Judy Holland has written an exceptional book balancing personal narratives with sound empirical evidence focusing on the complex and dynamic process of the empty nest. Judy offers a thick description of the struggles, rewards, and multiple challenges that parents face as their children leave home (and sometimes return), while simultaneously maintaining and managing their own intimate relationships with each-other, friends and their children. Judy offers sound advice that can help us successfully make our way through this inevitable and significant life transition. I highly recommend this book to all parents, and departing children as well, who will soon, or who are in the life long process of transitioning to the empty nest.
I don't say this lightly: this book could save your life. With middle-aged adults, particularly women, dying younger than previous generations from 'diseases of despair,' finding a renewed sense of purpose and zest during the empty nest period is a recipe for happiness and meaning. Judy Holland has brilliantly woven together stories, research and checklists that will appeal to anyone who wants to find out how to fill the empty nest in important ways.
We live now in an era where most people have only one or two children and live to be at least 80 years-old. That means there is a lot of life left once the kids leave home, as most do by their early twenties. This wise book provides a road map for how to make the most of the opportunities ahead once the nest has emptied out. and how to handle the challenges, too.
A wealth of information based on research and interviews done by an expert journalist; HappiNest will help navigate you out of the lonely post-kids woods into a joyful next chapter.
John "JW" and Pamela Gaye Walker
HappiNest: Finding Fulfillment When Your Kids Leave Home is a valuable resource for empty nesters. Judy Holland has expertly curated interviews, quotes, research studies and statistics to comfort, inspire and encourage those of us who are heading into or who are in the empty nest.
Life has many seasons, each rich in opportunities to learn, grow and, ultimately, to thrive amid its challenges. HappiNest will help you navigate this next season - to forge richer relationships, cultivate new passions, and to embrace its many possibilities with a newfound sense of courage, clarity and adventure.
When the children finally leave the nest, women and men can find themselves challenged by a new stage in their lives. Judy Holland's book tells these parents not to despair! There are many roads to happiness, and Holland provides them with insightful tools and tips for self-fulfillment as they take this exciting new journey.
A thoughtful meditation on living as an empty-nester, this book is chock full ideas inspired by philosophy, social science, and hundreds of real-life experiences. Judy Holland has written a rich and compassionate work that will surely help the many who will read it not only avoid despair and isolation but, more importantly, lead increasingly meaningful and fulfilled lives. An inspiring and sorely needed work.
Having worked with thousands of empty nesters, as well as, living the empty nest, this book is on the pulse for helping others with a reality vs fantasy time of life. Holland has done her research and offers the reader the challenges and joys of the empty nest milestone.
HappiNest is a great resource for those parents who find they have been successful at what they have been working towards for almost two decades (getting their children out of the house) and yet, when the time actually comes, find it may not be as easy to deal with as they thought.
Holland describes her own jarring experience of suddenly finding her house empty after the last of her three children left for college, and offers advice on how to process such loss and constructively fill the void.
Becoming an empty nester poses an existential challenge to many parents: when kids leave, so does a major source of purpose for parents. Fortunately, they can now turn to HappiNest to help them navigate this transition. Judy Holland’s book draws on fascinating psychology research and tells the stories many empty nesters to show how people can redefine their purpose and identity after the kids leave home. This book will bring hope and comfort to those parents searching for meaning in the second half of life.
We have been in the empty nest for 30 years and work with couples dealing with empty nest issues. Judy Holland’s book, HappiNest, is by far the best resource available today for all those who want to prepare for and enjoy this stage of life. Judy has done her homework and gathered the best research, advice from experts, and good common sense tips to guide you through the challenges of the empty nest years. A must read if you are near or in the empty nest—or even if your nest has refilled!
Very few people in the past felt either the luxury or the loneliness of having an empty nest. Holland perceptively analyzes why this stage of life has become a problem for many people and offers practical suggestions for how to deal with it.
Regardless of how times change or how fast paced our lives become, there are few things that shake up our world quite as much as the arrival of a new member of the household. However, for some parents, the departure of their youngest, or only, child and the resultant “empty nest” can be as challenging an experience as the child’s arrival had been. This book provides the type of comfort, content, and stabilizing support that many parents seek when they are trying to figure out who they have become (and who their partners have become) in the years since children first arrived on the scene. The book provides a multitude of different answers to the questions that we all want to ask of those who have been through an experience we are just now facing, “What was it like for you? What did you do to cope?” With the variety of stories included in the book, Judy Holland provides a wealth of support and suggestions to help readers effectively manage this transition. Just like the title promises, the book absolutely delivers engaging and inspiring ideas that will set the reader on a path to a new type of personal fulfillment.
Beautifully written, interesting, and compelling, Judy Holland teaches us about the challenges faced by empty nesters, and, ultimately, about life itself. Highly recommended!
In her book HappiNest, Judy Holland presents a vivid road map to help you navigate uncharted territory when your last child leaves home. This thought-provoking and evidence-based book presents valuable insights and practical advice such as how to set ground rules if your child “boomerangs” back into the household, how to prune and cultivate friendships for more soul per square inch, and how to add spark, novelty and joy to your empty nest marriage. HappiNest entertains, enlightens and eases the passage into the second half of life.
A thoughtful meditation on living as an empty-nester, this book is chock full ideas inspired by philosophy, social science, and hundreds of real-life experiences. Judy Holland has written a rich and compassionate work that will surely help the many who will read it not only avoid despair and isolation but, more importantly, lead increasingly meaningful and fulfilled lives. An inspiring and sorely needed work.
12/01/2019
Seasoned journalist and empty nester Holland (former Capitol Hill correspondent, Hearst Newspapers) aims her new book at parents managing the emotions and practical realities of life after their children leave home. Challenges range from boomerang kids and aging parents to rocky marital relationships and a sense that time is running out. Gleaning advice from more than 300 individuals from various backgrounds, Holland offers tips for finding new meaning in life and a sense of belonging through involvement in a particular cause or activity, finding a new career, and/or drawing closer to extended family members. VERDICT Holland puts a positive spin on what could be a tumultuous season of life, providing a solid route on which to travel.
