Do you do too much for your kid out of fear they will never make it in the world without your oversight? Are you frustrated or worried about your ‘tween, teen, or young adult who seems lazy or unmotivated? Do you see your child unable to reach their potential because they are disorganized, scattered, and can’t manage their time?
In Your Kid’s Gonna Be Okay: Building the Executive Function Skills Your Child Needs in the Age of Attention, Michael Delman tackles the big worries that keep parents awake at night. In a conversational tone informed by deeply-rooted expertise, Delman illustrates how to connect meaningfully with your child and encourage habits that lead to success in school — and in life.
Your Kid’s Gonna Be Okay helps parents understand the critical skills needed for effective self-management and provides specific strategies and tools to help kids become motivated, accountable, and independent. Through engaging stories that illustrate how we all build Executive Function skills, Delman demonstrates how kids can change their habits as they pave their own path toward competence today and confidence in their future. Parents of kids with ADHD or other learning differences - or parents worried about how their child can manage distractions will benefit from Delman's experience as an educator, an Executive Function coach, and as a parent.
|Publisher:||Beyond BookSmart Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.50(d)|
About the Author
Michael originated the application of Dr. James Prochaska's Transtheoretical Model of Change to help students improve academic performance. Beyond BookSmart's adaptation of this evidence-based model of behavior change has been endorsed by Dr. Prochaska. A dynamic presenter, Michael has been a featured speaker on Executive Function skills as they relate to academic success at the 2018 national Learning Disabilities Association conference, Lynn University Transitions Conference, Mass Mentor Northeast Regional, Association of Experiential Education, GISHA Conference, Independent Educational Consultants Association, Parents of Accelerated Learners in NYC, and to numerous neuropsychological practices and schools throughout the country.
With over 300 Executive Function coaches, Beyond BookSmart has branches in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, Illinois, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Pennsylvania, and Florida. Michael has also led the way in establishing on-line Executive Function coaching both nationally and internationally.
Michael is the co-founder of the McAuliffe Regional Charter Public School in Framingham, Massachusetts, a middle school in its 12th year of operation teaching over 350 students through the Expeditionary Learning Outward Bound school model. He served as McAuliffe's founding principal and has served as an active member of its Board of Trustees since 2008. Prior to that, Michael taught in the Southborough Public Schools for eight years, during which time he received the Anti-Defamation League's Teacher Incentive Award for creating a superior learning environment for his students.
Table of Contents
An Overview of Executive Functioning
Chapter 1: Before Skills: Cultivating Motivation
Chapter 2: Winning Approaches: How Parents Can Facilitate Change
Chapter 3: Zen and the Art of Self-Regulation: Antidotes for Anxious Kids
Chapter 4: Focus in the Age of Attention: Directing the Distracted Child
Chapter 5: Learning to Decide: The Executive Suite and Strategies for the Unproductive Child
Chapter 6: Deciding to Learn: the Power of Metacognition
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I loved Your Kid’s Gonna Be Okay! I teach high school and the level of anxiety amongst my students is very high. Michael Delman’s book is full of helpful advice about how to help students manage that anxiety. For example, he employs a clever little “quiz” in which he “tests” students on their middle names. Of course, it’s easy for kids to answer correctly—no matter how high the stakes, they never forget their own names—which illustrates beautifully that it’s not testing per se that causes anxiety, but other issues around testing (content, directions, amount of time, etc.). I’m definitely going to use this exercise with my students. Your Kid’s Gonna Be Okay is full of such wonderful “hands-on” techniques for working with kids. In fact, it’s one of the things I love most about the book: all the concrete tips and tricks, not to mention the enlightening personal anecdotes gleaned from Delman’s many years of experience as both a parent and a teacher. As a teacher with twenty-five years of teaching under my belt, I highly recommend this book to anyone who interacts with kids. It’s engaging, useful, well-written—in a word: terrific!
Honestly speaking, I had given up reading books for the purpose of helping my son (and myself to be a better parent). As a busy working mom who wants to be interacting with my child when he is at home, I don't have the will or patience to spend time sifting through literature that doesn't speak to me immediately. Then came Michael Delman's book. The title alone caught me because it spoke straight to my heart. Michael gets it. His compassionate and intelligent approach is obviously based on sound theory, but you can tell that it is based on first-hand experience as well. Michael is also about the whole child. His approach wraps practical tools within the scope of their being as unique and exciting humans. I loved it when he wrote: "Often we end up spending so much energy in the day-to-day, trying to coax our kids to do their homework and clean their rooms, it's easy to lose sight of the possibilities...supporting our children in the pursuit of their passions also affirms that they matter, not just for us as parents, but for their own satisfaction, for all that they as unique individuals bring to the world." The concepts are practical, make sense, and I'm excited about applying them. Thank you, Michael, for writing this book.
Loved the balance between theory and practice. Great advice and great ideas to try with my teen! The author has a sense of humor that made this a book I could relate to. Shared so many strategies with my child and she thinks they may be helpful as well (a miracle!)
This book is EXACTLY what my son and I both need right now; it's as if the author wrote this with us in mind. My son needs inspiration, strategies and practical tips that actually work, from an expert in the field with a track record of success. "Your Kid's Gonna Make It" has all of that and more! I just wish I'd had this resource to offer him when he first started struggling. It's great to finally feel hopeful! Bonus: I'm finding that a lot of the strategies and tips will help me be more productive as well. I guess we never do stop learning…
Truly a great book for anyone working with children and young adults. The book provides such a great mix of science based insights and examples of real world trial and error to help us as the reader get into the minds of young adults, who are often motivated in unique ways that seem out of reach until you begin turning the pages of this book.
As a student going off to college in the full, this book has helped me to get ready to start taking more control over my life. I feel like I have the skills I need to organize my schedule and get my homework done in the most effective way, which I'm sure will help me in many aspects of my life beyond the classroom. I also really appreciate the readability of this book. It was funny and well explained, so I actually enjoyed reading the book, and found it super easy to digest. I would totally recommend this book to any parent, student, or teacher and I am very glad to know that I am gonna be ok.
The magic of Delman's approach is to ask the parent to focus on the person you want your child to be when they are 20. There are short-term solutions by which you can control and force your kid to be a better 10, 11 or 12 year old. BUT will this help him or her to become an effective adult one day? Do not tell your child what to do and enforce this through bribes, threats or punishments. You are not around all the time to tell them what to do. It is far superior for you to work with your kids to help them develop the self-controlling skills, values, and attitudes which will serve them in college and the rest of their lives. Your kid is OK. Delman's book is full of examples of ways you can help him or her to become even better.