The Sistahs' Rules: Secrets For Meeting, Getting, And Keeping A Good Black Man Not To Be Confused With The Rules

by Denene Millner

Overview

The Rules? Puhleeze! Any real black woman can tell you that when it comes to African-American men, The Rules is about as good as Monopoly money in Macy's. Waiting three days to return a brother's phone call will get a black woman nothing more than a warm spot on the couch by herself with an empty bag of corn chips and the remote.A sister needs her own special set of rules for finding a brother even when it seems that there just aren't that many good ones to go around. Millner says they are out there but sistahs need to drop their materialistic, brother-in-the white-Benz fantasies and pick up the right vibes for finding a genuine brother who's worth keeping around. The Sistahs' Rules gives black women commonsense guidelines for landing in a healthy relationship with a makes-your-toes-curl brother, including:

Get to know his mama, get to know him
Use what you got to get what you want
Girlfriends are everything, but they don't know it all

With warm stories and practical advice from black mamas and papas who've been there and done that, and sistahs and brothers in the mix, The Sistahs' Rules is a sassy, hip, step-by-step guide to finding Brother Mr. Rightand having fun in the process.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780688156893
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	09/18/1997
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.00(w) x 7.00(h) x 0.55(d)

About the Author

Denene Millner is a New York Times bestselling author, award-winning journalist, and director of the Denene Millner Books imprint. She has written many books for adults, teens, and children and is the author of Early Sunday Morning and My Brown Baby: On the Joys and Challenges of Raising African American Children. She is also the founder of mybrownbaby.com, a critically acclaimed blog that examines the intersection of parenting and race. Denene lives in Atlanta with her two daughters and their adorable Goldendoodle, Teddy.

Read an Excerpt

Rule #1
Celebrate the Power of the Booty

Be proud to be you.

Don't ever let your quest to attract a black man drive you to try to squeeze your thick nose,your kinky hair, and that round bottom intowhite folks' beauty standards — because they'll never, ever fit, no matter how hard you push and shove.

It's pretty obvious, after all, that God didn'tmake that Cindy Crawford mold with a sistah inmind.

But we spend an awful lot of time trying toget into it, don't we? We'll give our last dollar foradvice on how to flatten our butts, how to getrid of those "thunder thighs," how to slather on the best relaxers to get our hair the straightest it can possibly get — and then beat the hell out of ourselves when Cindy failsto magically appear in our mirrors.

Get over it, girls. We are no more able to transform ourselves into bone-thin, blond-haired, blue-eyed beauties than she's able to transform herself into a dreadlocked chocolatehoney with dark brown eyes and an hourglass figure that'd make the Commodores leave Ms. "Brick House."

Besides, most black men would rather fatten up that bony-butt Cindy with a big plate of greens and cornbread than date her, because for them, to be too thin is a sin.

The simple fact is that a good black man will like you just the way you are — big butt, thick thighs, blackness, and all. The sooner you accept and appreciate your unique beauty, the sooner it will be obvious that you are proud of being you. The sooner you carry yourself as if you are the fiercest creature to walk this earth since Foxy Brown, the sooner will come a black man who thinks the same about you.