An Ounce of Prevention

An Ounce of Prevention

by Gary W. Kirby


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Is there a way to prevent—and stop—violence and abuse in intimate relationships? This book, the first in a series aimed at helping readers better understand domestic abuse, explores how that information can be used to teach readers to make positive choices about their own physical and emotional safety and the physical and emotional safety of their children.Gary Kirby's long-term goal is to eradicate domestic abuse, so that no child is forced to witness violence or abuse of any kind or feel the need to cover their ears to drown out the screams. As a society, we aren't doing a great job of accomplishing that goal. But, there is hope.An Ounce of Prevention explores: •Understanding and recognizing violence and abuse in intimate relationships•Reviewing the Cycle of Violence•Understanding the characteristics of violent and abusive individuals•Understanding the characteristics of an abused individual•Developing safety plans to keep themselves and their children out of harms way•Helping others who may be in violent or abusive relationships•Personal experiences and insights of the author to relay information and add clarificationIt's known that children growing up in violent and abusive homes are at risk of repeating that behaviour in their future relationships – they may become the perpetrators of violence and abuse, or they may become victims of violence and abuse. To end that repeating cycle, we need to put past assumptions (that violence and abuse in intimate relationships is only about power and control) aside and focus on understanding what has happened in a person's life to cause the violent or abusive behaviour in their current relationships. We need to empower positive change.Through this, and future books, it can be believed that with this deeper understanding we, as a society, will be better able to assess the types and scope of services required to deal with violence and abuse that may one day lead to reducing the violence and abuse we now see in intimate relationships.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780968443422
Publisher: BookBaby
Publication date: 11/12/2018
Series: Ounce of Prevention Series , #1
Pages: 146
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

About the Author

Gary Kirby knows about violence and abuse in intimate relationships. He grew up in a home filled with it, and grew up to become an angry adult. He spent much of his life trying to discover why he was so angry. That journey led him to an Anger Management program, which began the healing process and allowed him the opportunity to help others by first volunteering and then being hired to facilitate and co-facilitate these anger management programs with a local agency. Besides working with batterers in these programs, he was one of the first people hired, along with a psychologist, to get into some Junior High schools in Calgary, working with angry youth.His experiences and ongoing research have given him a unique perspective on the root causes of violence and abuse. His focus is now on expanding society's understanding of violence and abuse, hoping this will provide keys to new and more effective ways of dealing with violence and abuse in our society.

Table of Contents

Dedication vii

Acknowledgements ix

Introduction xi

About the Author xix

Part I Understanding violence and abuse and recognizing it in your relationships xxxiii

Chapter 1 Violence and abuse 1

Chapter 2 About the Children 9

Chapter 3 The Cycle of Violence 19

Chapter 4 Common characteristics of the violent or abusive individual 29

Chapter 5 Common characteristics of the abused individual 39

Chapter 6 Are You Being Abused? 45

Part II What you can do about the violence and abuse in your relationship 49

Chapter 7 Looking for help 51

Chapter 8 Safety Plan-for yourself and your children 55

Chapter 9 Moving Forward 65

Chapter 10 Staying or Leaving? 67

Part III Other matters 81

Chapter 11 Avoiding future violent and/or abuse in your relationship 83

Chapter 12 Are you abusive? - helping yourself 93

Chapter 13 Helping a Friend Who is in an Abusive Relationship 99

Conclusion 105

Bibliography 107

Appendix A Abuse treatment programs and/or Anger Management Programs 109

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ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Romuald Dzemo for Readers' Favorite An Ounce of Prevention by Gary W Kirby is more than a mere book; it is a gift to people in relationships and to families, a book that offers emotional and physical freedom and health in relationships. Domestic abuse is one of the troubling issues affecting many couples and children, and this author believes that it can be prevented. In this book he offers tools that readers can use to understand the cycle of violence and abuse, diagnose aggressive and abusive tendencies in individuals or partners, identify the tools to curb abuse and help those who are abused in any kind of way experience freedom and protection. In this book, the author underlines powerful themes and helps readers with a fresh perspective on understanding violence: it’s all about control and power. The book also offers tips and insights that help anyone understand whether they are abusive or not. I enjoyed how the author weaves personal experience into the narrative, writing with an honesty that gives authority to this book. It’s a slim book but packed with useful tips and the information we all need to fight domestic violence and abuse in intimate relationships. And while the author offers readers a clear understanding of the subject, he allows the effects of violence and abuse on children to come out clearly through the writing. An Ounce of Prevention is a book with a powerful message of hope, a message that we can transform our relationships through an understanding of abuse and find the tools to create relationships that enhance both our emotional and physical health.