How Much Is Enough?: Everything You Need to Know to Steer Clear of Overindulgence and Raise Likeable, Responsible and Respectful Ch

How Much Is Enough?: Everything You Need to Know to Steer Clear of Overindulgence and Raise Likeable, Responsible and Respectful Ch

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ISBN-13: 9781569244371
Publisher: Hachette Books
Publication date: 01/09/2004
Pages: 336
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.00(d)

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How Much Is Enough?: Everything You Need to Know to Steer Clear of Overindulgence and Raise Likeable, Responsible and Respectful Ch 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I'm speaking from the point of view of a grandparent who has observed, but who has not spoken out. I knew that if I searched that I would find something to read that would echo my sentiments. My daughter and her husband who have much more security and expendable income than most there age are trying to be good parents to their three children. However, I witness such excesses in material things, and importance on scheduling, and being socialized with like families that I can bearly understand what has happened. What has gotten me to the point of concern is that the overabundance has reached waste and inconceivable bad manners at the dinner table. The children are allowed to begin before anyone has been seated, fill their plates, and practically empty the platters that were place on the table for everyone. Naturally, as young as they are there's is no way all of that food can be consumed, So, it all winds up in the garbage. This to me is beyond civility, very upsetting, and I can't even imagine what the consequences of such behavior will lead to. My daughter was certainly not raised this way. However, all of this excess has become part of her persona. I remain silent. It is their family, and I don't think suggestions would be well received. Therefore, I thank you for what you have written, and for giving me an opportunity to relate to and express what I see.
Purblu More than 1 year ago
This book should be in every parent and child care-givers possession. It is an excellent overall child guidance guide for our "too much" culture. Not only does it help people see the dangers of too many things, too much attention and too little structure, it gives them the big picture of how one's upbringing affects one's life and the life of the next generation. It is gentle, informative and easy to read.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
The culture of the United States can be described in one simple word, consumption. The United States has become a nation of consumers. Consumption can be seen in nearly every aspect of our lives. Messages of what we ¿need¿ come from advertisers, filling the airwaves and can be detected in nearly every setting. Problems such as obesity, anorexia, and overindulgence have become symptoms of a diseased culture. Mass consumerism has become such a pervasive problem that it seems that perhaps it is time for our society to ask ourselves ¿How much is enough?¿ Jean Illsley Clark, Connie Dawson, and David Bredehoft examine overindulgence, one such symptom of a diseased culture, in their book How Much Is Enough? A review of this book will reveal that it is a priceless medication for overindulgence and an excellent starting point for the healing of our culture. Overindulgence is a complex concept and at first may need some explaining. The authors begin their initial look into overindulgence by simply trying to define it. This appears to be slightly more difficult than the authors may have imagined. Their final definition of overindulgence appears to be quite broad being ¿too much of what looks good, too soon, and for too long.¿ However, the authors fully bring their definition into perspective by including that overindulgence is ¿giving a disproportionate amount of family resources,¿ ¿having so much of something that it¿ deprives that person of achieving his or her full potential,¿ and that ¿It hinders children from performing their needed developmental tasks.¿ This definition covers a wide array of possible overindulgence. At this point the authors make a very important distinction in that they believe there are three types of overindulgence; over-nurture, soft-structure, and too much. Next, the authors discuss some of the important issues associated with overindulgence to really shed more light on why it is such a problem. Discussing subjects such as it being more than spoiling, where it comes from, and what kind of feelings the overindulged have about it. All of this coming directly from the three research studies the authors¿ have conducted. The authors also make some very important distinctions between what is and what is not overindulgence. They go over several examples of what is and what looks like but is not overindulgence. Additionally, the authors introduce a very important tool for parents to use to help them detect overindulgence. They call this tool the test of four, which allows parents to examine any action to see if it is possibly overindulgence. When most people think of overindulgence they think of children having too much. The authors use their research to show there findings on the many different ways to give too much. This is where one of the great aspects of these authors and their research becomes blatantly apparent. They use real examples, of real peoples, real lives, to show what kind of overindulgence and the consequences of such overindulgence. Allowing the readers to really make a connection with what they are talking about; because there are so many stories that everyone either knows someone who¿s been in a similar situation or they have been in it themselves. This is when overindulgence becomes a real problem for the readers. Using these examples the authors can fully demonstrate the different types of too much such as too many possessions and too many activities. The important thing about how these authors demonstrate these things is that they also demonstrate some of the commonly unseen consequences of this type of overindulgence. One of the most important consequences that the authors highlight is the concept of what is enough. The authors¿ show how overindulged individuals were never allowed to learn how much was enough because they lived in a world of plenty. Now in adulthood many of these adults find themselves consumed in consumption. As the authors move in
