When Gay People Get Married: What Happens When Societies Legalize Same-Sex Marriage

by M. V. Lee Badgett

Overview

Winner of the 2010 Distinguished Book Award from the American Psychological Association’s 44th Division (the Society for the Psychological Study of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Issues)

An in-depth, transnational primer on the current state of same-sex marriage post legalization

The summer of 2008 was the summer of love and commitment for gays and lesbians in the United States. Thousands of same-sex couples stood in line for wedding licenses all over California in the first few days after same-sex marriage was legalized. On the other side of the country, Massachusetts, the very first state to give gay couples marriage rights, took the last step to full equality by allowing same-sex couples from other states to marry there as well. These happy times for same-sex couples were the hallmark of true equality for some, yet others questioned whether the very bedrock of society was crumbling. What would this new step portend?

In order to find out the impact of same-sex marriage, M. V. Lee Badgett traveled to a land where it has been legal for same-sex couples to marry since 2001: the Netherlands. Badgett interviews gay couples to find out how this step has affected their lives. We learn about the often surprising changes to their relationships, the reactions of their families, and work colleagues. Moreover, Badgett is interested in the ways that the institution itself has been altered for the larger society. How has the concept of marriage changed? When Gay People Get Married gives readers a primer on the current state of the same-sex marriage debate, and a new way of framing the issue that provides valuable new insights into the political, social, and personal stakes involved.

The experiences of other countries and these pioneering American states serve as a crystal ball as we grapple with this polarizing issue in the American context. The evidence shows both that marriage changes gay people more than gay people change marriage, and that it is the most liberal countries and states making the first move to recognize gay couples. In the end, Badgett compellingly shows that allowing gay couples to marry does not destroy the institution of marriage and that many gay couples do benefit, in expected as well as surprising ways, from the legal, social, and political rights that the institution offers.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780814709306
Publisher:	New York University Press
Publication date:	11/01/2010
Edition description:	New Edition
Pages:	307
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

M. V. Lee Badgett is Professor of Economics and director of the Center for Public Policy & Administration at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and also serves as research director of the Williams Institute on Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at UCLA School of Law. She is the author of Money, Myths, and Change: The Economic Lives of Lesbians and Gay Men and co-editor of Sexual Orientation Discrimination: An International Perspective.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

1 Introduction: A Different Perspective 1

2 Why Marry? The Value of Marriage 15

3 Forsaking All Other Options 45

4 The Impact of Gay Marriage on Heterosexuals 64

5 Something Borrowed: Trying Marriage On 86

6 Something New: Will Marriage Change Gay People? 115

7 Marriage Dissent in the Gay Community 129

8 Strange Bedfellows: Assessing Alternatives to Marriage 151

9 The Pace of Change: Are We Moving Too Fast? 175

10 Conclusion: Marriage Under Renovation? 200

Appendix 1 Constructing Measures and Making Comparisons 215

Appendix 2 Methods Involved in the Dutch Couples Study 223

Notes 231

Index 265

About the Author 287

What People are Saying About This

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&%8220;When Gay People Get Married devotes considerable time to contemplating whether marriage discrimination against same-sex couples can be equitably rectified by alternative forms of family recognition—something that could satisfy or at least appeal to both conservative and radical opponents of marriage.”
-Women's Review of Books

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“Looking at quantitative and qualitative data, [Badgett] makes an argument friendly to same-sex marriage and marriage more generally, that the institution of marriage is less transformed by including same-sex couples than gay identity is changed by the availability of marriage...”
-CHOICE

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“In addition to providing the most solid empirical case to date on why supporters of the institution of marriage have nothing to fear from expanding it to include same-sex couples, When Gay People Get Married might also serve to remind both marriage advocates and their progressive allies that marriage equality for gays and lesbians is not, in the end, a matter of single-issue politics.”
-Adam Haslett,author of Union Atlantic and You Are Not a Stranger Here

“. . .An eminently readable volume that drwas on state population data, survesy, and Badget's own interviews.”
-Against The Current

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"When Gay People Get Married: What Happens When Societies Legalize Same-Sex Marriage provides a well-grounded contribution to the arguments needed to fight for full rights for LGBT people here in the United States and around the world."-International Socialist Review

Editorial Reviews

"Amid the intense controversy still surrounding same-sex marriage in the U.S., Badgett speaks in a refreshingly tempered voice. . . . Its a fine piece of social-science research, painstakingly detailed and compelling in its findings."

Ms. Magazine

"On the heels of marriage debates all over the country, professor M.V. Lee Badgett comes out with an in-depth take on the big marriage questions: why and how? Badgett looks at marriage from all sides of the equation: sociological trends, the specific rights at hand as well as the interesting prospects of how a community shaped by legal inequality will adjust to unimaginable legal equality."

Instinct

"In When Gay People Get Married: What Happens When Societies Legalize Gay Marriage, Badgett offers perspective on same-sex marriage through carefully considered evidence emerging from other Western societies that have recognized civil protections for same-sex couples. In doing so, Badgett offers a unique book different from other works that may present purely legal, political, or historical views of same-sex marriage. Badgett's book will help scholars in a variety of social scientific fields and members of the public to gain a more full and realistic understanding of same-sex marriage and its place in societies."

Sex Roles - Pamela J. Lannutti

"When Gay People Get Married: What Happens When Societies Legalize Same-Sex Marriage provides a well-grounded contribution to the arguments needed to fight for full rights for LGBT people here in the United States and around the world."

International Socialist Review

"Badgett’s gleanings are enlightening . . . for anyone who cares about the issues raised by legalizing civil marriage for same-sex couples."

California Lawyer

"When Gay People Get Married devotes considerable time to contemplating whether marriage discrimination against same-sex couples can be equitably rectified by alternative forms of family recognition—something that could satisfy or at least appeal to both conservative and radical opponents of marriage."

Women’s Review of Books

While the summer of 2008 may have been "the summer of love" for American same-sex couples, as thousands flocked to California for marriage licenses, the summer of 2009 may go down in history as a time of profound contention and confusion over Proposition 8, which revoked those couples' right to marry. Still, as Badgett, the research director of the Williams Institute for Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at UCLA, argues, the transformation of the policy landscape for gays and lesbians was nothing short of remarkable, considering the very real possibility of a constitutional amendment to ban it just a few years earlier. Despite her optimism about gay unions, however, Badgett sets out to examine their potential impact in the U.S., using European Union countries, specifically the Netherlands-where same-sex couples have had the right to marry since 2001-as her rainbow-hued road map. Badgett's cogent and comprehensive study of the societal implications of same-sex marriage is learned and persuasive; gays and lesbians who once again pick up their protest signs and banners might do well to bring along Badgett's book as well. (Aug.)

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Publishers Weekly

"This is the best analysis of same-sex marriage to date. A brilliant book."

Verta Taylor

"An eminently readable volume that draws on state population data, survesy, and Badgets own interviews."

Against The Current

"When Gay People Get Married devotes considerable time to contemplating whether marriage discrimination against same-sex couples can be equitably rectified by alternative forms of family recognition--something that could satisfy or at least appeal to both conservative and radical opponents of marriage."

Women’s Review of Books

On the heels of marriage debates all over the country, professor M.V. Lee Badgett comes out with an in-depth take on the big marriage questions: why and how? Badgett looks at marriage from all sides of the equation: sociological trends, the specific rights at hand as well as the interesting prospects of how a community shaped by legal inequality will adjust to unimaginable legal equality.”
• Instinct

“This is the best analysis of same-sex marriage to date. A brilliant book.”
-Verta Taylor,co-author of Drag Queens at the 801 Cabaret

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