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Have you ever experienced a moment in your life when you began to appreciate the stories and lessons your parents might have shared with you? Perhaps it was a moment quietly working when your father told you of his painful experience during WWII; or when your mother taught you about beauty while picking daffodils for her neighbor; or when in a moment of tragedy you recall how your parents handled something so difficult with such poise and strength that it helped you go on? Our culture and our history is created through stories, personal stories, whether funny or sad, light or difficult, poignant or profound. Lessons From My Parents has collected 100 such stories from writers from across the world and shares them in this seminal work celebrating the life lessons we learn without even realizing it.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781938301476 |
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Publisher: | Familius |
Publication date: | 05/01/2013 |
Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
Format: | eBook |
Pages: | 292 |
File size: | 7 MB |
About the Author
Michele loves hiking new trails with her family and settling down with a good read-aloud. She lives in CA with her rambunctious children, amazing hubby, and a cat who puts up with all of their noise.
Ashley Nance is an educator with a degree in Early Childhood/Special Education and an advocate for individuals with disabilities and their families. She spends her time with her husband, three young children, and multiple writing projects in the great state of Texas. Her blog dedicated to siblings can be found at http://www.ashesandtomatoes.wordepress.com, http://www.ashesandtomatoes.wordpress.com.
Read an Excerpt
The summer after I graduated from college, I was jobless and lying around at my parent's house pondering my existence in the world. My grandma, Della, called me and told me to come see her. Della and Don Corleone shared this sort of control over people; when Della told you to do something you didn't argue. Della had been sick, and she needed help. It made sense for me to go. I was glad for the chance to escape since I hadn't a clue what to do with the degree or my life. I was on the plane the next day heading for Pueblo, Colorado.
I wasn't prepared for the woman who awaited me at the airport. She had lost weight and looked older than her sixty-five years.
"I am dying you know," she said after we hugged.
"We're all dying," I replied. In my family, the women are the backbone. Weakness of any kind in the girls is considered one of the deadly sins.
Della wasn't exactly cover material for Redbook. She was definitely not a blue rinse, Bloomingdales sort of lady—she clipped coupons, a scarred survivor of the Depression and was prone to hoarding cans of SPAM—and when the grey started weaving its way into her thick head of hair she opted for Lady Clairol’s Cherry Silver. She gave me a couple of days to enjoy our time together before we hit the Dialysis Center, and visited with her doctor. Our meeting with him set the tone for the next couple of weeks.
“Your kidneys are failing, and dialysis is no longer a viable option.” Dr. Mong was matter of fact. “Mrs. Ortega, there is little we can do for you at this point. I suggest you tidy up your affairs and make final arrangements. Is there a Mr. Ortega? I’ve seen a couple of gentlemen come and go during your treatments, but I wasn’t sure if one was a Mister.”
“There hasn’t been a Mister for quite some time, but there have been several SOB’s since Mr. Ortega left.” Still smiling, Della continued, “How much time is left on my limited warranty?”
“Limited warranty?”
“When is my time up? It can’t be that hard a question to answer. Is it hours, days, or weeks? Is the answer somewhere in those papers you are looking at?”
“Mrs. Ortega…” He paused for several seconds before lifting his eyes from Della’s chart. “It’s difficult to put an exact date on your warranty, but I suggest you gather your family and take care of any unfinished business. It’s a matter of weeks.”
“Thank you, Dr. Mong. Come on, Hijta, let’s go to Passkeys Bar and have a cold beer, maybe some lunch, make some plans, and celebrate.”
“Thanks, Dr. Mong. OK, Grandma, lunch it is.”
Over the course of the next week, the rest of the family flew in and took care of the final arrangements. I was at her side for whatever she needed. It was only fitting since she had always been there for me over the years. I had one more lesson to learn she told me the last night we were together.
"I haven't given you my recipe for green chili stew,” she said. I knew how to make it, had for years. I spent too many hours at her heels in the kitchen while growing up not to have learned how to make it. Since we were snuggling on her bed, I didn’t argue.
Her shunted arms pulled me in tight. The Este Lauder Youth Dew perfume she was so fond of wearing wasn’t strong enough to mask the smell of illness, which clings to the body once death takes hold. We lay intertwined for a long while. She drifted in and out. I hadn’t had to confront death before nor was I sure what I was going to do without Della. She was always there with an answer, even before I knew the question.
