Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime


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Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781573447119
Publisher: Start Publishing, LLC
Publication date: 08/02/2011
Pages: 345
Sales rank: 531,588
Product dimensions: 6.10(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Violet Blue is a best-selling author of sex manuals and editor of erotica. She writes for and has been interviewed by O: The Oprah Magazine, The History Channel, and Penthouse, and in 2013 was named one of the Best Sex Educators in San Francisco by SF Weekly. She lives in San Francisco.

Table of Contents

Foreword Violet Blue xiii

Introduction xvii

Chapter 1 Sexual Play 1

A New Vocabulary for Sex

The Best Medicine

Embracing Our Complexity and Diversity

Chapter 2 What Works, What Doesn't, and Why 8

An Anatomy Review

An Oral Review

Sidebar: A Different Kind of Blow Job


How to Ask



Variety of Pleasures

One Is Not Always Enough

Emotional Erogenous Zones

Tuning In

Chapter 3 The Physical Experience of Orgasm 31

The Myth of the Definitive Orgasm

Beyond Vaginal and Clitoral

Combination Orgasms

Surface Versus Depth

Pulsing and Contractions

Pregnancy and Orgasm

A Vocabulary for Orgasm

Multiple Orgasms

Chapter 4 The Energetic Experience of Orgasm 50

The Nonphysical Components of Orgasm

Chemistry: A Psychic Connection

Emotional Orgasms

The Intellectual Component: Focusing the Mind


Simultaneous and Empathic Orgasms

Energy Movement within the Body



The Power of Fantasy


Extended Orgasm

Chapter 5 The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm 78

The Feminine

Intuition and Feelings

Separation, Oneness, and Passion



The Breath


Love, Sex, and Sanity

Chapter 6 The Elusive Orgasm 97

Variations in Desire

Hysterectomies, Medications, and Aging

Disappearing Orgasms

Recognizing an Orgasm

Anor-gasmic Women

Cultural Conditioning

Learning to Come

Great Expectations

The Need to Please

Faking Orgasm

Do Men Know When We're Faking It?

Chapter 7 Early Sexual Experiences 121

A Child's View of Sex

Crowing Up Without Information

Embracing Our Passion

Negative Messages

Why Some of Us Love Our Sexual Selves and Some of Us Don't

When Sex Is Sex and When It's Not

Sexual Abuse of Children


Chapter 8 Relationships 140


Take Your Time


Withholding Feelings

A Great Love Doesn't Always Guarantee Great Sex


The Power of No

The Power of Yes

Getting Turned On

Dealing with Difficult Feelings

Sidebar: How to Recognize a Feeling When It Hits You in the Face

Getting Down to Business

Take a Risk, But Don't Take It Seriously

Asserting Ourselves

Claiming Our Passion

It Hurts So Good

Fears Versus Passion

Chapter 9 Penetration and the G-Spot 169


The PC muscle

Penetration Is Not Essential

But Some of Us Really Love It!

Virginity: The Arduous Process of Losing It

Enjoying Penetration

The Astounding Vagina

Taking It Slowly

The G-Spot

Location, Location, Location


To Use a Dildo…or Not Use a Dildo

Ode to the Dildo

Other Orifices

Chapter 10 Ejaculation, Fisting, and Anal Sex 189

The G-Spot and Ejaculation

What Is It and Where Does It Come From?

Who? When? How Much?

The Relationship of Orgasm to Ejaculation

The Power of Ejaculation

Vaginal Fisting

The How-Tos of Vaginal Fisting

Vaginal Fisting and Orgasms

Anal Sex

Chapter 11 The Purpose of Orgasm 208

From Pain to Pleasure, and Beyond…

Responsible Sex, Responsible Living

Working with Energy


Appendix A Safer Sex 217

Appendix B Resources 222

Appendix C Questionnaire 237

About the Author 245

Index 246

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loritatarsmith More than 1 year ago
This is one for every living woman. Every adult female I care about will be receiving a copy of this for either their birthday or Christmas, and I mean everybody from friends to sisters to daughters. It should be required reading for any sexually active female, even if that sexual activity is not shared with others, and so much the better if it is! 'Love it!
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