Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar

by Amy Ahlers, SARK (Foreword by)

Overview

Most of us have a nonstop chorus of criticism in our heads — voices not unlike those of the mean girls lurking in locker rooms of junior high schools everywhere. Amy Ahlers’s witty, wise, and cut-to-the-chase book will give you everything you need to take on those bullying Inner Mean Girls and Inner Critics — and win. You’ll learn how to rewire the self-sabotaging lies you tell yourself into affirming truths that will increase self-respect, self-love, and self-compassion, transforming your inner and outer lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781608680283
Publisher:	New World Library
Publication date:	10/11/2011
Edition description:	New Edition
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.52(w) x 8.52(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Amy Ahlers is a celebrated certified life coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching, and the cocreator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School. For over a decade she has offered teleseminars and workshops to inspire women. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband, daughter, and rescue mutt.

Editorial Reviews

According to life coach Ahlers, women are constantly beating themselves up, even for the tiniest imperfections, but this intense self-criticism doesn’t lead to success or fulfillment. She directs readers to disarm their “Inner Critic” or “Mean Girl” by learning to identify instances when woman are commonly hard on themselves. She refutes these “lies” using real-life inspirational stories, practical coaching exercises, mantras, and inspirational quotations. For the lie “I sacrifice and sacrifice, and no one cares,” Ahlers encourages readers to imagine that life is a big closet of different outfits that represent different attitudes and to slip on the martyr outfit and assess what the costs and payoffs are of wearing it all the time. For the lie “I need another to complete me,” she suggests a marriage ritual in which a reader marries herself, like Ahlers and two friends did on a Malibu beach, wearing beautiful dresses, reading vows, and celebrating their wholeness. While Ahlers’s positivity is welcome and she voices many truths about female insecurities, particularly how women feel more comfortable “playing small” and holding their own power hostage, her writing is often sloppy, platitude-laden, and glib. The book falters as a stand-alone without her workshops. (Oct.)

Publishers Weekly

“Written with great humor, tolerance, honesty, and wisdom, this book is sort of like having your own personal cheerleader with you 24/7. The work given is excellent, well-thought out, and obviously based on experience....If you’re feeling you really want to cut that inner ‘mean girl’ down to size once and for all, this is the book to help you do it.”
— New Spirit Journal

“Ahlers’s book won't bore you with psychological jargon and dry theory. It's fun to read and filled with coaching, affirmations, inspiring quotations, and stories, yet her understanding and insight are deep and can take you by surprise.”
— Spirituality & Health

“A crucial message for women to stop being so hard on themselves. The tools and exercises in this book are transformational, and Amy Ahlers’s insight, humor, and enthusiasm are infectious.”
— Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Love for No Reason

“Stop everything you are doing — you have to read this book! This is the book that you pass on to your closest girlfriend or daughter when she needs to be reminded of her greatness.”
— Lisa Nichols, author of No Matter What!

“This timely book will transform your fear-based illusions into miracles and reconnect you with your loving truth. With Amy as your guide, you are destined to awaken your Inner Superstar!”
— Gabrielle Bernstein, author of Add More ~ing to Your Life and Spirit Junkie

“Ahlers is a cheerleader. What makes this a valuable book is that she backs her cheerleading up with viable, easy-to-implement techniques that can actually change people’s sense of well-being.”
— Anna Jedrziewski, New Age Retailer

“Packed full of real truth and wisdom. I highly recommend this book for any woman who just wants to be happy.”
— Kristine Carlson, author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Women

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