Table of Contents
Preface to the 20th Anniversary Edition xi
Preface to the 2004 Edition xiii
Introduction 1
Part 1 A Man's Way
1 Stop Hoping for a Completion of Anything in Life 14
2 Live With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts 17
3 Live As If Your Father Were Dead 19
4 Know Your Real Edge and Don't Fake It 20
5 Always Hold to Your Deepest Realization 23
6 Never Change Your Mind Just to Please a Woman 25
7 Your Purpose Must Come Before Your Relationship 27
8 Lean Just Beyond Your Edge 29
9 Do It for Love 31
10 Enjoy Your Friends' Criticism 35
11 If You Don't Know Your Purpose, Discover It, Now 37
12 Be Willing to Change Everything in Your Life 39
13 Don't Use Your Family as an Excuse 44
14 Don't Get Lost in Tasks and Duties 48
15 Stop Hoping for Your Woman to Get Easier 51
Part 2 Dealing with Women
16 Women Are Not Liars 58
17 Praise Her 61
18 Tolerating Her Leads to Resenting Her 63
19 Don't Analyze Your Woman 66
20 Don't Suggest That a Woman Fix Her Own Emotional Problem 69
21 Stay With Her Intensity-To a Point 74
22 Don't Force the Feminine to Make Decisions 77
Part 3 Working with Polarity and Energy
23 Your Attraction to the Feminine Is Inevitable 82
24 Choose a Woman Who Is Your Complementary Opposite 86
25 Know What Is Important in Your Woman 92
26 You Will Often Want More Than One Woman 96
27 Young Women Offer You a Special Energy 98
28 Each Woman Has a "Temperature" That Can Heal or Irritate You 100
Part 4 What Women Really Want
29 Choose a Woman Who Chooses You 106
30 What She Wants Is Not What She Says 108
31 Her Complaint Is Content-Free 112
32 She Doesn't Really Want to Be Number One 116
33 Your Excellent Track Record Is Meaningless to Her 119
34 She Wants to Relax in the Demonstration of Your Direction 121
Part 5 Your Dark Side
35 You Are Always Searching for Freedom 126
36 Own Your Darkest Desires 130
37 She Wants the "Killer" in You 134
38 She Needs Your Consciousness to Match Her Energy 137
Part 6 Feminine Attractiveness
39 The Feminine Is Abundant 142
40 Allow Older Women Their Magic 144
41 Turn Your Lust Into Gifts 147
42 Never Allow Your Desire to Become Suppressed or Depolarized 150
43 Use Her Attractiveness as a Slingshot Through Appearance 155
Part 7 Body Practices
44 Ejaculation Should Be Converted or Consciously Chosen 160
45 Breathe Down the Front 166
46 Ejaculate Up the Spine 170
Part 8 Men's and Women's Yoga of Intimacy
47 Take into Account the Primary Asymmetry 178
48 You Are Responsible for the Growth in Intimacy 183
49 Insist on Practice and Growth 187
50 Restore Your Purpose in Solitude and with Other Men 190
51 Practice Dissolving 195
Titles David Deida 197
About the Author 201