The Secret Lives of Men

The Secret Lives of Men

by Georgia Blain


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ISBN-13: 9781922070357
Publisher: Scribe Publications Party Limited
Publication date: 11/01/2013
Pages: 246
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Georgia Blain published novels for adults and young adults, essays, short stories, and a memoir. Her first novel was the bestselling Closed for Winter, which was made into a feature film. Her books have been shortlisted for numerous awards including the NSW, Victorian, and SA Premiers' Literary Awards, the ALS Gold Medal, the Stella Prize, and the Nita B. Kibble Award for her memoir Births Deaths Marriages. Georgia's works include The Secret Lives of Men, Too Close to Home, and the YA novel Darkwater. In 2016, Georgia published Between a Wolf and a Dog and the YA novel Special (Penguin Random House Australia). Between a Wolf and a Dog was shortlisted for the 2017 Stella Prize, and was awarded the 2017 Victorian Premier’s Literary Award for Fiction and the 2016 Queensland Literary Award for Fiction. Georgia passed away in December 2016.

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The Secret Lives of Men

By Georgia Blain

Scribe Publications Pty Ltd

Copyright © 2013 Georgia Blain
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-922072-26-9


The Secret Lives of Men

We always knew the locals hated us. They stayed in the corner of the pub, all wearing tight black jeans, ripple-soled boots and flannel shirts despite the heat. We stole the occasional glance at them, too scared to let our gaze linger, but they never turned our way; their refusal to give us any form of recognition both powerful and disturbing.

We were private-school boys and girls on holiday, drunk on sickly sweet mixers, trying to pretend we were older than we were as we lit St Moritz cigarettes and called out to each other, our voices shrill as we ordered another G and T or Pimm's with lemonade, drinking until we could drink no more, one of us stumbling towards the toilets, nauseated and pale, a sheen of sweat across the skin.

At night it was cold, desert cold beneath a close black sky, stars like frost shimmering above. You could smell the sea at the end of the street, salty, and the pine resin, antiseptic sharp in the swirl of mist that hovered above the town.

When the pub closed, we went down to the beach, running along the cracked pavements, some of us still clutching glasses in our hand, the glow of our cigarettes cutting through the dark. It was the end of school and we wanted only to drink and smoke and, if we were lucky, to have sex with a boy from one of the better schools, one whose father worked in banking or stockbroking and would set him up in a well-paid job after he finished his economics degree.

Alastair Hanson was slightly older, his hair white against his tan, his eyes like cut ice beneath black lashes as he leant forward to light your cigarette. He wore the uniform of all the others, the moleskin jeans, the striped cotton shirt, but he wore it with insouciance (a word we didn't know then) — panache, some of us said when we were drunk; style, when we were sober — and we all wished we could be with him.

My best friend, Lara, told me his shirts came from Paris, ordered by his French mother from her favourite shop. He had an earring, too, unheard of then. And he drove a powder-blue MG, with his girlfriend, Tiffany Smythe, always next to him, her mouth sulky, her elbow on the door, her gaze distant and bored, as they parked high above Horseshoe Bay to check the surf.

She would have been home that night. She was so sure in her ability to hold on to Alastair that there was no need for her to come to the pub. She could stay in the family beach house, sprawled on the couch with her group of friends, drinking something more sophisticated, Canadian Club whiskey or champagne, while below the sea pounded against the pink limestone, wearing it away and away and away.

Alastair usually stayed with her. But he had come to town to buy her cigarettes, and I was drunk enough to amuse him with my impersonation of the local fish-and-chip shop owner, my accent broad, each sentence rising at the end as I mimed slapping a piece of flake onto newspaper, ash from my cigarette spilling on top, and then — to my shame — limping painfully over to the cash register to ring up the sale.

I was louder than I should have been, spurred on by my success in not only keeping his attention but also getting him to buy me a drink. And when the girl behind the bar didn't come immediately, I called out to her in my fish-and-chip voice.

She just glared at us, her eyes narrowed, her lips tight.

'You can leave,' she said to me.

I turned, thinking the culprit was behind me.

'No. You.'

'Aw, come on,' everyone complained, enjoying the game now, and drumming their fists on the sticky bar counter, the racket rising while she remained impervious.

'You've got till I count to five.'

There was something in the timbre of her voice, a sharp edge that was enough to still the crowd, but only for an instant. Johnny Liddell was on the stool, kneeling precariously, hands clasped in front of him and begging for mercy, while behind him the others hooted and whistled.