"Hijta, I want to tell you how to make Green Chili Stew because you won't find this recipe in Betty Crocker.”
“OK, Grandma.”
“You need some pork. Buy the cheap cut, pork shoulder is best and then cut it into bite-size pieces, fresh or canned tomatoes, and only use fresh roasted green chilies and jalapeños, chopped onions, fresh chopped garlic.” Then she explained how to cook it, "First you have to brown the pork. After it's browned, smother it with flour, and brown that too.” She was specific with the ingredients, but vague with the measurements and the time required per task.
“I won’t be here to help you along, Hijta. Life is not something you can measure out in cups and teaspoons. Remember this, and you will get along just fine. Cooking chili is a good place to find the answers you are looking for.”
I listened attentively because I wanted her voice to go on and on and never stop. After she finished explaining how to make chili, she asked me if I got it. I did. I understood. Life was not something I would find in books nor could I measure it out perfectly, and regardless it might come out differently depending on the conditions.
She closed her eyes for the last time.
Table of Contents
Introduction
Contributors
By Their Example 1
Loving Service: It All Started with Daffodils 3
My Mother Is a Believer 5
A Christmas Miracle 6
Freak Flag 8
Take the Time to Listen 10
Rich in Every Way 11
Respect and Compassion in Cairo 11
A Black Marker and a Name 12
Honesty and Accountability: A Reminder from My Mom 20
Follow Your Dreams 21
In the Kitchen 23
How to Bake Bread 25
The Year of the Slaw 25
Food Projects 28
Hootenanny 31
Give Your Best 33
The Piecrust 34
At Work 37
Loving Hard Work 39
Do What You Need to Do 40
Girls Can Mow 42
Should I Buy Food or Gas 44
Boys 45
Complete Service 46
From Our Grandparents 51
How to Choose a Companion 53
Grandma's Footsteps 54
Thirteen Letters 56
Grandmother 66
A Morning Devotional 67
Life Is Not Something You Measure in Cups and Teaspoons 69
From Discipline 73
Come Out Smiling 75
Patience Is a Virtue 76
Did I Really Want to Be Spoiled? 79
You Can Never Be Too Careful 82
From Literature and Letters 85
My Parents Gave Me the World 87
What Freedom Is Worth 88
I Made It In 90
I Am Strong 91
A Mother's Art 96
Go Do Something Productive 98
By Accident 101
Refusing to Dance 103
Dad Don'ts 104
Breaking the Cycle 105
Summer's Defining Moment 105
While Out and About 107
Man of His Word 109
Navigation 111
Central Terminal 112
Access 116
Fishing Green Lake 117
The Eagle 118
On Overcoming Challenges 121
Love is a Many Splendored Thing 123
She Never Flinched 125
Tenacity 126
Growing Up with No Warning 130
Encourage, Encourage, Encourage 135
Veterans 136
Always Be Your Child's Most Loyal (and loudest) Cheerleader 137
Worth Fighting For 138
From Wise Words 143
Back to Basics-Haiku 145
Behind Every Door There Is a Challenge 145
Go Barefoot 147
Proverbs for Life 149
Mama Couldn't Cook, But She Sure Had Good Sayings 150
The Coat 154
Wisconsin Lessons 156
You Decide 157
What's in a Name? 159
Moral Code 161
On a Sunday 163
Special Delivery 165
My Mother's God 166
Crossroads of Salvation 173
Living like Venus 175
In Our Youthful Follies 179
The Hiding Game 181
Plotting 185
Spring Break Lies 192
Please Get Over Yourself 198
From Father to Daughter 201
More Precious than Pearls 203
My Dad 206
Hey Dad, Listen to This 208
My Angel Father 213
The Pearl Maker 215
Stay on the Path 218
Journey on Valentine's Day 221
He Taught Me to Swing a Racquet 224
As Our Parents Age 227
The Barber Shop 229
The Art of Shedding a Life 230
She Had Always Loved Me 234
Coupon Clipping 235
Blue Booties 236
You Are a Good Son 239
In a Moment 245
It's OK to Cry 247
First Day Back 250
White Overalls 251
Daddy, I Promise 253
Pipe Down 254
Was He Worth My Tears? 256
Through Unconditional Love 259
A Simple Gold Ring 261
The Silent Warrior 265
Fish and Chips on a Sunday Evening 265
Measuring Up 268
Being Adopted: I Love You No Matter What 269
She Simply Listened 272
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