Divorced Parenting for Newbies

TABLE OF CONTENTS ..................................................
1 RELEVANCE OF DIVORCE TO CHILDREN ..................
PREVALENCE OF DIVORCE ..............................................................
RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH PARENT ..............................................
RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SIBLINGS ..............................................
2 MODELS OF PARENTING DURING DIVORCE ...........
INDEPENDENT PARENTING ...........................................................
PARALLEL PARENTING ..................................................................
CO-PARENTING .............................................................................
3 RESPONSES TO DIVORCE BY CHILDREN ................
UNDERSTANDING THE GRIEF CYCLE .............................................
DENIAL ..............................
ANGER .................................
ANXIETY .....................................
CONFUSION ..........................................................
BARGAINING .......................................
DEPRESSION..............................................
ACCEPTANCE ....................................................
4 AGE GROUPS AND ISSUES .....................................
BIRTH TO FIVE YEARS .................................................................
SIX TO EIGHT YEARS ..................................................................
NINE TO TWELVE YEARS ...............................................................
THIRTEEN TO EIGHTEEN YEARS ....................................................
5 COMMUNICATION BASICS FOR PARENTS ..............
REFRAMES ....................................................................................
"I" MESSAGES..............................................................................
PARENTING ROLES VERSUS MARRIAGE ROLES .............................
6 TALKING TO KIDS ABOUT DIVORCE ......................
HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS TOO MUCH .....................................
DISCUSSING DIVORCE..................................................................
ACTIVE LISTENING .......................................................................
FUTURE FOCUSED .........................................................................
COMMON PITFALLS AND TRAPS ...............................
BECOMING DEFENSIVE .................................................................
KIDS AS CAREGIVERS, SUPPORTERS OR MEDIATORS ...................
KIDS AS SPIES OR MESSENGERS ..................................................
MONEY ISSUES THROUGH DIVORCE .............................................
8 PARENTING PLANS ................................................
WHAT IS A PARENTING PLAN? .....................................................
WHY DEVELOP A PARENTING PLAN? ............................................
WHAT SHOULD BE INCLUDED?......................................................
HOW OFTEN SHOULD IT BE REVISED? ..........................................
9 TOPICS OF CONCERN .............................................
HOW TO HANDLE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS WITH KIDS ...............
WHERE TO GO FOR HELP ...............................................................
3 CHALLENGING QUESTIONS YOUR KIDS WILL ASK AND HOW TO ANSWER .......................................................................................
10 FAMILY MEETINGS ..............................................
WHAT IS A FAMILY MEETING? ......................................................
WHO SHOULD ATTEND? ................................................................
WHAT CAN BE DISCUSSED? ..........................................................
KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL FAMILY MEETINGS ...............................

Divorced Parenting for Newbies