'How could a beauty like you be so cruel,' he told her, and stood, wobbling as he unbuttoned his fly, promising her a bit of heaven like she'd never known before.

The stool crashed to the ground as the tallest of the local boys rose. I don't even remember what he looked like, or what he said, but I know we were scared and excited and too drunk to assess whether we were in any real danger. Someone shouted fight fight and we spilt onto the street, the night air like a brisk slap, seagulls wheeling overhead, ghostly white in the darkness.

It was Johnny they wanted. As he ran up the main street, brawls began to break out: the sickening thud of a punch, the shatter of a glass, a scream. Alastair grabbed me by the arm, and I followed him to his car, with no time to even realise that I was getting into that powder-blue MG, alone next to him, and we sped up the road, past the group of locals who were fast gaining on Johnny, the roar of the engine thrilling.

'Get in,' Alastair yelled, pulling over to let Johnny leap into the back seat behind us.

'Fuck me,' Johnny shouted, and then, to the group of locals who had almost caught him, 'Fuck you.'

And lurching forward, we took off towards the beach, all of us screaming, voices raised to the sky and the ocean and the wind and one another.

I remember nothing else.

I heard about Alastair's death purely by chance. It was Lara's younger sister, Jane, who told me, awkward as she asked whether I'd come back for the funeral, her two boys pulling at her skirt, one whining that he wanted to go home, the other rifling the chocolate bars placed low beneath the counter.

I hadn't. But then I had lost touch with everyone when I left to live in London.

'It was completely sudden. An aneurysm.'

He had two daughters, apparently, and a Swedish wife who had helped him set up his antiques import business.

'I can understand you didn't stay in contact,' she said, uncomfortable now. 'It would have been hard.'

I didn't say anything.

'To be reminded.'

I could see she regretted those last words, and she stumbled awkwardly into telling me once again how well I looked, and how much she loved my dress; I was so lucky to have access to all that London fashion.

I asked her if she knew when the funeral was, and she seemed even more embarrassed. 'It's been.' One of her boys began to scream, a piercing sound. 'Just yesterday.'

'I wish I'd known.'

She touched my arm gently, trying to ignore the sounds of her son, but as the screaming increased in intensity, she said she'd better get him home for his nap. 'He's impossible without it.' She scooped him up, using one free arm to pull at the other boy as she told him it was time to leave. 'I'm so sorry you had to hear like this.'

I could see she wished she knew what to say, despite realising there was no simple phrase capable of smoothing all that had passed.

It had been ten years since I had left this city (I always feel I am lying when I call it that — it is closer to a town), and I had only returned three times, dreading the summer days, dry and gaspingly hot; a place where you could hang a T-shirt on the line and within five minutes it would be stiff like cardboard, the air a fan-forced oven, indiscriminatingly pitiless.

My mother still lived in our house, low in the foothills, the grass always burnt to a crisp and the flowering eucalypts a lurid display of fuchsia, orange, crimson and lemon. There'd been no rain for months, and the native animals would come in from the surrounding bush to drink from the dog's bowl, only to expire, parched, frightened and panting in what little cool they could find. My mother showed me the graves she'd dug, smooth mounds of dry earth under the scrappy shade of the ironbarks.

It was disgusting, she said. The world burning to death, and corporations worried only about increasing their profits.

In the last decade she had changed. Once a housewife who had helped out at school fundraisers and taken care of all my father's needs with a certain sharp-tongued bitterness, she'd cut ties with all the parents of our school friends and joined a volunteer group to help refugees in detention centres. She ran free English classes from the lounge room, teaching people who'd been released into the community. With the curtains drawn against the daylight, and the slow repetition of words soothing in the heat, this was when she seemed most at ease, calm and content.

'I trained as a teacher,' she once told me. 'And then I wasted years cooking meals for all of you, cleaning, keeping your father happy, worrying whether you were all happy.' She sighed. 'And now I have so little time.'

She disapproved of my older brother, a stockbroker who had made his fortune and lived in an expat compound in the lush hills behind Hong Kong.

As for me, I knew she still worried about my life, although she did her best to keep this to herself. Over the last five years, as I had found a house to live in, friends, and enough work as a graphic designer to keep me busy, her anxiety had lessened a little. I no longer caught her watching me, brows furrowed, tension across her forehead, the lines dissolving as I met her gaze and asked her to give it a rest. 'I'm fine,' I would always say.

When I returned from the delicatessen, green cloth bags filled with organic vegetables and spelt bread, she was on the telephone, organising a visit to the detention centre with her good friend, a nun.

I made us both lunch, and we ate in silence in the cool of the kitchen, the radio on, a quiet hum behind us.

