Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

by Tracy Schorn

Overview

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity -- but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters -- their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780762459056
Publisher:	Running Press Book Publishers
Publication date:	05/10/2016
Sold by:	Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format:	eBook
Pages:	240
Sales rank:	74,767
File size:	10 MB

About the Author

Tracy Schorn is a journalist who runs the successful infidelity blog Chump Lady (ChumpLady.com), and whose snarky wisdom and cartoons have helped thousands of chumps leave cheaters. Tracy is a regular contributor to Huffington Post Divorce, recognized by Babble as one of the Top 10 Relationship Bloggers, and is a relationship blogger for the BlogHer network. She lives in Lockhart, Texas with her husband, also a former chump.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 7

Welcome to Chump Nation 9

1 Rejection is not Your Superpower 13

2 Rookie Mistakes of the Recently Chumped 24

3 A Shrinks, Forums, and Other Lifelines-How to Find Support 38

4 Cheaters-The Way they do the Things They Do 54

5 Stupid Shit Cheaters Say-and How to Respond 66

6 Reconciliation-Am I A Unicorn? 85

7 Real Remorse Versus Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse 97

8 Chumps, Why Are You Stuck? 106

9 Common Chump Fears and How to Disarm Them 119

10 Obsessing About the Affair Partner? Don't 133

11 The Fine Art of No Contact 144

12 What Was Real? Does It Matter? 157

13 Getting to Meh 166

14 I Didn't Kill You, So Consider Yourself Forgiven 176

15 When Your Friends and Relations Just Want to be Switzerland 185

16 Divorce Shame and Telling People 198

17 The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fuckwit 208

18 Gaining a Life 226

Glossary 238