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There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate / Edition 2

There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate / Edition 2

by Cheri Huber, June Shiver


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This book reveals the origin of self-hate, how self-hate works, how to identify it, and how to go beyond it. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control. After addressing these factors, it illustrates how a meditation practice can be developed and practiced in efforts to free oneself from self-hating beliefs.

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ISBN-13: 9780971030909
Publisher: Keep It Simple Books
Publication date: 10/28/2001
Edition description: Revised edition
Pages: 264
Sales rank: 107,622
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.68(d)

About the Author

Cheri Huber is the author of 19 books, including When You're Falling, Dive and Time-Out for Parents. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center in Mountain View, California, and the Zen Monastery Practice Center in Murphys, California, and teaches in both communities. She travels widely and often, leading workshops and retreats around the United States and abroad, most recently in Costa Rica and Italy. She founded Living Compassion in 2003, a nonprofit group comprised of There Is Nothing Wrong with You Retreats (based on the book); Global Community for Peace: The Assisi Peace Project; The Africa Vulnerable Children Project; and Open Air Talk Radio, her weekly call-in radio show originating from Stanford University. She lives in Murphys, California.

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There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 8 reviews.
raindiva1 on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
changed my life. a great book for certain people who need to know that it's ok to be you - just the way you are. i know it's cheesy, but it works.
mpho3 on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
A Zen infomercial for the powers of meditation. Well, no it's a little more than that. The subtitle may be off-putting to people who don't take as broad a view of the term "self-hate" as the author, a Zen Monk, does. However, in true Zen fashion, Huber is talking about ... "suffering." On p. 209 she specifically states, "Suffering provides our identity. Identity is maintained in struggle, in dissatisfaction, in trying to fix what's wrong. Suffering, egocentricity, fear, self-hate, [the] illusion of separateness [are the] same thing." [italics mine] Substituting any of those terms in the title may well ring one person's bell and not another's. She says, "we are constantly looking for what is wrong, constantly creating new crises so we can rise to the occasion. To ego, that's survival. It is very important that something be wrong so we can continue to survive it." (p. 209) I think a lot of folks, if they're honest with themselves, can recognize that cycle within themselves. I certainly could, and I have dabbled in meditative practices just enough to know firsthand that what she advocates is true and correct. Therein lies the rub. On the one hand, she didn't say anything I didn't already know. On the other, that's often the nature of self-help: it's not stuff that you don't know, but maybe stuff you need to be reminded of, or stuff that can have a powerful impact on you merely by being presented in a different context that gives you a fresh perspective, or maybe hearing it all for the umpteenth time is just what you needed. It was loaned to me at a good time in my life for me hear it all yet again. It uses very simple language (and unfortunately a rather unappealing "handwritten" sort of typeface accompanied by childish little drawings) to get it's points across. I earmarked about 15 pages out it's short 234 page count. "There is nothing wrong with you" is a powerful message in and of itself. Like the title, the book as a whole is simple, but it's deep, and it did what it was supposed to do: it helped.
aannttiiiittnnaa on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Great book filled with humorous observations alongside hard-hitting truths. Designed to shake up the inner judge/critic that we all suffer from, with a healthy dose of self-compassion. Illustrated throughout with cartoons to help get the point across both quickly and with a smile. The text in this book is printed in a handwritten style that lends it that extra friendly feel.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I keep this book close because the message it offers is one that I will be learning over and over again. Huber presents her lessons in beautifully clear and delightful language. I suggest this book to friends and have already sent copies to my sisters.
bono07 More than 1 year ago
This book absolutely got me, it's probably the most compassionate book I've ever read, it definitively helped me to get through a rough period of my life and I still use it somehow. I am grateful that is out there and I recomend it for anyone who is harsh with themselves and wants a way to learn to love themselves. NOTE: hy if all the ratings give it 5 stars it averages only 2 in the total? MAybe something needs checking in B&N system. It merits the be rated as it actually is. THank yous
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An amazing insightful easy to read book for people who question themselves and their actions. This book has helped me question my beliefs and put my thoughts together. Her writing style is so easy to read but what she talks about will leave you thinking and struggling with how you relate to life. I also was relieved to know that I was not alone in my thinking and that I could start to challenge myself in new ways. I have suggested this book and some of her others to so many people, regardless of where you are at in life I think this book is a great tool -it's not about getting to the destination but about being curious along the way. It has also helped me to understand others better. While I am challenging my beliefs I am finding myself to be more patient with others.