'This house is too big for me,' she said.

My mother often made pronouncements like this, comments that required no answer. Her glasses were off, and her eyes were a pale wash of blue. Her skin was like tissue, and her hands were now too knotted with arthritis to wear her wedding ring.

We had spent a lot of time together right after the accident. Both my legs were broken, and I had been confined, unable to start university as I had planned, too out of place in the world to feel the disappointment I would otherwise have felt at watching all my friends move into this next phase of life.

'Did you hear he died?' I asked her.

The music on the radio heralded the ABC news bulletin, a tune so familiar and yet one I could never hum if I were asked to.

'Alastair, that is.'

She put her sandwich down. 'I thought you meant the other one,' she said. 'The one in the home.'

I shook my head. 'I would have gone to his funeral if I'd known. I would've liked to have said goodbye.'

Her response was immediate. 'You lost touch for good reason.' She kept her eyes fixed on me. 'Was it an overdose?'

I told her it wasn't. 'He became respectable.' And I smiled. 'A wife, daughters, an antique business.'

I hadn't imagined he would stay in this town, let alone find a place for himself here.

My mother reached for my hand. Her touch was cool and dry, her hold steady, but her voice was — for her — surprisingly frail. 'I didn't hate him, you know. I just didn't like what you were doing to each other. It was a downward spiral of self-disgust and you can't watch your child do that. You can't.' She stroked my hair back from my face. 'You'd been through enough. You had to forgive yourselves, and you weren't going to do that together.'

I was alone in the garden when I first saw Alastair after the accident. I opened my eyes to find him standing above me, his body blocking the warmth of the winter sun.

'Jesus.' Startled, I sat upright, my book falling to the ground, pages bent back, cover facing up.

My mother had wheeled me out with a novel, and a blanket over my knees, but I had just stared across the lawn and down to the street, until finally I'd dozed off, the painkillers I was taking for the backaches too strong to resist.

He apologised for shocking me. Unable to meet my gaze, he said he hadn't wanted to disturb me, he'd just wanted to see me. 'I came to the hospital. But you were asleep.' He picked up the book and placed it carefully on my lap.

'Well, here I am.' I pointed at my legs, both in casts. And then, because I hadn't meant to be so harsh, I told him that they would be coming off soon, that I would be out of the wheelchair and walking. 'It's not like I'm going to be a cripple or anything. They're just broken.'

Reaching down, his hair falling across his eyes, he touched the hard white surface of the plaster. The sensation was strange, seeing his fingers run down my leg but not feeling a thing, and I hadn't meant to start crying. I can only assume it was the drugs I was on, but I did cry, the tears hot and shameful, and I wiped them away as he knelt beside me, hands shaking, and lit a cigarette.

'Here.' He put it in my mouth, and I drew back deeply, exhaling as I told him my arms still worked, I could hold it myself. He took one more drag and passed the cigarette to me.

'Do they know you're here?' I asked him.

They didn't.

Eyes like pewter in the winter light, hair like flax. I was dosed up on codeine and god knows what else, and I ran my fingers through the fall of his fringe as he sat there, also smoking, his hands still shaking. Then, grinding the cigarette into the dirt, he stood up.

'Come with me,' he said.

I didn't know what he meant.

'Let's just go somewhere.'

'I can't,' I said. 'I can't go anywhere.' I wasn't sure what kind of game he was playing with me, or if I was even dreaming his presence, and as he knelt down close, I pushed at him, not strong enough to have any effect, all of me heavy and slow and confused. I realised we were both crying now and we started kissing, his hands on my breasts, his hair silky against my skin as he said he just wanted to wheel me down the street, that was all, away from here, before my parents came out.

'Okay,' I whispered. 'Okay.'

He took me out of our gate and along the footpath towards the gully reserve, a place I had played in as a child, years ago when I hung out with the other kids in our neighbourhood, building bridges over what used to be a creek, and climbing trees, silvery branches trembling beneath our weight.

We stopped behind the boulders, hidden from the road, and I wanted to go back, it had all been too much after weeks of being confined at home, but as I opened my mouth to speak he began to talk.

'I saw him,' he said, and it took me a moment before I realised he was referring to Johnny. He was rolling a joint, staring at the paper between his fingers, turning it tighter and tighter. 'My dad took me there. He left me sitting with him for an hour.' He glanced up at the tracing of branches and leaves, a knot of limbs against the sky, and then down to the ground, the twigs and gumnuts and bark at our feet.

'He just lies in his bed, head to one side, and it's not him.'

