Where You Go Is Not Who You'll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania

Where You Go Is Not Who You'll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania

by Frank Bruni

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Where You Go Is Not Who You'll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania by Frank Bruni

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Over the last few decades, Americans have turned college admissions into a terrifying and occasionally devastating process, preceded by test prep, tutors, all sorts of stratagems, all kinds of rankings, and a conviction among too many young people that their futures will be determined and their worth established by which schools say yes and which say no.

That belief is wrong. It's cruel. In WHERE YOU GO IS NOT WHO YOU'LL BE, Frank Bruni explains why, giving students and their parents a new perspective on this brutal, deeply flawed competition and a path out of the anxiety that it provokes.

Bruni, a bestselling author and a columnist for the New York Times, shows that the Ivy League has no monopoly on corner offices, governors' mansions, or the most prestigious academic and scientific grants. Through statistics, surveys, and the stories of hugely successful people who didn't attend the most exclusive schools, he demonstrates that many kinds of colleges-large public universities, tiny hideaways in the hinterlands-serve as ideal springboards. And he illuminates how to make the most of them. What matters in the end are a student's efforts in and out of the classroom, not the gleam of his or her diploma.

Where you go isn't who you'll be. Americans need to hear that-and this indispensable manifesto says it with eloquence and respect for the real promise of higher education.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781455532681
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
Publication date: 03/08/2016
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 31,014
Product dimensions: 5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.75(d)

About the Author

Frank Bruni has been an op-ed columnist for the New York Times since 2011. He previously worked as the newspaper's Rome bureau chief, Sunday magazine staff writer, one of its White House correspondents, and its chief restaurant critic. Bruni is the author of two previous bestsellers, the memoir Born Round and a chronicle of George W. Bush's 2000 presidential campaign, Ambling into History.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 The Unsung Alma Maters 15

Chapter 2 Throwing Darts 38

Chapter 3 Obsessives at the Gate 57

Chapter 4 Rankings and Wrongs 80

Chapter 5 Beyond the Comfort Zone 99

Chapter 6 From Tempe to Waterloo 114

Chapter 7 An Elite Edge? 135

Chapter 8 Strangled with Ivy 156

Chapter 9 Humbled, Hungry and Flourishing 175

Chapter 10 Fire Over Formula 195

Epilogue 207

What People are Saying About This

Gretchen Rubin

For students, parents, teachers, and everyone else suffering during the college admissions process, Frank Bruni offers an outstanding resource. Where You Go Is Not Who You'll Be is a thought-provoking look at how the system works
—and a fresh, reassuring reminder of what really matters in the college experience.

—Gretchen Rubin, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project

National Book Award-winning author of Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity - Andrew Solomon

"The supposition that intelligence can be measured, that success can be predicted, and that the combination of the two creates happiness is rightly exploded in this sharply observed and deeply felt book. In deconstructing the college admissions process, Frank Bruni exposes the folly by which enfranchised people measure their own lives. He speaks with a voice of urgent sanity."

#1 New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project - Gretchen Rubin

"For students, parents, teachers, and everyone else suffering during the college admissions process, Frank Bruni offers an outstanding resource. Where You Go Is Not Who You'll Be is a thought-provoking look at how the system works—and a fresh, reassuring reminder of what really matters in the college experience."

Katie Couric

Frank Bruni provides the perfect course correction for students and parents who get sucked into the college admissions frenzy. I should know. I was one of them.

—Katie Couric

Pamela Druckerman

mind-opening book. I'm pretty sure it's going to change my life. It's already changed the way I think.

—Pamela Druckerman, New York Times bestselling author of Bringing Up Bébé

Andrew Solomon

The supposition that intelligence can be measured, that success can be predicted, and that the combination of the two creates happiness is rightly exploded in this sharply observed and deeply felt book. In deconstructing the college admissions process, Frank Bruni exposes the folly by which enfranchised people measure their own lives. He speaks with a voice of urgent sanity.

—Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning author of Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity

Maria Shriver

Your worth is not determined by the university you went to. Or, in other words, Where You Go is Not Who You'll Be. Alleluia. That's the exact mantra every student and parent must heed as they navigate the stressful college admissions process. I'm doing it for the fourth time and this excellent writer's new book could not have come at a better time for me. As Frank Bruni brilliantly demonstrates, your worth is your worth and it's yours to make wherever you go.

—Maria Shriver

New York Times bestselling author of All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood - Jennifer Senior

"For any adolescent sweating college admissions—and perhaps more critically, for any parent sweating college admissions—this book is required reading. With systematic, soothing precision, Bruni amasses evidence that lives up to his title, showing readers that there are thousands of paths to success in this world, only one of which is ivy-strewn, and that the fetish we've made of marquee-name colleges is as practically misguided as it is psychologically destructive. The result is a beta-blocker and eye-opener all rolled into one, certain to allay the anxious and enlighten the curious—particularly when April rolls around."

Jennifer Senior

For any adolescent sweating college admissions
—and perhaps more critically, for any parent sweating college admissions
—this book is required reading. With systematic, soothing precision, Bruni amasses evidence that lives up to his title, showing readers that there are thousands of paths to success in this world, only one of which is ivy-strewn, and that the fetish we've made of marquee-name colleges is as practically misguided as it is psychologically destructive. The result is a beta-blocker and eye-opener all rolled into one, certain to allay the anxious and enlighten the curious
—particularly when April rolls around.

—Jennifer Senior, New York Times bestselling author of All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

New York Times bestselling author of Bringing Up Bebe - Pamela Druckerman

"A mind-opening book. I'm pretty sure it's going to change my life. It's already changed the way I think."

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NewsieQ More than 1 year ago
I enjoy reading Frank Bruni’s columns in the New York Times – they’re always well thought out, well written and thought provoking. In this slim volume, just over 200 pages, the author states the case for high-school students and their parents to chill out about their mad dash to get accepted into an Ivy League school. I was enlightened by how highly selective colleges drum up larger and larger numbers of applications – many, many times more than they can accept – simply to boost their ratings in U.S. News & World Reports college rankings. The colleges can leave tens of thousands of students devastated for a totally frivolous reason. It’s the stories I found most interesting – students who were rejected, only to find their dream school where they least expected it; students whose rejections freed them to be themselves, and to succeed beyond their wildest dreams. Because I don’t have children, I’ve never seen for myself the craziness that can surround the college admissions process. I feel sorry for kids whose parents push them into the rat race rather than helping them find the place they can feel at home and thrive.
Kimmiepoppins More than 1 year ago
If you're going to college, your child is going to college, you're in college or you've ever been to college--this is a fascinating read. This book is a wonderful mix of data and personal stories that connects you intimately with the content. My oldest son is seventeen and we are just dipping our toes into this process. Reading this book not only allayed my worst fears and insecurities about navigating the hunt for the right college, but it also reminded me that my top priority for my kids is that they be resilient, happy more than sad, healthy, hardworking, interesting to themselves and others, interactive with their world, socially responsible, kind, tolerant, and the kind of people who think about others as much as they think about themselves. I HIGHLY recommend this book and the line of thinking it espouses.
Caroline_L More than 1 year ago
Frank Bruni provides great insight to the craziness of college admissions.  He takes the focus off of the "brand name" and puts it on the "right fit."  As a high school junior, this book put all of the media madness into perspective and reminded me that I success does not come from a diploma with a certain name but from hard work and dedication.  This is a great book that I would recommend to every person!!