and your partners. I loved going through it and questioning my beliefs and preconceptions around polyamory, it certainly expanded my view of nonconventional structures and how I can reflect on building security within my relationships.

Your Pocket Therapist - Annie Zimmerman

Jessica Fern has outdone herself! With The Polysecure Workbook, she has given us dozens of great techniques and exercises that may seem deceptively simple and user-friendly but are very powerful and effective. This workbook will be extremely helpful to people who are in consensually nonmonogamous relationships, but will be equally useful to clinicians working with poly folks.”

counselor, nurse, and author of The Polyamory Breakup Book - Kathy Labriola

In Polysecure Jessica Fern gave people a whole new language for healthily navigating nonmonogamy. Now, with The Polysecure Workbook, she is giving those readers practical tools to actively build their healthiest nonmonogamous relationships."

author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren’t Having and In - JoEllen Notte

"An essential read for consensual nonmonogamists looking to better understand themselves and cultivate healthy relationships that meet their unique needs. Fern writes in an accessible style and offers readers a series of helpful, in-depth exercises in self-discovery. The end result is an indispensable guide to creating the foundation for secure relationships.” —Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., Kinsey Institute Research Fellow and author of Tell Me What You Want

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