Skills for people to learn to be with themselves in the healthiest way possible.
When we experience trauma or need to find a way to protect ourselves from interpersonal hurt, we make unconscious contracts with ourselves, such as: “I will never let myself get treated that way again” or “I will never forgive myself for that.” But these contracts often result in harmful behaviors like self-criticism, lack of trust, and procrastination. Until we recognize and free ourselves from these damaging contracts, we can never truly heal.
Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care takes us through the world of relational neuroscience and, using the lens of unconscious contracts, explores how our brains, nervous systems, and bodies react to the brains, nervous systems, and bodies of others. Case studies, resonant-language practice, questionnaires, mediations, and journaling provide readers with healing strategies for uncovering and rewriting these contracts. Following Your Resonant Self, this workbook provides the tools to turn inward with kindness, warmth, and curiosity and create opportunities for self-healing.
|Publisher:||Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||6.10(w) x 9.30(h) x 1.20(d)|
About the Author
Bonnie Badenoch, MA, LMFT, is a marriage and family therapist. mentor, and speaker. She is executive director of the nonprofit Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind in Vancouver, WA, offering support to those in the healthcare professions through year-long immersion trainings in interpersonal neurobiology.
Table of Contents
List of Meditations ix
Acknowledgments and the Birth of This Book xi
Foreword Bonnie Badenoch xv
Chapter 1 How We Talk to Ourselves: The Default Mode Network 1
Chapter 2 Staying in Emotional Balance: Healthy Self-Regulation 24
Chapter 3 Developing Self-Kindness: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness 43
Chapter 4 Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute 59
Chapter 5 Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust 81
Chapter 6 Time Traveling with Resonance: Healing Old Hurts 105
Chapter 7 Claiming Anger's Creative and Protective Gifts 131
Chapter 8 Vanquishing Ancient Fears 152
Chapter 9 Returning From Dissociation 167
Chapter 10 Attachment: How Brains Respond to Accompaniment 187
Chapter 11 Healing Self-Hate and Disorganized Attachment 205
Chapter 12 Gently Healing Depression 235
Chapter 13 Leaving Behind Addictions and Compulsions: The Contributions of Self-Understanding and Resonance 252
Chapter 14 Joy, Community, and Our Outside Voice: Bringing Our Resonating Self-Witness to Others 268
Appendix 1 Self-Assessment Review 281
Appendix 2 Online Resources 286
Appendix 3 Recommended Reading 287
Appendix 4 Glossary 288