I could feel an ant crawling across my wrist and I flicked it away.

'Can you take me home?' I asked, or at least I thought I did, but it seemed no sound would come out, so instead I touched his face, bringing him towards me, his mouth on mine again.

'Oh god,' I said, because the weight of him hurt. He traced the tips of his fingers down my shirt, unbuttoning it now, and I wondered what the fuck we were doing, out here, me in the wheelchair, him slowly undressing me, kissing my breast, his mouth on my nipples, his hands down my skirt now, and I didn't know what I felt or wanted or needed, I just didn't want Alastair to speak of Johnny. I took his belt in my hands, undoing it, while overhead a crow watched us, eyes glittering, and ants crawled through the dirt and a lizard flicked across the rocks behind us and we tried so hard to lose ourselves.

When he took me home, my mother was in the garden, furious with me for not telling her, angry with him for being so irresponsible, again; and she knew she was sticking the knife in, she knew she was hurting him.

He ignored her. Bending down to kiss me, he whispered that he would be back. 'Soon,' he promised.

And he was. No matter how much my parents protested. He came each day, wheeling me down to the gully where we fucked and drank, the fallen leaves and twigs tangled in the sleeves of my coat and in my hair, the smell of the dope thick in my clothes and the scent of him buried deep in my skin.

'Why don't you like him?' I once shouted at my mother. 'He was just trying to get us away from the fight. He was trying to do the right thing.'

As soon as I was out of the wheelchair, I stopped coming home, staying with him in the flat his parents had bought, living off his money, both of us out all night, in the few clubs and bars open late, or at parties held by people we didn't know, where we were the wild entertainment, the ones who had gone off the rails, scary and too much for this place.

'You're a mess,' Lara once told me angrily in a pub, and I could only sneer at her, a strange cocktail of shame and superiority coursing in my veins.

But sometimes, when we would sleep in, sweaty and restless in each other's arms, I would hate what we had become. I would wake in the early afternoon and see us both in that sharp light, Alastair still beautiful, eyes closed, skin pale gold, and I would wish that I was someone else.

I would like to say I was the one who decided it was time to leave. But that wasn't how it went. He left me. Dragging himself with an extraordinary will away from the inertia and mess of our life together, weeping each time I begged him to come back, he eventually checked himself into a private rehab clinic in Melbourne.

And there I was. Alone.

Standing outside Alastair's empty flat, I saw myself reflected in the glass door to the building. Lank hair, eyes wide and scared, body too thin, acne across my chin, unsteady on platform shoes with scuffed plastic straps.


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Table of Contents


the secret lives of men,
enlarged + heart + child,
intelligence quotient,
just a wedding,
the bad dog park,
big dreams,
the other side of the river,
north from south,
her boredom trick,

Reading Group Guide


  1. How successfully do you think the title applies to the collection as a whole? Are there certain themes that the author returns to?
  2. Which story most stood out for you, and why?
  3. In many of these stories the central characters find it difficult to articulate their grief. Do you think this is as much an issue for the women in these tales as for the men? Compare ‘Enlarged + Heart + Child’ and ‘The
    Bad Dog Park’ as an example.
  4. Discuss the nature of regret as it appears in these stories. Can you think of an example where a character is holding on to their past, and one where a character is coming to terms with their actions?
  5. In ‘Intelligence Quotient’, the central character,
    Lena, is surprised when Juliette says that they are similar. What aspects of Lena’s character do you think Juliette is referring to? Do you agree that the women are similar?
  6. Many of the women in this collection could be described as ‘outsiders’ — in what ways do you think women come to be outsiders? Do you think most people feel they are, in some sense, outsiders?
  7. What do you think is the significance of the statue at the end of ‘Just a Wedding’?
  8. What do you think are Ellen’s motivations for leaving her husband in ‘The Other Side of the River’? How do you think she feels about her decision many years later?
  9. In ‘North from South’, how do you think Jai’s death affects how Kat feels about their friendship? Do you think the money he leaves her will enable her to change direction?
  10. What moral ambiguities are raised in ‘Mirrored’,
    in terms of parenting, men and women, and cultural differences?
  11. What is the mother-daughter dynamic between Clara and Sinead in ‘Her Boredom Trick’? Do you think this dynamic will change? In general, do you believe people can change?
  12. How are the men in these stories (even those who appear only on the sidelines) influencing the decisions of the women in their lives? What pull — if any — do they exert on their choices?
  13. Which character/s, if any, do you personally relate to? Which characters seem particularly difficult to understand? Why?

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