Guest More than 1 year ago
What is overindulgence? Many people think that overindulging their child means to spoil them, but in reality, overindulgence is much more complex. In the newly released book How Much Is Enough?, authors Jean Illsley Clarke, PH.D, Connie Dawson, PH.D, and David Bredehoft, PH.D, strive to show parents and other influential adults how to raise children who are considerate, responsible, and polite by teaching them all about overindulgence and how to avoid it. All three authors have done extensive research on the issue of overindulgence and this is not a first publication on the topic for any of them. How Much Is Enough? is an informational book, yet it cannot be described as a text book. One thing I really enjoyed about reading it is that not only does it present useful information and explain terms used; but it also presents us as readers with real life examples and stories so that we can apply the information and see where it might be useful. There are also many pictures and diagrams included so that we can visualize the most important points. Since we all learn best through different styles, the unique presentation of information is helpful. Also, a lot of the information is reiterated over again throughout the book so that we can fully understand what is being offered to us. Humor is evident in How Much Is Enough? which makes the book much more enjoyable, easy to read, and easy to understand. Whether the reader is a parent, plans on being a parent someday, or works with children in any way, overindulgence is an issue that needs to be faced. This book truly addresses every issue on overindulgence and teaches readers everything they would ever want to know about the topic. I would recommend this book to everyone over the age of fourteen.
Guest More than 1 year ago
We might say this book, How Much Is Enough, is about parenting, or grandparenting, both subjects the authors have accumulated a great deal of information on from their research. We could say this book speaks about materialism in the family, economy, and resource allocation. But the sterling core of this book is about conscience. The authors, in every chapter, in graphic examples, ask the question: ¿Is anyone being hurt by each decision and action we personally make?¿ We live in a time where our culture does not speak out about the value of conscience. We have overfilled jails and juvenile facilities, overactive pharmaceutical industries and financial institutions, but where do we hear about the value of knowing and doing what is right? Has this become an unpopular notion? These authors give us guidelines to be able to judge for ourselves where the lines are between what is enough, and what is overindulgence. This book illustrates through narrative examples what happens, what the effects are, when this line is crossed over. In a time when consumerism is encouraged and having more is considered better, these authors cause us to ask ourselves if we even know how much is enough. Their research shows us the consequences: to individuals, to families, and to our culture when the concept of enough becomes cloudy. Using a very clear test of four questions, the authors teach us to have means to judge our interactions with others in our lives. While speaking specifically about interactions between children and their responsible caregivers, the book puts us in the detective¿s seat to be able to see how a given situation could be interpreted as either helpful or harmful, and how to discern the difference. When helping can seem like hurting, and hurting can seem like helping, how exactly are we to be able to know what is really occurring? This book gives us the tools and skills to clearly see which path to take. It presents a calculus of human behavior, with if ¿ then equations that describe the actual content of interactions in a way we can quantitively define the correct outcome. While being readable, interesting, and enjoyable, this book transforms us. After reading How Much is Enough, no one can proceed without having a different view of personal economy. We are challenged to look at ourselves, our decisions, our acts, and consider if anyone is being hurt before we proceed. This book gives us a tangible grip on conscience and how to use it in everyday ways. Myra Fourwinds, M.A.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Thank you for this book. It is a good read for any and every person who interacts with children. I have 11 grandchildren and people typically say to me, ¿I bet you just love to spoil these grandchildren.¿ My standard response is, ¿I wouldn't be doing anyone any favors if I did that.¿ I get some funny looks sometimes and I have to tell you that I feel affirmed after reading How Much Is Too Much? I've always said that probably the best thing that happened for my kids was that we were poor when they were young. They had to work hard within our family so we could manage. AND I've shared your book with my children. I bought a book for each of my four children as a Mother¿s Day gift. I tell my college students that there is no such thing as a terminal degree and that goes for parenting and grand parenting as well. This book will enhance any relationship, but most especially, the relationships you have with young people.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The authors have clearly stated the meaning of overindulgence, how to determine whether or not 'it' is overindulgence, and how to correct the situation. They give wonderful examples and solutions. There is a 'test of four' given to you for your convenience. The book is strongly based on research and factual opinions and experiences. I urge all parents to read this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I found this work wonderfully clear and practical. I have recommended it to clients repeatedly because it speaks in their language to their real life situations. It is well based in sound theory, isn't 'preachy' or scolding but informs, encourages and supports parents who want the best for their children. A great find!