|Publisher:||Morgan James Publishing|
|Product dimensions:||4.90(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.80(d)|
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What do you want to be when you grow up?
It’s a question we are all asked as little girls, and we are encouraged to dream big. Fortunately, today, we can be ballerinas, astronauts, doctors,
lawyers, executives, and presidents. But no one ever asks you “how” you’re going to get there. No one ever tells you how to overcome the self-sabotaging behaviors that get in your way, kill your confidence, and destroy your dreams. Until now.
I may not be an official card-carrying, bra-burning type of feminist, but I believe with every fiber of my being that women are powerful beyond measure,
and I have dedicated my career to helping women realize and reach their full professional potential.
As a career coach for more than 20 years, I have worked with and listened to hundreds of women share their stories, their challenges, and their insecurities. I recognize that not only are there external obstacles to a woman’s successsuch as women only making $0.77 on the dollar, the proverbial
“glass ceiling”, and the inequities that exist in traditionally male-dominated industriesbut there are also internal, self-imposed barriers to overcome.
Women unknowingly and unintentionally hold themselves back by engaging in sinful, career-limiting, self-sabotaging behavior.
The truth is that, as women, we already have so much in our favor. We have the raw materials and a solid foundation composed of intuition, compassion,
intelligence, and drive. However, we can also be our own worst enemies.
I’ll be the first one to admit that sinful behavior can be fun and indulgent, but it can also sabotage your career if you’re not careful. As professional women, we commit Deadly Sins every day without even knowing itand, without realizing the damaging consequences.
Here’s some good news...despite the description Deadly Sins, none of these behaviors represent permanently debilitating or fatal conditions.
Unlike personality, which we know forms by the time we celebrate our fifth birthdays, behavior is learned. And, because it is learned, it can be unlearned.
Patterns of thinking can be modified. And, with practice and patience, new behaviors and beliefs can pave new paths to success.
Table of ContentsPreface: Big-Girl Panties
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
My StoryThe Empty Desk
Same S***, Different City
An Overnight Success…20 Years in the Making
4 Reasons Why Women Sabotage Their Careers
A Prison of Our Own Creation
1. Deadly Sin #1Kindness Conundrum
You Like Me, Right Now, You Like Me!; BFFs...Best Friends Forever; The Apology Anchor; Turning the Tables; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions; 10 Things for Which You May NEVER Apologize; Woman UP! Reflections
2. Deadly Sin #2Competency Curse
3 Dangers of Being Too Competent; The Disease to Please; 5 Reasons Why Women Say “Yes”; 5 Benefits of Saying “No”; Woman UP! Tips: 5 Ways to Say “No” With Confidence; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions
Woman UP! Tips: When to Say “No” Checklist; Woman UP! Tips: 10 Benefits of Having a Mentor; Woman UP! Reflections
3. Deadly Sin #3Perfection Prison
A Perfect Opportunity; Woman UP! Tips: You Know You Are a Perfectionist When…; Woman UP! Tips: A Perfectionist’s List of Perfect Excuses; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions; 3 Strategies for Embracing the Imperfect; Woman UP! Reflections
4. Deadly Sin #4Affirmation Addiction
Does Someone Need a Hug?; Woman UP! Tips: 12 Steps for Breaking the Affirmation Addiction; Whose Fault Is it Anyway?; Woman UP! Tips: Subtle Signs Your Co-worker May Be a Saboteur; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions; 6 Benefits of Being Your Own BFF; Woman UP! Tips: The Best Qualities of Your Best Friend; Woman UP! Reflections
5. Deadly Sin #5Divulgence Disease
Show Up and Throw Up; What Happens in Vegas; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions; 5 Simple Rules to Prevent TMI; Woman UP! Tips: Top 10 Taboo Topics to Share at Work; Woman UP! Reflections
6. Deadly Sin #6Miscommunication Mayhem
Physical Messages and Mishaps; Major Appearance Mistakes; Woman UP! Tips: Surprising Statistics About Your Executive Presence (EP); 7 Verbal Miscommunication Cues; Guilty Confession; Success Solutions
3 Ways to Give Your Voice Volume; Woman UP! Tips: Helpful Phrases to Squash a Saboteur; 3 Ways to Boost Your Body Language; Woman UP! Reflections
7. Deadly Sin #7Undervalue Epidemic; The Disastrous “Triple-D”; Woman UP! Tips: You’re Guilty of the “Triple-D” If You Describe Your Success As…; The Negotiation Game; 4 Reasons Why Women Don’t Negotiate
Guilty Confession; Success Solutions; 12 Tips to Transform Negotiating Skills; Woman UP! Reflections; Conclusion: From Sin to Success
Onward and Upward
The Self-Confidence Cure
Woman UP! Tips: 12 Qualities of Highly Confident Women
Woman UP! Tips: “Brag Book” Rules and Benefits