The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime
Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.
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The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime
Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.
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The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

by Mikaya Heart
The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

by Mikaya Heart

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Overview

Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781573447348
Publisher: Start Publishing Llc
Publication date: 08/15/2011
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: eBook
Pages: 345
File size: 530 KB

About the Author

Mikaya Heart (www.mikayaheart.org) grew up in a rural part of Scotland. She developed a deep love of nature from an early age, which sustained her through a difficult childhood. At York University, long before the environmental movement had started, she studied ecology. Unable to accept how disrespectfully our planet is being treated, she dropped out, finding herself most at home in the radical hippie culture of the seventies. In 1978, she came out as a lesbian, and in the same year, trained as an agricultural mechanic. Disillusioned with the homophobia and sexism in the UK, she immigrated to Northern California, where she ran an organic market garden, raised pigs, and built her own house out of recycled lumber in the backwoods. She is a keen writer and has always worked hard at her personal healing, often using shamanic methods. Since she was sexually abused as a child, this led to a book on women's sexuality, When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm ,published in 1998. Sex, at its best, is a profoundly shamanic activity, so this fitted well with the belief systems she was developing. Several of her short stories, and one other book, The Straight Woman's Guide to Lesbianism, have also been published. She has two books coming out this year, one on the art of being human, and the other on her travels in Indonesia and Thailand. A horse riding accident at the age of 48 led to profound changes. She sold all her property, in order to be absolutely free, and took off traveling on her own, visiting Asia, Australia, New Zealand, Europe, Hawaii, Mexico, North America, the Caribbean and Brazil. She finds it essential to spend time alone in nature, feeling the being-ness of a place, and consequently her traveling is usually about camping in the wilderness. One of her most memorable experiences was an eight day solo kayak trip in Prince William Sound, Alaska. Her favorite pastimes are dancing, singing, horse-riding, and kitesurfing, all of which she experiences as deeply spiritual. She now identifies most strongly as a marveling mystic, since she has a very powerful awareness of herself as a being of spirit, and is constantly amazed at the extraordinary beauty of this world. Kitesurfing is her greatest passion. She has become the woman who follows the wind, intent on experiencing the delight of dancing with water and air whenever she can. She built a house from all recycled materials and lives happily in Northern California. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women "The author, Mikaya Heart, definitely tried to cover a plethora of information and did a fabulous job of presenting things with an attitude of open acceptance. So many women don’t discuss many of the personal and intimate details of our sexual selves. This book helped me to recognize that I wasn’t alone in some of the things I have personally experienced. It also helped me understand why some women don’t appreciate sex as much as others. One of the most important things that I am taking away from this book is that we must express our desires and needs. If we do not voice our needs and ask for what want in a loving but direct way we are preventing ourselves from enjoying one of the most pleasurable things our bodies, minds and spirit can experience." —Romancing the Book "This guide shows women how to ask for what they need and embrace their complexity." —AVN "This book as a whole is an engaging mixture of practical advice and spiritual (in a broad sense) discussion." —Kissed By Venus "The book... offer[s] freedom to self-define what a healthy sexuality means for each of us, as individuals, without necessarily referencing a "norm." Is it worth buying? Absolutely!" —Fresh Fiction
Violet Blue is a best-selling author of sex manuals and editor of erotica. She writes for and has been interviewed by O: The Oprah Magazine, The History Channel, and Penthouse, and in 2013 was named one of the Best Sex Educators in San Francisco by SF Weekly. She lives in San Francisco.

Table of Contents

Foreword Violet Blue xiii

Introduction xvii

Chapter 1 Sexual Play 1

A New Vocabulary for Sex

The Best Medicine

Embracing Our Complexity and Diversity

Chapter 2 What Works, What Doesn't, and Why 8

An Anatomy Review

An Oral Review

Sidebar: A Different Kind of Blow Job

Penetration

How to Ask

Masturbation

Vibrators

Variety of Pleasures

One Is Not Always Enough

Emotional Erogenous Zones

Tuning In

Chapter 3 The Physical Experience of Orgasm 31

The Myth of the Definitive Orgasm

Beyond Vaginal and Clitoral

Combination Orgasms

Surface Versus Depth

Pulsing and Contractions

Pregnancy and Orgasm

A Vocabulary for Orgasm

Multiple Orgasms

Chapter 4 The Energetic Experience of Orgasm 50

The Nonphysical Components of Orgasm

Chemistry: A Psychic Connection

Emotional Orgasms

The Intellectual Component: Focusing the Mind

Aftershocks

Simultaneous and Empathic Orgasms

Energy Movement within the Body

Alignment

Visuals

The Power of Fantasy

Sound

Extended Orgasm

Chapter 5 The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm 78

The Feminine

Intuition and Feelings

Separation, Oneness, and Passion

Tantra

Kundalini

The Breath

Meditation

Love, Sex, and Sanity

Chapter 6 The Elusive Orgasm 97

Variations in Desire

Hysterectomies, Medications, and Aging

Disappearing Orgasms

Recognizing an Orgasm

Anor-gasmic Women

Cultural Conditioning

Learning to Come

Great Expectations

The Need to Please

Faking Orgasm

Do Men Know When We're Faking It?

Chapter 7 Early Sexual Experiences 121

A Child's View of Sex

Crowing Up Without Information

Embracing Our Passion

Negative Messages

Why Some of Us Love Our Sexual Selves and Some of Us Don't

When Sex Is Sex and When It's Not

Sexual Abuse of Children

Recovery

Chapter 8 Relationships 140

Bodies

Take Your Time

Partners

Withholding Feelings

A Great Love Doesn't Always Guarantee Great Sex

Communication

The Power of No

The Power of Yes

Getting Turned On

Dealing with Difficult Feelings

Sidebar: How to Recognize a Feeling When It Hits You in the Face

Getting Down to Business

Take a Risk, But Don't Take It Seriously

Asserting Ourselves

Claiming Our Passion

It Hurts So Good

Fears Versus Passion

Chapter 9 Penetration and the G-Spot 169

Lubrication

The PC muscle

Penetration Is Not Essential

But Some of Us Really Love It!

Virginity: The Arduous Process of Losing It

Enjoying Penetration

The Astounding Vagina

Taking It Slowly

The G-Spot

Location, Location, Location

Toys

To Use a Dildo…or Not Use a Dildo

Ode to the Dildo

Other Orifices

Chapter 10 Ejaculation, Fisting, and Anal Sex 189

The G-Spot and Ejaculation

What Is It and Where Does It Come From?

Who? When? How Much?

The Relationship of Orgasm to Ejaculation

The Power of Ejaculation

Vaginal Fisting

The How-Tos of Vaginal Fisting

Vaginal Fisting and Orgasms

Anal Sex

Chapter 11 The Purpose of Orgasm 208

From Pain to Pleasure, and Beyond…

Responsible Sex, Responsible Living

Working with Energy

Empowerment

Appendix A Safer Sex 217

Appendix B Resources 222

Appendix C Questionnaire 237

About the Author 245

Index 246

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